Asking someone where they are from

Reading the transcript it seems like two socially inept people trying to converse. LSH should have figured out a better way of wording her question after failing to get the answer to her question multiple times in a row.

NF should have picked up on what she was really trying to ask early on and should have just given her a full answer. Maybe nerves were at play and she just choked.


Nitefly said:
It sounds like she answered the question quite early on?

“I don’t know.”

To keep pressing is pretty rude.
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I find it hard to believe that her first name is Ngozi but she doesn't which part of Africa she is from.
 
Chuk_Chuk said:
I find it hard to believe that her first name is Ngozi but she doesn't which part of Africa she is from.
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I know indians named Gary. I know Surinamese named David. I know Chinese named Donald. First names aren't some QR code.
 
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NVP said:
I know indians named Gary. I know Surinamese named David. I know Chinese named Donald. First names aren't some QR code.
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Those are incredibly common english (more in reference to the language rather than the nationality) names. That can be tied to characters or figures on TV.

Ngozi isn't some generic "African name" AFAIK. It is from the Igbo tribe in Nigeria. Considering her age, it is highly unlikely her name was picked at random.
 
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For a start, you ask "What's your heritage?". But then why ask? Why does it matter? I would only ask someone that after talking with them for some time and was interested in their background/story or thought it would have some relevance to what's already been discussed.

To go in with that as the opener, what?

And has been said, if the answer is "I don't know" you clearly stop asking, and maybe even give some condolences, not get frustrated. Very odd, and right to have resigned.
 
Chuk_Chuk said:
Those are incredibly common english (more in reference to the language rather than the nationality) names.

Ngozi isn't some generic "African name" AFAIK. It is from the Igbo tribe in Nigeria.
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They were simply personal anglicised examples as I am in England.

Names don't have to be common for them to be used elsewhere, look at hollywood kids. Or perhaps she was raised by Nigerians, don't know.

I understand you're pointing out the rarity, but if she say's she don't know then... she don't know.
 
NVP said:
They were simply personal anglicised examples as I am in England.

Names don't have to be common for them to be used elsewhere, look at hollywood kids. Or perhaps she was raised by Nigerians, don't know.

I understand you're pointing out the rarity, but if she say's she don't know then... she don't know.
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You are right a name doesn't have to be common to be used elsewhere but for rare names it is highly unlikely that parents pick them unless it means something special to them and I find it hard to believe that in such instance they wouldn't explain it to the child in question.


Hollywood kids aren't a good example because their names are picked for attention.
 
Tony Edwards said:
Yes should have started with what country are you from. That makes things a lot clearer from the start.
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The late Queen's lady in waiting should have just ignored her had she any current street nous, to me the colourfully presented woman would have radiated trouble in the making. IMHO when someone's family has been here since the so called Windrush times, but still dresses and coiffures like a native African, I'd give `em a wide berth should i be employed in a "sensitive" position, or care how the media might slant me should they choose to be "distressed".
 
This woman's error doesn't make her a bad person as the media implies. It would be like saying, Harold shipman was actually a good egg because on one occasion he helped someone cross the road.
 
Radio4 pm bbc lead on this with Davis putting words in the mouth of black witness about palace racism - ironically later on, had an 'unrelated' article on domestic abuse - they're still sore about Bashir.
channel 4 similarly, but if you saw their interview Monday with coloured director remaking Othello (accentuating racism & mysogony) that's c4 remit.


Rroff said:
If you read her stuff on social media/website she is certainly capable of being eloquent and fairly knowledgable about her heritage
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eloquent - generally, not always, she knew what she was doing at the palace (don't do other social media flavours)

Auntie Jean African Market Sunday Sistah Space 12th May 2019(1)​

 
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The Gruaniad said:
Buckingham Palace described the remarks as “unacceptable and deeply regrettable”.
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GD smooth brains: "How do I reconcile my racial intolerance of those brown folks while also upholding our sovereignty and the Royal Family themselves (god bless 'em, everyone)"

e: does anyone ever understand anything jpaul types? I can't parse any of his comments, they're like they're written by a self-learning AI just starting out.
 
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As a brown person, I would prefer for someone to ask me what is my heritage inatead of where I am from. The latter could mean so many things and I could give many answers given the context. Wity heritage, it's clear what they want to know and I'd love to tell them.
 
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