Asking the father

SonniLombardi · 14 Jul 2015 at 17:52

What about homosexuals? do they ask too?

Efour · 14 Jul 2015 at 17:57

SonniLombardi said:
What about homosexuals? do they ask too?

ask your dad?

arknor · 14 Jul 2015 at 17:57

Chris Wilson said:
Finding a girl of marriageable age these days who knows who her father actually is must be somewhat of a challenge

They ain't saving themselves for the wedding night either

SonniLombardi said:
What about homosexuals? do they ask too?

arc@css · 14 Jul 2015 at 18:02

SonniLombardi · 14 Jul 2015 at 18:13

Efour said:
ask your dad?

That'll be extremely difficult...

** No thanks **

arknor said:

HazardO · 14 Jul 2015 at 18:24

[GD] Ask her father to marry you, then poo through your now ex-girlfriend's letterbox while muttering that your father told you it's good for getting rid of queen wasps [/GD]

Good luck!

RetiredGreyFox · 14 Jul 2015 at 20:58

It's a shame that all these future weddings won't be involving the Father giving the daughter away.
I suppose there's no need for it these days though.

iamdjdz · 14 Jul 2015 at 21:06

I asked my wife's dad if I could marry his daughter and he said, 'which one?' Along with telling me it's not up to me who I lie with. Haha he's an awkward one but we get on quite well.

FlamBango · 14 Jul 2015 at 21:12

I'll be doing this in August, in Chinese since he doesnt speak english, at the moment i dont speak chinese either! If he doesnt chase me down the road waving a cleaver then i will assume a yes.

BigJon · 14 Jul 2015 at 21:13

I think it really depends on the family, I didn't ask, I was considering it, but wimped out.

A couple of years later I mentioned it, and he said that he would have been really insulted if I had asked, she wasn't his to give away. I don't think it affected our relationship, like others we get on great, son he never had etc. I think they were just pleased she was happy.

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Dimi · 14 Jul 2015 at 21:20

I think the decent thing to do would be to have a dinner with the girls mother and father and tell them about your intentions.

A nice gesture, what's the big fuss about it?

Zefan · 14 Jul 2015 at 21:59

Dimi said:
I think the decent thing to do would be to have a dinner with the girls mother and father and tell them about your intentions.

A nice gesture, what's the big fuss about it?

The fact that it's a tradition makes people feel like if they don't, they are somehow inferior. That's what the whole thread is about; OP feels like it is expected of him, even though he doesn't want to.

MikeTheNative · 14 Jul 2015 at 22:01

I asked the gf and she said definitely. Which seems like the most obvious thing to do in this situation.

Freefaller · 14 Jul 2015 at 22:01

He's daft. If he doesn't want to do it, don't do it. Only he knows what her parents would think is nice/appreciated.

Does it do any harm to do it? Of course not. It's a bit of a ridiculous thread - then it is GD.

Xordium · 14 Jul 2015 at 22:02

Dimple said:
Some of you are acting as though the daughter as just walked through the door with a bloke you've never met.
Most couples have been together years and know their prospective In Laws very well, I go drinking with my future Son In Laws.
I want to see the embarrassment on their faces when they ask me.

Why would I want to embarrass him? :confused:

RetiredGreyFox · 14 Jul 2015 at 22:14

Xordium said:
Why would I want to embarrass him?

Get as grip, you're normally a sensible bloke.
Like me you will probably know the lad for years and have a good rapport with him already.
Or do you honestly think your daughter will just spring a bloke on you who owns some cows?
I have to wonder what type of relationship you have with them to be so straight.

arknor · 15 Jul 2015 at 04:29

Zefan said:
The fact that it's a tradition makes people feel like if they don't, they are somehow inferior. That's what the whole thread is about; OP feels like it is expected of him, even though he doesn't want to.

but why pick and choose with tradition ? why not have a single band wedding? double band is only because of modern American influence.

They even tried to brainwash people into thinking both man and woman need an engagement ring AFAIK around the 1920s. but thankfully there advertising failed

Tefal · 15 Jul 2015 at 06:37

Zefan said:
The fact that it's a tradition makes people feel like if they don't, they are somehow inferior. That's what the whole thread is about; OP feels like it is expected of him, even though he doesn't want to.

i dunno it might just be a nice thing the father had been looking forward to along with walking his daughter down the isle one day.

not everything is a bloody power struggle.

Tefal · 15 Jul 2015 at 06:38

Xordium said:
Why would I want to embarrass him?

so you know for absolute certain all those time you saw him with the same expression when you crossed each other on the landing he had indeed been filling your daughter in the night before.

RetiredGreyFox · 15 Jul 2015 at 07:41

Tefal said:
so you know for absolute certain all those time you saw him with the same expression when you crossed each other on the landing he had indeed been filling your daughter in the night before.

EXACTLY, he's acting like he won't know who his future Son In Law will be.
He should already have had 'Those Moments' with his daughters other half.
Recently, in the middle of the night, I walked into a dark bathroom in the nude, walked to the toilet as I do at least 5 times in the night and nearly bummed him

At the weekend I walked onto the landing, in the nude, he's standing there and just says 'I see the boys are on show'

Some of you need to get a grip, you will probably all be expecting the Brides Father to walk her down the aisle and to GIVE HER AWAY.
My Sisters boyfriend had been living with her for 15 years and I'd be giving her away so he asked me if he could marry her.