You seem to be implying a lack of something (in this case a belief) is an explicit position. You can reject the assertion that a god exists without stating explicitly that one doesn't exist.
Can you though, as you have to know the other sides story in the first place to form an opinion on it regardless. You are automatically sucked into the debate as soon as you hear about it. I don't care if people believe and pray to god, or if they don't. That makes me an atheist as I don't believe in god, but I also don't believe in "the cause of atheism" to try and "teach" religious people to convert out of their core belief system.
If it makes someone happy and gives them solace, who the hell cares? Also, if this guys wife is a teacher and hes in insurance, they'll surely have enough cash to fund this themselves anyway, which brings me back to "its just begging".