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It went fine thanks. It was via video call on my PC.
It has been good to read all the posts!
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It has been good to read all the posts!
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but do you just have whats basically a report/statement the same as I got or did you have proper tests/charts etc like my ex in another country?It went fine thanks. It was via video call on my PC.
It has been good to read all the posts!
Diagnosis via Video call seems weird they don't see all your body language and emotions/lack off in a call surely? your not worried about mis diagnosis or pretty much already knew you were autistic and just wanted confirmation? which is pretty much how I felt.
everything I read about autism made sense of my life basically, so it was kinda confirmed for me at that point.
was still a shock when they said it though
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I have to wait 4-6 weeks for a report, but I am not quite sure what format that will take.
Personally I would have preferred a real face to face assessment, but this is what I was offered at short notice. I'd been waiting >18 months and was lucky enough to be offered an appointment due to a cancellation.
I really was looking for confirmation. I had strong confidence that I had it.
Good on you.
Sorry to hear that you struggled with the work from home situation.
I have always wondered if I am a little bit dyslexic, but never did any tests due to the stigma associated with it..I never wanted it to affect any chance of employment etc. These days, we are a bit more accepting.
Sorry to hear that you struggled with the work from home situation.
I have always wondered if I am a little bit dyslexic, but never did any tests due to the stigma associated with it..I never wanted it to affect any chance of employment etc. These days, we are a bit more accepting.
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Have you ever looked back to your younger years where things just seem to switch tone all of a sudden when girl started to be involved at you just couldn't change your mode?
Everybody IS on the spectrum.
Think of the spectrum as being a scale of 1 to 100, with 1-50 being severe autism, 50-75 being high functioning autism/aspergers, 75+ everybody else. This wasnt properly understood in the past.
Almost everybody we know has things about their personality or actions that we just cant get our own heads around why they behave like that, this is a good example of us all falling at different points on the scale.
Having a child with aspergers, simply from your post there I am suspecting you are maybe a 76, reason being that you start with saying you dont intend to be mean but then go on to use the phrase 'bergers.
Should you ever get to know anybody with a diagnosis, you may well end up questioning yourself. Both me and my wife have with ourselves.
During the last lockdown my wife made the decision to get herself assessed, we went through the NHS and the process only took about 4 months.
First stop was the GP for the referral, who actually made her feel very small and commented that she probably didn't have anything, then video conference before an actual in person session before being diagnosed with Autism.
She has long since suspected that the way she thinks and behaves isn't "normal". She finds it hard to read emotions, takes sarcasm very literally, avoids eye contact, really dislikes social situations unless it is with friends she has known a very long time. I am very happy she has done this because she now feels a form of vindication that she isn't going crazy.
First stop was the GP for the referral, who actually made her feel very small and commented that she probably didn't have anything, then video conference before an actual in person session before being diagnosed with Autism.
She has long since suspected that the way she thinks and behaves isn't "normal". She finds it hard to read emotions, takes sarcasm very literally, avoids eye contact, really dislikes social situations unless it is with friends she has known a very long time. I am very happy she has done this because she now feels a form of vindication that she isn't going crazy.
See it's just all too simple and convenient for me.
I could reel off a list of symptoms - by the way I also avoid eye contact (it' burns!) and hate social situations - that would probably get me a diagnosis in 5 seconds flat.
But I don't want a syndrome to put on my CV. I've seen people get diagnosed and then that's it, having an explanation and using it as reason to just accept the way things are.
I would prefer to have the belief and the hope that the various issues I exhibit are under my own control, and I can fix them when I get around to it
I don't want a diagnosis, especially for something that has no damn cure!What I take issue with is the sheer number of people now with this diagnosis. It suggests that something is very terribly wrong with our environment if everybody now has mental health issues aplenty.
It's only around 1% of the population who are diagnosed with autism but the true figure could be quite a bit higher.
There are a lot of people who self-diagnose it though based on the main traits to do with socialising, as with many other mental health conditions.
I had a friend who was convinced he had it and went through the NHS and then private to try and get a diagnosis, in the end, he just had severe social anxiety from childhood trauma.
There are a lot of people who self-diagnose it though based on the main traits to do with socialising, as with many other mental health conditions.
I had a friend who was convinced he had it and went through the NHS and then private to try and get a diagnosis, in the end, he just had severe social anxiety from childhood trauma.
Well I've been socially avoidant (to the extreme) since my earliest memories (of primary school). Don't recall any trauma (until I found GD, that is
) Oddly, I can't account for it at all. I have no explanation. I've always feared social contact and expected the worst from every social encounter.But I'll bet I could get a diagnosis effortlessly. However, doing that just doesn't interest me. I'd actually prefer not to have that label and the attached stigma.
I think you would be surprised at what the assessment involves unless you're pretty convinced you have it and just don't want the label.
There's a lot more to getting a diagnosis than just having issues with socialising. I can see why people don't want to know though as I explained earlier in the thread, it ruins them as without a cure, all you've got is some masking techniques to try and cope. There's some promising research with certain drugs but it's in the very early stages.
There's a lot more to getting a diagnosis than just having issues with socialising. I can see why people don't want to know though as I explained earlier in the thread, it ruins them as without a cure, all you've got is some masking techniques to try and cope. There's some promising research with certain drugs but it's in the very early stages.
Well I've been socially avoidant (to the extreme) since my earliest memories (of primary school). Don't recall any trauma (until I found GD, that is
But I'll bet I could get a diagnosis effortlessly. However, doing that just doesn't interest me. I'd actually prefer not to have that label and the attached stigma.
It's a common misconception that autism = a dislike socialising, and vice versa.
The reality is that socialising for an autistic person is taxing in a way that is probably hard to comprehend if you don't have to deal with it. I still like being around people, but it's hard work, and when the batteries run out...just nope. Need to not talk or be around people and noise.
I can't filter out conversations, if I'm in a busy room with lots of people talking, then I'm processing all the conversations at the same time.....bloody tiring.
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But this makes it sound like you think it's a test you have to try and pass to get a diagnosis, as if people make an effort to be autistic? It sounds like you don't want the label because you are the labelling type TBH. I'm glad you'd find it so easy though.
people just got missed in the past because people didn't know what to look for it's not just because "more people have it now"
anyone around 40+ that has autism likely would have been diagnosed as a child these days.
teachers and schools had no clue in the 90s
Anthony hopkins was diagnosed in 2014 btw, just because people seek a diagnosis doesn't mean they are looking for an excuse
See it's just all too simple and convenient for me.
I could reel off a list of symptoms - by the way I also avoid eye contact (it' burns!) and hate social situations - that would probably get me a diagnosis in 5 seconds flat.
But I don't want a syndrome to put on my CV. I've seen people get diagnosed and then that's it, having an explanation and using it as reason to just accept the way things are.
I would prefer to have the belief and the hope that the various issues I exhibit are under my own control, and I can fix them when I get around to it
What I take issue with is the sheer number of people now with this diagnosis. It suggests that something is very terribly wrong with our environment if everybody now has mental health issues aplenty.
Without being too harsh, you are being extremely ignorant to how others feel and pushing your own perceptions on how others should feel and act based on your own notions.
It might sound simple, but that was me, simplifying it. You didn't see the hours worth of chats and work with 2 different medical professionals.
Also why on earth would you put a medical diagnosis on a CV? That alone discloses how you view mental health.
It was an expression, not to be taken literally. Generally speaking, people with Asperger's (etc) do readily tell others about their diagnosis. Like in this thread and many others.
Also, you have no idea how I view mental health issues. I'm just not the dancing-on-glass type, so I tend to offend people without going out of my way to do so.
Quite an insightful view on an aspect of mental health. Assuming diagnosis are being handed out like sweets. Which again points to how you view mental health. Assuming everyone wants some form of badge or accolade.
No its not really an expression, it is just you trying to big up some form of controversal opinion. You might not be a dancing on glass type, but your views can still be called out as sensationalist and stupid that is looking for a rise out of people.
I'm not sure how that's a misconception when everyone I've ever heard tell me they've got it, also talk about how socially isolated they are, and how they don't/can't socialise with others.
But I didn't say "dislike socialising" anyhow. What I said was (in response to the other chap) "I've always feared social contact and expected the worst from every social encounter."
Fear and paranoia. Not dislike, just utterly terrified of social situations. Also finding anything to say is about the most difficult thing there is. Conversation is not "natural", it's 100% forced. Every. Single. Time. Forced because I find conversation utterly alien and incredibly stressful. Face-to-face, that is. I can type crap to you lot all day; mostly because there's nothing riding on it.
Most social situations IRL have something riding on them, and that pressure is debilitating.