because that happens that easy.
if it was that easy, no one would care about being dumped.
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because that happens that easy.
if it was that easy, no one would care about being dumped.
Um, that *is* a / her way of saying things are finished and she doesn't want any more contact.
....and there's the rub. The fastest and best way to get over someone is to completely PURGE them from your life. Any photo's you want to keep, chuck 'em in the loft. Delete everything on the computer, move house if its rented.
Don't keep sending her messages, delete all her numbers and message history so you can't even if you want to. You'll only be letting yourself down if you get all freaky over this.
You'll be fine. And in just 3-4 weeks from now, you'll be further along than you can imagine right now...
Good tips. I think there's been a part of me that *hoped* this wasn't the end, that we could work on things etc etc, but you're right - I've been ignoring reality. Any responses that she does give are simply polite ones and she's not initiating anything. Its been hard going from talking every day to zero, but I guess I have to move on.
Sort of a similar situation with me. I moved down to the SW as I couldn't find a job in Yorkshire (which is where we used to live). She was going to join me but couldn't get a job in the SW, then she got a hugely well paid job in Sheffield which means she'll be there for at least the next few years. Which would have meant that I'd have to move up there though I have doubts about whether my long term future is up North but I suppose I haven't been completely convinced by the relationship or her either, though its been difficult to know whether its me being overly hesitant / pessimistic about our future / life plans.
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My ex-girlfriend dumped me in March, seemingly out of the blue. It took it pretty badly given that I was still really 'in to' her at the time (I pretty much still love her now). I know exactly what you mean that it's hard to adjust to not having someone in your life. However that can be a positive thing; since the split I've done lots of cool stuff that I wouldn't have done otherwise. Generally I'm absolutely fine now. I'm sure the same will be true of you before long.
The ignoring routine is part of a woman's modus operandi. It's how they deal with this kind of thing, annoying and hurtful as it is.
The ignoring routine is part of a woman's modus operandi. It's how they deal with this kind of thing, annoying and hurtful as it is.
If it helps im in the same boat. Very much love her and seen her for first time in a few weeks the other day and it was awful.
onwards and upwards though, ive got a great set of mates even some ive made in work more recently that I never really made while I was with her. And ive just joined a gym to get some pounds off me (£43 lol)
we will get through it.
onwards and upwards though, ive got a great set of mates even some ive made in work more recently that I never really made while I was with her. And ive just joined a gym to get some pounds off me (£43 lol)
we will get through it.
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Definitely this.
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I've been dumped - quick to the Internets!
Seriously man up!
Ok now that's out of the way. Look at this in a positive slant. You are now single, spend a bit of time doing man things (like blowing **** up, leaving the toilet seat up or having a V8 in the living room), go out and nail some pussy with no strings attached. In fact go and have sex with women that are normally not your type. Have fun.
Then in a year or so you can start dating again.
Then when it goes wrong you can post on the Internets again!
Seriously man up!
Ok now that's out of the way. Look at this in a positive slant. You are now single, spend a bit of time doing man things (like blowing **** up, leaving the toilet seat up or having a V8 in the living room), go out and nail some pussy with no strings attached. In fact go and have sex with women that are normally not your type. Have fun.
Then in a year or so you can start dating again.
Then when it goes wrong you can post on the Internets again!
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That was funny once when it came out of the blue.
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And why do women do that won't answer the phone or respond to messages thing, instead of just saying things are finished and that they don't want any more contact?
Gutted, feeling low, and full of mixed emotions
Stop trying to contact her and respect her decision, if its meant to be its meant to be, but you wont get back with her by badgering her.
No contact means no contact, dont talk to her for at least a month, once she sees you are moving on she may well reconsider, but by that time, you might have realised that she is not the one for you anyway.
I know I just wanted to re-live it, remembered it the other day and burst out laughing again. My hero
Agreed but don't forget to wear a wetsuit
Ewww, surely a drysuit would be a better word to use, have you ever worn a wetsuit? It's called 'wet' for a reason.
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Use your new found free time to get down the gym and become big, ripped and strong.
Not only will it eat your time up, but it will build your confidence, and make your ex feel like a fat bloater when she next sees you.
Don't wallow, use this as motivation to better yourself.
Not only will it eat your time up, but it will build your confidence, and make your ex feel like a fat bloater when she next sees you.
Don't wallow, use this as motivation to better yourself.