Been dumped :-(

eggcup said:
its very hard at first but you will soon learn that you never needed her in the first place and will be living it up with some other bird sooner or later. you will get there in the end buddy
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This. Long-term relationships make people forget that they have spent the majority of their life single, and in no way NEED someone else to be content with life.

If things weren't going well for a long time, then what you feel now isn't so much missing her as it is missing having someone.

In time you will meet someone new and possibly better suited to who you are.
 
"A woman drove me to drink and I never had the courtesy to thank her"
Just get drunk, it's the first stage of the healing processd, you get drunk with some mates, then you consider suicide, then you decide to live life harder than before, because it's worth living. And eventually you forget about her and move on.

It sucks but it makes you stronger in a way.
 
It's happened, get over it.

Do NOT keep trying to get in touch, ignore her. Get on with life.

Women don't like being ignored, if she sees that you are not letting it affect you and aren't dependent upon her then shel'll probably come running right back.
 
Does she have a sister? Smash her pasty in, knock the back door off its hinges, take her up the Oxo Tower etc etc.

Now that's out of the way, and as said above, time and no contact are your two best friends here. Hang out with your mates and drink far more than is good for you, maybe even dip the winky in some new minky, but above all have some fun and try not to think about her. Eventually this 'trying' becomes less and less and a more natural disinterest will kick in because no matter how much you don't believe it right now and no matter how different you feel your situation is to the millions of other people who have been dumped, you will get over this.

And the best bit is that it doesn't really matter whether you believe this or not. Because it will happen anyway. Now, isn't that a pretty good process? :)
 
I got dumped after the happiest two and a half years of my life last week. It still hurts, but were gonna stay friends, and for me its easier to stay in contact, even though she doesn't think so (How she knows whats best for me, I don't know). I still love her and I always will. My life feels empty, and I don't really feel like doing anything.....
 
Skiddley said:
The number of times I've thought 'I'll always love her'....until about 6 months later when you're shagging some much fitter girl :p
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Agreed, and 'staying friends' is all good when you reckon you'll get her back but when shes shagging someone else im pretty sure you wont feel so good. Cut contact for 6months and move on, its far from the end of the world, concentrate on your own life
 
Shicky said:
Agreed, and 'staying friends' is all good when you reckon you'll get her back but when shes shagging someone else im pretty sure you wont feel so good. Cut contact for 6months and move on, its far from the end of the world, concentrate on your own life
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Yeah, but its different, her reason for leaving was she's too young & doesn't want to be in a relationship, Its not that she didn't want to be with me, it's that she didn't want to be with anyone. And I know it's easy to say move on, but its not as easy to do.....

PS sorry for stealing the thread
 
Tonyator said:
Yeah, but its different, her reason for leaving was she's too young & doesn't want to be in a relationship, Its not that she didn't want to be with me, it's that she didn't want to be with anyone. And I know it's easy to say move on, but its not as easy to do.....

PS sorry for stealing the thread
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Probably peer pressure from friends mate ;)

I know I was a **** when single to a few mates :p... your either a) too jealous so convince them that it's better being single, or b) you just take up as much of their time as possible :o
 
Tonyator said:
Yeah, but its different, her reason for leaving was she's too young & doesn't want to be in a relationship, Its not that she didn't want to be with me, it's that she didn't want to be with anyone. And I know it's easy to say move on, but its not as easy to do.....

PS sorry for stealing the thread
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She's got you on a hook mate, take a step back and re-read what you've just typed!!
 
nokinidea said:
You'll be surprised how "free" you feel once you've got over her....
It's great being single.
Go where you want, do what you want, when you want to do it.
Be impulsive, be lazy, be a ****, get drunk and come home at 5 in the morning...


NO ARGUMENTS \o/ WIN
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I'm in a relationship and have been for a while now and I could probably get away with all of those bar the being a **** part. ;)
 
Tonyator said:
Yeah, but its different, her reason for leaving was she's too young & doesn't want to be in a relationship, Its not that she didn't want to be with me, it's that she didn't want to be with anyone. And I know it's easy to say move on, but its not as easy to do.....

PS sorry for stealing the thread
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Thats what she says, she wants to be single so she doesnt have to feel all serious and grown up. She wants to get wrecked with her friends and see what happens. She doesn't want you, that much is clear. And yes it isn't easy but it can be done, otherwise tonnes of us here wudnt have got through it.

Go out with your mates and have fun, lifes too short to be a depressed mess, its boring.
 
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