Boy thread (is that allowed?)!

MookJong · 18 Aug 2006 at 08:09

A - except just say do you want to go for a drink sometime. Rather than OMGZZZ I FANCI U SOOOO MUCH!!!

or

B - Except don't be too subtle for too long or he might just get confused

Spacky · 18 Aug 2006 at 08:09

B then A.

LeftfieldTilt · 18 Aug 2006 at 08:24

A, but do it over a beer or three in a bar you usually dont frequent (dont get steaming drunk). Sounds like he digs you but isnt sure how you feel about him.

It actually pretty cool when a woman makes the 1st move once in a while.

Good Luck!

z0mbi3 · 18 Aug 2006 at 08:39

M0T said:
And then fight over you in some kind of jelly or mud bath?

Genius.

OP: B but don't be too fast. It's not like waiting a while before the next serious relationship would kill you.

Jest3r · 18 Aug 2006 at 10:30

Zinath said:
B for me.

Although if you take it too slowly he could end up with someone else. :s

as above,

i'd prefer the B option, but the problem is, what happens if he's not sure, and makes a move on someone else?

Dinomania · 18 Aug 2006 at 10:34

Well, he's been single for at least a year (as long as I've known him) and doesn't appear to be in any rush, so for the moment I'm not worrying about that...

Ukadder · 18 Aug 2006 at 10:40

Next time your drunk together make a move on him, if he freaks out then just blame it on the beer the next day and laught it off, if he does not freak out then see where it goes.

Edit: This is exactly how me and a late GF got together after being friends for 4-5months at uni.

v2^ · 18 Aug 2006 at 11:07

>> B <<

aardvark · 18 Aug 2006 at 11:07

HangTime said:
A is better as far as I'm concerned. Here is a little snippet of wisdom for you:

Women aren't like men. Women are not expected to do the chasing (even though some do), and if they hang around long enough, a decent bloke will ask them out. So even if a woman is shy, she can still get a date without too much trouble.

Now consider men. If you have a shy bloke, he will probably miss out on several opportunities because he never takes a risk, takes the plunge and approaches/asks out a girl he likes, even if she likes him, unless he is certain he will receive a favourable response.

So how does this apply in the current situation? Well, if this chap is shy, he may not get the hints and prompting from method B. You could be waiting forever, and meanwhile some ballsy girl approaches him in a more direct manner - he is flattered, craves the attention and may strike up a relationship with the girl - even if he fancies you more.

The above is, of course, a load of ******** I largely made up on the spot. But I know that personally I find it a big turn on to have a girl chasing me. It's unlikely I would have got with my current gf of 15 months had she not made the first move and made it blatantly obvious she was interested - I'd had my eye on her for a while but I'm not the type of guy to take a chance until I'm certain she likes me too.

completely agree with this - you need to be more bold than B - you might think its obvious but he probably won't.

z0mbi3 · 18 Aug 2006 at 11:55

HangTime said:
A is better as far as I'm concerned. Here is a little snippet of wisdom for you:

Women aren't like men. Women are not expected to do the chasing (even though some do), and if they hang around long enough, a decent bloke will ask them out. So even if a woman is shy, she can still get a date without too much trouble.

Now consider men. If you have a shy bloke, he will probably miss out on several opportunities because he never takes a risk, takes the plunge and approaches/asks out a girl he likes, even if she likes him, unless he is certain he will receive a favourable response.

So how does this apply in the current situation? Well, if this chap is shy, he may not get the hints and prompting from method B. You could be waiting forever, and meanwhile some ballsy girl approaches him in a more direct manner - he is flattered, craves the attention and may strike up a relationship with the girl - even if he fancies you more.

The above is, of course, a load of ******** I largely made up on the spot. But I know that personally I find it a big turn on to have a girl chasing me. It's unlikely I would have got with my current gf of 15 months had she not made the first move and made it blatantly obvious she was interested - I'd had my eye on her for a while but I'm not the type of guy to take a chance until I'm certain she likes me too.

Too many if's tbh.

sphen · 18 Aug 2006 at 12:04

Spend some time getting to know a bit more about him, then make a decision. If he is anything like me, it will have to be A because he won't understand B. Others prefer the game and so B. Without knowing him, it is difficult to say.

Dinomania · 18 Aug 2006 at 12:09

I'm fairly confident that whatever way I do it - if he's open to me, it'll go fine. It's really interesting seeing all the preferences though!

trojan698 · 18 Aug 2006 at 13:26

B, lead him on a bit.

Haggisman · 18 Aug 2006 at 14:16

tbh I don't really think anyone can give you the "right" answer without knowing the guy and his personality...

Although I would say A), since playing mind games is a waste of time, and subtle hints...well...I think most guys tend to miss them, or they'll be there thinking "did she mean more by saying/doing that?" and it will start to confuse/annoy (well, if I am anything to go by!)

I know however, that if there was a girl liked me, I would much prefer A)

I guess it all depends if you are serious about a serious relationship, or just want to "play the game" ^^

Disclaimer:I'm not saying either way is good or bad, horses for courses n all that =P

Burly · 18 Aug 2006 at 14:33

B without a doubt. You can stop if you are getting the wrong signals.

locutus12 · 18 Aug 2006 at 14:38

B) Slowly but surely increasing my time around you, making the odd innuendo, getting close on the sofa when watching telly, getting to know you more and you me more... Until it gets to the point where a flirty comment or hug just tips it over the edge and it turns into kissing.

that way doesnt often work too well... i fancied my best friend for 5 years and behaved just like that through out, then 18 months ago we ended up sleeping together on 4 seperate occasions and now i havent seen him for 6 months

bloody "straight" boys that cant make up their minds, grrrr.

Sparky__H · 18 Aug 2006 at 14:57

locutus12 said:
B) Slowly but surely increasing my time around you, making the odd innuendo, getting close on the sofa when watching telly, getting to know you more and you me more... Until it gets to the point where a flirty comment or hug just tips it over the edge and it turns into kissing.

that way doesnt often work too well... i fancied my best friend for 5 years and behaved just like that through out, then 18 months ago we ended up sleeping together on 4 seperate occasions and now i havent seen him for 6 months bloody "straight" boys that cant make up their minds, grrrr.

The poor boys probably seriously confused and in denial about what happened.

locutus12 · 18 Aug 2006 at 15:55

Sparky__H said:
The poor boys probably seriously confused and in denial about what happened.

quite possibly... but just to note here, he jumped on me, not vice versa, i was of the opinion he wasnt interested, hence nothing happening for 5 years, i never pushed it, i was just happy to be a close friend.

Gaygle · 18 Aug 2006 at 16:05

A = High risk, but could be quick.

B = Slower, much less risk if he rejects and he deffo will realise if you're being a bit "nicer" to him.

I say B because you can enjoy the chase and probably still get the result. Also, if it doesn't go your way, you can back out and still save your dignity.

Good things come to those who wait.

LoadsaMoney · 18 Aug 2006 at 16:08

Kell_ee001 said:
I just want a massage

Ill give you one, then a massage if you still want one.