Poll: Cheated on?
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Some of these stories poses another question. Do you find that there is always one person in the relationship more involved than the other? And I'd assume that it's usually the instigator, the person who went up to the other person and started what would form a relationship further down the line. How many people who have been cheated on here, would classify themselves as the one who kickstarted their relationship and as such had more invested in it?
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was cheated on numerous times ( over 5 ) by an ex gf, but i found out about all 5 occasions at the same time.
The girl im with now would never do it though. i know that.
tell you what though, when you have been cheated on... it doesnt half make you get very angry when your friends brag about cheating on their girlfriends or boy friends. i hate it!
Rb
The girl im with now would never do it though. i know that.
tell you what though, when you have been cheated on... it doesnt half make you get very angry when your friends brag about cheating on their girlfriends or boy friends. i hate it!
Rb
SunaseIPs said:KaHn said:
It's more of a
tbh. Nothing more frustraighting!To my knowledge of my myself and my friends I only know of one person who has cheated on someone else (post 16-17 yo) and that was a girl. She also had a proper affair with a 30 year old bloke (who had a long term girlfriend) which lasted about 6 months (she was 19).
I also had a relationship with the above girl and she was close to cheating on me a couple of times, but never actually did.
So it seems once a cheater always a cheater...
Cheated and been cheated on.
I think nearly everyone will get cheated on at some point in their life, and once you have, next time round youll have your feet on the ground. It just makes you a stronger person, and in the end youll be thankful for it! As fubar as that sounds, its just one of them life experience things that opens your eyes.
Ive been with my current girlfriend for 3 years now and when we first started going out we would have crazy arguments! "IM GONNA @!!!!@! CHEAT ON YOU!!!! YOU @!@!!!@@ !@!@!" (except i was the one able to get into clubs
) 2 1/2 years on, we are a lot more chilled down now, its pretty much a standard thing when youre <17/18. I dont think id cheat now and i would never cheat in marriage! 
I think nearly everyone will get cheated on at some point in their life, and once you have, next time round youll have your feet on the ground. It just makes you a stronger person, and in the end youll be thankful for it! As fubar as that sounds, its just one of them life experience things that opens your eyes.
Ive been with my current girlfriend for 3 years now and when we first started going out we would have crazy arguments! "IM GONNA @!!!!@! CHEAT ON YOU!!!! YOU @!@!!!@@ !@!@!" (except i was the one able to get into clubs
) 2 1/2 years on, we are a lot more chilled down now, its pretty much a standard thing when youre <17/18. I dont think id cheat now and i would never cheat in marriage! 
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i dont think i have 
0Shorty said:Im 20, she was 18. And i would love to punch her in the overies, but shes not even worth that. She went away for a week and it happened whilst away. The way i found even makes me laugh, she had the nerve to use my own laptop on msn (which i log all conversations) and talk to the guy. I knew something was up with her since she got back so i checked the logs.
I was talking about my mates from uni about this but in perticular women cheating on men as apposed to the other way around, and i was surprised to find that they all seemed to think it was much more predomenantly women cheating on men as apposed to the other way around. Thats just why im curious, to see if people feel thats the case.
//edit we had been going out 3 months. She had been practically living with me for a month of that.
LOL
talk about privacy.
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im saying yes as although my ex said she didnt i dont believe her as she lied about a lot of things towards the end. even i defended her amid rumours of her seeing someone else - but then someone i work with seen them together in a pub a week after we 'officially' split (ie she dumped me) and that was it then. i was gutted but life goes on. had difficulty trusting people since though i found...
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One of my previous girlfriends cheated on me several times - however, despite the initial anger, it wasn't too bad considering the relationship had already run its course... It was a fairly amenable split (and we didn't live together which further uncomplicated things).
Over the years, I've had many clear-cut opportunities to cheat on various girlfriends, but have always managed to refrain (despite intoxication). Wasn't there some sort of anthropological suggestion that women have a higher propensity for promiscuousness, due to some instinctual ploy to give their offspring the highest chance of survival? Like the 'best of both worlds' sort of thing - slinking from male to male in order to exploit each of them...
Over the years, I've had many clear-cut opportunities to cheat on various girlfriends, but have always managed to refrain (despite intoxication). Wasn't there some sort of anthropological suggestion that women have a higher propensity for promiscuousness, due to some instinctual ploy to give their offspring the highest chance of survival? Like the 'best of both worlds' sort of thing - slinking from male to male in order to exploit each of them...
KaHn said:
I understand what your saying but let me clarify. First off its my laptop, I have every right to know what it is being used for. I have never, nor ever would, go through anyone elses personal bellongings - phones etc. But at the end of the day, if i hadnt of found them, i wouldnt know what i know now, so does this not prove me right for monitoring what my things are being used for?
Im not trying to sound stuck up or anything, if i was using her laptop or whatever i would fully expect the reverse, her equipment, her rules etc.
I wasn't cheated on exactly, but it felt similar.
My first long term gf broke up with me, only we lived together, and I couldn't move out for 3 months.
After 2 months, NYE, she snogged the guy who is now still her bf. When I found out I was terribly upset, what with her being my first real love and all.
Would have been horrendous if we were still together
My first long term gf broke up with me, only we lived together, and I couldn't move out for 3 months.
After 2 months, NYE, she snogged the guy who is now still her bf. When I found out I was terribly upset, what with her being my first real love and all.
Would have been horrendous if we were still together
KaHn said:
I should also note at this point i have never had any bother with her going through any of my things, yes i fully agree there should be trust in the relationship - i do that blindly. I never questioned what my partner was doing or whateva, if you love someone, you trust them, simple as. What im saying is that surely i should be allowed to monitor what is mine in the first place? Incidentally i dont believe in a big brother state at all, and im against that train of thought in every way.
