Poll: Cheated on?

Cheated on?

  • Yes

    Votes: 243 43.5%

  • No

    Votes: 316 56.5%
  • Total voters
    559
i was cheated on when i was like 16, but i imagine not many relationships are serious around that age, so i wasnt particularly bothered.

but iv also cheated on a girl, although in my defense it was to make her feel better, i wanted to break up with her cos she was boring, but i didnt wanna call her boring to her face...i mean im not nasty.lol so i cheated on her on purpose, said i cheated on you i cant live with myself i think we should split up. worked a treat.
 
elitetrick said:
i was cheated on when i was like 16, but i imagine not many relationships are serious around that age, so i wasnt particularly bothered.

but iv also cheated on a girl, although in my defense it was to make her feel better, i wanted to break up with her cos she was boring, but i didnt wanna call her boring to her face...i mean im not nasty.lol so i cheated on her on purpose, said i cheated on you i cant live with myself i think we should split up. worked a treat.
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You have no backbone whatso ever, get some balls so you can tell the truth to her face.

Burnsy
 
do any of you guys ever wonder if you did something wrong that made it possible for a girl who you never thought would cheat, but might have done, and hence gone to another man in one fashion or another(not necessarily slept with him)?

i have to admit i sometimes do.... and theres one or 2 things i think i did that were selfish and easily avoided... but they never came up at any point and it was just me looking back that made me think about it.

i'd never condone it, but sometimes do you think you helped it along a bit?
 
elitetrick said:
i was cheated on when i was like 16, but i imagine not many relationships are serious around that age, so i wasnt particularly bothered.

but iv also cheated on a girl, although in my defense it was to make her feel better, i wanted to break up with her cos she was boring, but i didnt wanna call her boring to her face...i mean im not nasty.lol so i cheated on her on purpose, said i cheated on you i cant live with myself i think we should split up. worked a treat.
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lol how does that make her feel better about herself??

or did it go like this....

"i slept with another girl behind your back.... to make you feel better she was crap..."
 
helpimcrap said:
lol how does that make her feel better about herself??
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She thinks she finished the relationship becuase he cheated, as opposed to finishing the relationship because she is a crushing bore.
 
riddlermarc said:
A more option would seem to be "did your ex cheat on you with one of her ex boyfriends?".. seems the majority of cheatin' is when the girl grabs at that familiarity scenerio. Happened to me (once or twice I'm not sure and not sure to what extent), with ex partners :(

I'm a good catch - have money, never had cause for complaint in the sack, I know how to treat a woman etc.. I don't think there is a hard and fast rule why it happens :confused:
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great that makes me feel comfortable, :( girl ive started seeing lives with her ex in a uni house.
 
Nix said:
Not been cheating on myself, thankfully. I'm usually quite good at reading people so I'm hoping my instincts won't let me down. Time will tell though.

I honestly can't say if I'd take someone back after they had abused my trust in such a manner. I know your emotions will be all over the place but through principle alone, I don't think I'd give them the time of day. It's good to stay friends with exes, but judging each break-up on their own merits; sometimes it just isn't realistic.

I just can't understand why you'd need to cheat on someone if you loved them? I can understand the yearn for some excitement or change or even revenge but no matter the excuse, it just shows a serious lack of character. Mistakes happen, hell we're only human, but in my mind if you do succumb, you're weak.

It's a sad reality that life isn't as pretty, simple or innocent as you're led to believe when you're eight years old. If more people just did the decent thing, a lot of people would be saved a hell of a lot of unnecessary hurt.

I've learned a few hard lessons in my short time. I imagine I still have many more to learn. I'd like to say I'm trusting of people, but it's hard when you know what people can be like. A cold heart is a good healer, but it's not the way to live.
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I think if I was in love with the girl and she came up to me and confessed (on her own free will) that she had kissed someone the night before I would probably take her back. Only if it was the first time though. Sleeping with someone on the other hand, There's the door...
 
I know more men who have cheated than women. One of my male friends admitted that he is constantly looking for someone better, and that given the chance he would cheat on anyone.

I've never had a guy admit that he has cheated on me, however I've suspected it of a couple. I could probably ask one of them now, but it was years ago, so I don't care any more.
 
Munky1080 said:
my old gf, back in 2002 cheated on me with some dude. well, I found out his phone number, did an adrdress lookup, walked 5 miles to his house and beat him with a metal pipe. I sorta regret it, as I hospitalized him for quite a while...I wish i didn't take it that far...the girl wasn't even worth it, even though I stayed with her for 8 more months after that.
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Don't feel bad man I totally understand why you did that. Did the cops get involved in that?
 
My ex cheated on me with her ex when she moved away to a new job about 100miles away which happened to be near him. Known her for 6 years. What made it hard is that I after I dumped her I found it in my heart to take her back after a few weeks as I've seen her for so long. She had been asking for me back, saying she'd made a mistake, loves me, etc. Two days after I said we can make things work she ended it all via a text (no call!) saying:

"It's not going to work out at the moment as it's long distance. I'm not going to call or speak to you again but will keep your email address and email you if I move back to the area in the future after finishing the training job up here".

Apart from being ******* cheeky it was so hard knowing someone as your best friend basically for 6 years and then one day have them say they're not going to speak to you again as she gets back with her ex. Felt so alone at that point!!
 
[TW]Fox said:
She thinks she finished the relationship becuase he cheated, as opposed to finishing the relationship because she is a crushing bore.
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as opposed to the 'there must be something he doesnt like about me or he wouldnt have cheated... what doesnt he like about me that he likes about her etc etc...'

so in short hes a swine for doing it and probably made her feel worse than initially thought. still, its all part of life.
 
dougguk said:
My ex cheated on me with her ex when she moved away to a new job about 100miles away which happened to be near him. Known her for 6 years. What made it hard is that I after I dumped her I found it in my heart to take her back after a few weeks as I've seen her for so long. She had been asking for me back, saying she'd made a mistake, loves me, etc. Two days after I said we can make things work she ended it all via a text (no call!) saying:

"It's not going to work out at the moment as it's long distance. I'm not going to call or speak to you again but will keep your email address and email you if I move back to the area in the future after finishing the training job up here".

Apart from being ******* cheeky it was so hard knowing someone as your best friend basically for 6 years and then one day have them say they're not going to speak to you again as she gets back with her ex. Felt so alone at that point!!
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that bites the big one, sorry to hear that.

im getting a lot of 'ex' vibes on this forum. are people too trusting or something? i find it weird being friends with exes and hence dont do it. they all hate me anyway i think so thats cool by me. i've always, always been honest though and never cheated. when i have had thoughts of another girl i've made sure i split with one before cracking onto the next one. never cheated on anyone and never will.
 
Somewhat surprised by the results of this thread, didn't figure so many people would know they had been cheated on.

One of my male friends admitted that he is constantly looking for someone better
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I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with that in a young/casual relationship - at the end of the day, if someone finds a new partner who is a better fit than their current one, it's not fair on anyone to continue the chirade of their existing relationship.

However, once a 'better' partner is found, the existing one needs to be finished with sharpish - having two overlapping for a long time is well out of order.
 
Yes, but she admitted it and apologised so we got over it, got on with it, got married, got a kid.

Contrary to what will be bandied about by the alphas, this is what makes me the real man here.
 
vonhelmet said:
Contrary to what will be bandied about by the alphas, this is what makes me the real man here.
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Really? Some people have a hard time getting over the deceit and betrayal that is usually synonymous with infidelity. It's got nothing to do with machismo, quite the opposite, in fact.

I suppose it has a lot to with the individuals involved; the sensibilities of the cheatee and the motives of the cheater.
 
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