That's not needy or desperate in my opinion, it's just stating that you understand what's going on and it shows you've come to terms with it. That, linked with you just getting out there and getting on with your life as opposed to moping around feeling sorry for yourself like most people (including me) tend to do, will either help you win him back by attracting him again, or it'll help you get over him.
Crazy exs.
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That's not needy or desperate in my opinion, it's just stating that you understand what's going on and it shows you've come to terms with it. That, linked with you just getting out there and getting on with your life as opposed to moping around feeling sorry for yourself like most people (including me) tend to do, will either help you win him back by attracting him again, or it'll help you get over him.
Without trying to be blunt, but being blunt..the sex has gone stale, or you're not doing what he wants? Or like all women you're trying to change him into the man you want?
Not at all, as far as I'm concerned it was only getting better.
Never tried to change him, after all I loved him and he was already what I wanted.
The only time I've ever not supported him was when he wanted to sell his car to get a bike, just thought he's really going to regret it. Came to the conclusion that if it's what he wants then he can do it, not my money etc. Although I never got a chance to tell him I'll help how I can as he then dumped me
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Around 6 months back, me and my gf broke up. It was a 9 month relationship, and I'm not gonna say it was a mutual decision, but it nearly was.
She used to annoy me in the sense, she would barley want to see me. For our anniversary, she would much rather go out with her friends then with me. I used to treat her right, give her expensive presents and stuff.
It started when she started going to a private 6th form, and all her friends (and me) went to a different one. She made friends with 3 girls, but one of them was like her best friend. They became T1 nerds, to the extent that she would study 24/7.
Around January (6 months in) we broke up, for the same reason stated in the 2nd paragraph, but she promised she would meet me more etc. In the process, she pretty much lost contact with her old friends too.
As time passed by, she started reducing the number of messages she sent me, she used to never come on msn/skype to speak to me, stuff like that.
One day, when we were going out, she messaged me saying her friend will be there too
and that she will watch the same film that we will 
and that she had to leave very early (not even time to see the whole film). That made me snap, told her i wasn't cmn. I was speaking to her friend, one she lost contact with, on how shes starting to annoy me. This friend sent me a message telling me I should probs tell her.
Well, I wanted to send her back telling her I don't want to tell her, as it will end up us breaking up, and by mistake, I sent it to my ex xD Anyways, through facebook, we started arguing (cause she didn't want to call, faggot) and I told her how her friend changed her, and all those shannenigans. After this whole argument, she told me her friend was right next to her reading everything. I just put of my pc, and when i went back on, she changed her relationship status, yes, she didn't have the decency to tell me outright, and i suspect it was her friend who made her do it.
Anyways, was pretty sad and stuff, was pretty unsure if I wanted her back, leaning to the yes side though, but you know what, 6 months in it, and she TOTALLY changed. Girls she used to critisice and hate are now part of the group she stays with, stuff she didn't dream of doing she now does them 24/7 and even if you pay me, I wouldn't go out with her again.
Pretty **** story anyways. Anything is better than revising
tl;dr You just broke up, so you may think one think. Let a few months pass, you will know if you REALLY want to go out with him again.
EDIT: ****, s tarted typing this mid way through first page. Its not interesting anyways
She used to annoy me in the sense, she would barley want to see me. For our anniversary, she would much rather go out with her friends then with me. I used to treat her right, give her expensive presents and stuff.
It started when she started going to a private 6th form, and all her friends (and me) went to a different one. She made friends with 3 girls, but one of them was like her best friend. They became T1 nerds, to the extent that she would study 24/7.
Around January (6 months in) we broke up, for the same reason stated in the 2nd paragraph, but she promised she would meet me more etc. In the process, she pretty much lost contact with her old friends too.
As time passed by, she started reducing the number of messages she sent me, she used to never come on msn/skype to speak to me, stuff like that.
One day, when we were going out, she messaged me saying her friend will be there too
and that she will watch the same film that we will and that she had to leave very early (not even time to see the whole film). That made me snap, told her i wasn't cmn. I was speaking to her friend, one she lost contact with, on how shes starting to annoy me. This friend sent me a message telling me I should probs tell her.Well, I wanted to send her back telling her I don't want to tell her, as it will end up us breaking up, and by mistake, I sent it to my ex xD Anyways, through facebook, we started arguing (cause she didn't want to call, faggot) and I told her how her friend changed her, and all those shannenigans. After this whole argument, she told me her friend was right next to her reading everything. I just put of my pc, and when i went back on, she changed her relationship status, yes, she didn't have the decency to tell me outright, and i suspect it was her friend who made her do it.
Anyways, was pretty sad and stuff, was pretty unsure if I wanted her back, leaning to the yes side though, but you know what, 6 months in it, and she TOTALLY changed. Girls she used to critisice and hate are now part of the group she stays with, stuff she didn't dream of doing she now does them 24/7 and even if you pay me, I wouldn't go out with her again.
Pretty **** story anyways. Anything is better than revising
tl;dr You just broke up, so you may think one think. Let a few months pass, you will know if you REALLY want to go out with him again.
EDIT: ****, s tarted typing this mid way through first page. Its not interesting anyways
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Very much this. If I didn't want a relationship with you but still found you attractive, I'd use you for sex. Be careful you don't get hurt again.
Nothing wrong with **** buddies, but as long as everyone is on the same page.
If he's the kind of guy to treat you that way, you don't want him back anyway. Leopards don't change their spots.
A clean break is the best way, clear out everything that reminds you of him (if you can't bring yourself to throw things away then put them in a box that you can put away somewhere inaccessable), forget making any contact with him and start to move on with your life. Although you no doubt crave answers - believe me it's best not to know, it just leads to a spiral of more questions!
It can hurt like hell being dumped, but the quicker you pick yourself up and live your life again the easier it is. Within a year you'll no doubt look on this as one of the best things that could have ever happened to you. You're still so young - there is so much fun and so many opportunities out there to be had. Make the most of it while you can! Too many people get tied down in the wrong relationship too young and when they finally wake up to the mistake, spend the rest of their lives regretting what they missed out on.
It's a whole new exciting chapter of your life you are about to start - enjoy
A clean break is the best way, clear out everything that reminds you of him (if you can't bring yourself to throw things away then put them in a box that you can put away somewhere inaccessable), forget making any contact with him and start to move on with your life. Although you no doubt crave answers - believe me it's best not to know, it just leads to a spiral of more questions!
It can hurt like hell being dumped, but the quicker you pick yourself up and live your life again the easier it is. Within a year you'll no doubt look on this as one of the best things that could have ever happened to you. You're still so young - there is so much fun and so many opportunities out there to be had. Make the most of it while you can! Too many people get tied down in the wrong relationship too young and when they finally wake up to the mistake, spend the rest of their lives regretting what they missed out on.
It's a whole new exciting chapter of your life you are about to start - enjoy
I won't try to advise or figure out what's gone wrong, but I do know this..
You start going out and getting on with your life, girly nights out, new outfit, chatting to other guys, looking happy and flirty, he sees or hears of this from others he'll kick himself and want you back.
Don't be racking your brains trying to figure out what went wrong, by all means talk to friends to get it out in the open, but don't let it drag you down.
As others have said, clean break, new chapter, move on. You'll look back at this soon and wished you done it sooner
You start going out and getting on with your life, girly nights out, new outfit, chatting to other guys, looking happy and flirty, he sees or hears of this from others he'll kick himself and want you back.
Don't be racking your brains trying to figure out what went wrong, by all means talk to friends to get it out in the open, but don't let it drag you down.
As others have said, clean break, new chapter, move on. You'll look back at this soon and wished you done it sooner
Lol well this worked with me, we have started dating again, but i have been quite clear that i don't think we will work without some changes from her part, however i never really stopped caring about her so maybe its different.
I like the idea of a new outfit.
Edit: So much so, I'm going to go shopping. Right now.
Thanks guys
Retail therapy is always good!
Enjoy!
I like the idea of a new outfit.
Edit: So much so, I'm going to go shopping. Right now.
Thanks guys
Retail Therapy and a night out with the girls should change your perspective.
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Unfortunately it means hes doing your sister/mum, unlucky.
Bit uncalled for really. :/
Ahhh, so innocent.
Welcome to GD. Here is your complimentary flame suit and tin foil hat...
Agree with this. Don't be a door mat.
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Probably the worst thing you can do is tell a guy he can have you back whenever he wants, that's almost an open invite for a lot of pasty smashing whenever he feels like it.
I can understand why you don't want it all to be over, people invest large amounts of time and themselves into a relationship and when it ends it's almost like it was a waste of time, this is why you tend to have couples sticking together that probably should have broken up months ago, though in your case it doesn't help that he just broke up with you out of the blue.
I can understand why you don't want it all to be over, people invest large amounts of time and themselves into a relationship and when it ends it's almost like it was a waste of time, this is why you tend to have couples sticking together that probably should have broken up months ago, though in your case it doesn't help that he just broke up with you out of the blue.