Crazy exs.

kaffe said:
Soooooo long story short my boyfriend suddenly broke up with me on Thursday. Wasn't really given an explanation so as you can imagine I'm stuck in the whole "what have I done wrong" loop. I want nothing more than to just understand what's going on, and let him know that if he changes his mind I'm still game (after a little work though, after all he did really hurt me and a little trust is lost). I'm a nice girl and deserve to be told if I've done something wrong. I don't mean to be unrealistic but just hoping that there is a little chance of reconciliation.
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If you do it just make sure he doesn't take advantage of you wanting to get back together.
 
kaffe said:
Not at all, as far as I'm concerned it was only getting better.

Never tried to change him, after all I loved him and he was already what I wanted.
The only time I've ever not supported him was when he wanted to sell his car to get a bike, just thought he's really going to regret it. Came to the conclusion that if it's what he wants then he can do it, not my money etc. Although I never got a chance to tell him I'll help how I can as he then dumped me :p
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As far as you're concerned maybe. And as much as you don't think you were trying to change him, you inevitably were. It's part of being in a relationship.
 
The only remedy for situations such as this is, I'm afraid, the removal of the still-beating heart and rapid consumption of the soul.

All knowledge will then be yours.
 
Zefan said:
If you know he's ignoring you then let him know, give him the "Ok so you're ignoring me, I'm sure you have your reasons. If you want to talk you know where I am, etc etc etc....". That'd be the last text I'd send them before getting on with my life.
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Do this and then move on :) Why be sad and dwell and when he's not doing the same. He's probably enjoying himself right now and you're the last thing on his mind. If he really wants to be with you then he'll come running back (by that time you'll probably be with someone better anyway). Don't let yourself become the crazy ex, stay cool :cool: :p
 
I think he's gotten to the point where he just doesn't see it lasting "for good". Apart from my current relationship, none of the previous have lasted longer than 9-12 months as it normally gets to that point and one of us thinks it's too serious and wants out.

Not a lot you can do really, just don't tell him you're happy to have him back as you're likely to just get used for casual sex. Move on and find someone else.
 
What sort of gd thread is this??!!! It's full of proper advice:eek: To OP: We we need pics of you and the said boyfriend to make a full assessment of the situation :D

In all seriousness though, as others have said, don't give him the idea he can just go mess around and then come back and you'd welcome him with open arms.
 
Temi_D said:
What sort of gd thread is this??!!! It's full of proper advice:eek: To OP: We we need pics of you and the said boyfriend to make a full assessment of the situation :D

In all seriousness though, as others have said, don't give him the idea he can just go mess around and then come back and you'd welcome him with open arms.
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I remember the boyfriend being a long haired, greasy metaller. I think our kaffe could do better.
 
That's the worst thing not knowing. Happened to me last year, after a week or 2 I think she felt guilty and just told me. Until You know why, you can't really defend your self.

MW
 
Have a giggle at this one!!..

http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=17916453&highlight=life

This all happened to me about 3 years ago, and I've since found out, after my Divorce was finalised, that she'd been going with this guy for over a year!!. way before she instigated our 'split'.

At the time there was no 'Real Reason' for the split!, she said some crap about 'We have Nothing in common' etc... but nothing solid!!.. http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=17902567&highlight=username_simian :(

Funny thing is, she's been dumped by about 6 random Yanks now and (so I've heard from her Mum recently who I still talk to) she's still immersed in Second Life to the point where her family haven't seen her for months, and have basically given her up as a lost cause!!.. Sad innit???.. :rolleyes:

Me.. I've moved on, Met a lovely lady, who is a total 'technophobe' and the total opposite from my ex!.. and in just over 39 days time we're getting married!! :D :cool: :D :cool: :)
 
Give him some space. Go out and enjoy yourself in the mean time. Men always want what they can't have so don't throw yourself at him
 
Presuming the absence of other women/closet homosexuality his unhappiness doesn't necessarily have a specific reason. It's probable he is just unhappy with the way his life is going and some part of him has decided things have to change, unfortunately it seems the easiest thing to change about his life is his relationship with you.

A friend of mines boyfriend did similar, he didn't like his job and was struggling with an overpriced mortgage on a crappy flat so rather than fix the things needing fixing he broke up with her.
 
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