Damn it all to hell!

god, this sounds EXACTLY like me when I was 18.

I had met this girl just before I turned 18, had a crush on her for about a year, we were mates and what not. Anyway, when she turned 16 and I was still 17, we got together. She was my 1st Girl, 1st Love, 1st Sex0r, everything rolled into one.

Anyway, after a Year, turns out she was cheating on me, with a few other guys in our 'friendship group'. We broke up, then I was being a right p****boy and I got back with her, she cheated on me, and that happened about 3 more times. Anyway, I still wanted to get back with her, but she said no. That was me devastated, I cried all night, for about 5 nights, I cried in college, everything, It was an emotional **** storm for me. I thought It could never get better.

Cue 3 years later, I've had a few more relationships, quite a few more flings, and now I'm working on getting a new relationship. I look back at that time with my 1st girl, and I actually LOL at myself for how stupid I looked.

You WILL get over it, and you will look back and wonder what the hell you were thinking. You will even wonder what you saw in her in the 1st place.

I Know my story wont make the blindest bit of difference to how your feeling, but trust me, you will look back on this situation with a completely different point of view in a few months/years time.

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I had to look up what Cathartic meant, because my English Isn't that great(I'm a scouser :p) and the 1st result was on Wiki and is explained by the following:
Wikipedia said:
Cathartic
In medicine, a cathartic is a substance which accelerates defecation.

This is in contrast to a laxative, which is a substance which eases defecation, usually by softening the stool. It is possible for a substance to be both a laxative and a cathartic. However, agents such as psyllium seed husks increase the bulk of the stool.
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To the OP: Im pretty sure, that no matter how many of these replies you read, you're still sitting there thinking "Nope, She is the only one". So far be it from me to try and tell you otherwise, becuase i know you wont listen.

I will however say this, dont spend your life chasing that person, dont waste your time wishing and dreaming. Becuase often , its when you leave those dreams , and live content with how you are that someone will come along.

Women like to throw their emotions out to others, and im afraid as her "best friend" youre going to be a target for those. No, she doesnt do it becuase she loves you, or becuase she wants you to know how she feels, she just does it because to her you are just like one of her female friends, another pillar for support.

Yes, i used to be exactly like you ill admit - but i learnt a few ways that its a bad way to live your life, being the dormat sucks, becuase its always the people at the back of the queue who have the muddiest boots.


Take your time to get over it, if you have to then wreck the friendship by being to clingy or telling her over and over again, in the end it can only be good for you, and its only then once you have flattened the feelings you have that you will begin to feel better about life.

I Promise, it will all go away =] I know some of the people on here sound harsh and arrogant about it, but in the end they are right, just dont take it the wrong way.

Good luck mate =]
 
Hang on... I don't get the whole "never get the chance to try" BS. You planning suicide or something?

Once she gets over the "want to try different people" stage that all girls go through 'til theyre about 22+ she'll probably start valuing different things and likely candidates would be friendship and trust, and voila she realises she loves you.

Just as likely as you never getting any chance with her.

Don't assume that you could never ever be more than friends, people change after puberty.
 
Loving someone then loosing them is a part of growing up. Put it down to experience and move on. Everybody has been in that situation at somepoint.
 
rookie said:
Zefan said:
You owe her nothing, look after number one.
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nah, im not about that im afraid

i put others before me most of the time, im a nice guy, maybe thats why i finnish last lol
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I used to be like that a bit until i realised that people would try and take advantage of you if you are always the 'nice' guy. Like Zefan said look after number one, this doesnt mean that you can't look after other people as well.
 
There is no such thing as nice guys .... guys are only nice and gentle and considerate, because they want something from it.

nobody does nothing for nothing..

and guys are usually nice to try to charm 'small cotton undergarments' off


;)
 
rookie said:
ive already said its a girl

i know im only 18 and have a lot of life to live, but this is the one thing im sure about. You ever get that where you just KNOW
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FFS you're 18. Don't worry about it, move on go to uni. You'll soon find there's much more to be concerned about.

When you're 18 your life revolves around girls.

You dont just "know" you're too young to. We've all "let that someone special go" and delt with it.

You'll all sad about something that is NOTHING in comparison with what real pain is. Watch the news and see real suffering, you just a young lad splitting up with your GF. Get some perspective, pull yourself together and get on with your life! :)
 
Toryglen-boy said:
There is no such thing as nice guys .... guys are only nice and gentle and considerate, because they want something from it.

nobody does nothing for nothing..

and guys are usually nice to try to charm 'small cotton undergarments' off


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Exactly. I had a hard time convincing my girlfriend that this was true, she simply wouldn't accept that her guy friends would think that way about her. How naive they are :D
 
Zefan said:
Exactly. I had a hard time convincing my girlfriend that this was true, she simply wouldn't accept that her guy friends would think that way about her. How naive they are :D
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exactly Zefan, am glad someone else is keeping it real

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Everyone goes there at some point. You really do think it's different but chances are it's not. You will get over her and better people come along.

It may sound condescending but it's true and you'll realise that sooner or later.

Burnsy
 
To get the girl you need to be the Perfect Gentleman .....
1. When she asks how she looks shrug and say "could be better". This will keep her on her toes. And girls love that.

2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of weakness. Or, if she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really really hard until she cries. This will impress her by showing her what a strong man you are.

3. Once a month sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Girls are like dogs. They love to be roughed up.

4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say “you better be”, repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care.

5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement. And every girl needs some improvement.

6. If you’re talking to another girl, make sure she’s looking. When she is, stare into her eyes mouth the words “**** you” and grab the other girls ass. Girls love competition.

7. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because i can."

8. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick". Women love those special nicknames.

9. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD.

10. Warm her up when she’s cold...and not by giving her your jacket... then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and say "if you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is with fear.

11. If you’re listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her “no”. This way she'll think you're mysterious.

12. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10 minutes then JUMP UP AND SCREAM IN HER EAR! Repeat until she goes home and you can use your arms for more important things. Like ****ing.

13. Spit often. I hear girls like guys that spit.

14. Take her out to dinner. Right when she’s about to order interrupt and say “no, she’s not hungry”. Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her.

15. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then smack her one. Girls love a spontaneous guy.


On a serious note - usually the reasons guys don't get the girl is because they act like some wet pushover who is perfect a doormat but a pretty dull b/f. Forget this one, she'll always know you are acting up. Find another hottie and just be kind of a git to her - tease her. Open doors and then ALMOST let them slam in her face but grab it just at the last minute. Pick them up and ALMOST throw them in your swimming pool etc. You'll be surprised how it works.
 
Dogoid said:
calm down, its not the end of the world , just goto event viewer and see what the log says.

and then just update the driver.

or just upgrade to vista.
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:D
 
laissez-faire said:
4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If she is, say “you better be”, repeat this 4 or 5 times until morning. This will show her you care.

7. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because i can."

14. Take her out to dinner. Right when she’s about to order interrupt and say “no, she’s not hungry”. Make her watch you eat. Girls love a guy that speaks for her.
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This is the best advice in existence. Especially #7.
 
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