Damn it all to hell!
- Thread starter sarutobi
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Yes.Protoman said:
I was wrong.
I've been wrong a lot. I'm wrong less often as I get older, so I'm learning something.
Your post reminds me of this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdZxcwHsN0E
![[TW]Fox](/data/man-of-honor/2009.png){kind=avatar}
Protoman said:
In my opinion he's being slightly harsh in his judgement of you but everything he's said about relationships is right. You will get over her and you will be as happy as Larry. The sooner you realise this the better.
Zefan said:
Exactly.
You say your not like other people? you are mate, your human. As has been said time and time again it really wont bother you in the far to distant future.
but you need to sort your act out, you say you want to be her best friend?
if you say that becuase you just wanna stay close to her incase one day ya know somethings happens again thats not being a best friend, thats being a tool.
if you truley want to be her best friend. Ie you would put her life and well being before yours then you wont be "what if"'ing for the rest of your life.. cos if you are thats no best friend mate.
Regardless of you getting over it and stuff, just do whats right for her
good luck
I think we understand your point Fox.
Protoman, please read the advice in this thread and take in on board.
Please don't instantly reject it like I would have when I felt like you do now, it took me a lot longer than it should have done to sort my head out on my own than it would have if I'd listened to advice.
Protoman, please read the advice in this thread and take in on board.
Please don't instantly reject it like I would have when I felt like you do now, it took me a lot longer than it should have done to sort my head out on my own than it would have if I'd listened to advice.
Look Protoman, understand that a lot of the people replying are older and therefore quite well versed on such experiences as that of which you are currently experiencing. You are not the only guy in existence to suffer from unrequited love.
Your head will be a mess at the moment, flooded with emotion so what we're trying to explain to you may seem patronising or even repetitive, but it's because a lot of us have already been there! When you get your head on straight, and trust me on this -- it will happen. You'll look back and realise what we're trying to tell you for yourself. Unfortunately, experience is sometimes the only adequate teacher.
I'm going to assume that like you've said -- you're her best friend but she doesn't share your feelings? You've fallen into that horrible place known as the 'friend'. Girls say they want sensitive guys, but have you ever noticed that they rarely, if ever pick said nice guy? They usually go for arrogant idiots because they mistake that for confidence. At least until they grow up, and at eighteen you still have a long way to go. I'm only 21 and I can already recognise that. You've got to learn to stand up on your own two feet, get what you want instead of moping about. By the sounds of it, you've become her emotional doormat. Signals tell you you're getting close to something but in reality it's a mistake.
Also, don't go wearing your heart on your sleeve in future as you'll only cause yourself more harm. Girls, as much as we may have been led to believe otherwise are very immature at your age and just love to play games.
There is truth in some clichés though. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and time does heal all wounds. They're clichéd for a reason
Your head will be a mess at the moment, flooded with emotion so what we're trying to explain to you may seem patronising or even repetitive, but it's because a lot of us have already been there! When you get your head on straight, and trust me on this -- it will happen. You'll look back and realise what we're trying to tell you for yourself. Unfortunately, experience is sometimes the only adequate teacher.
I'm going to assume that like you've said -- you're her best friend but she doesn't share your feelings? You've fallen into that horrible place known as the 'friend'. Girls say they want sensitive guys, but have you ever noticed that they rarely, if ever pick said nice guy? They usually go for arrogant idiots because they mistake that for confidence. At least until they grow up, and at eighteen you still have a long way to go. I'm only 21 and I can already recognise that. You've got to learn to stand up on your own two feet, get what you want instead of moping about. By the sounds of it, you've become her emotional doormat. Signals tell you you're getting close to something but in reality it's a mistake.
Also, don't go wearing your heart on your sleeve in future as you'll only cause yourself more harm. Girls, as much as we may have been led to believe otherwise are very immature at your age and just love to play games.
There is truth in some clichés though. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and time does heal all wounds. They're clichéd for a reason
I think it's quite scary just how much people rely on internet forums for advice.
I mean, I grew up without the internet. Whenever I thought I was 'in love' and it all went to pot, I didn't have forum members telling me what to do or how to go without her... how on earth did I survive?!?!
Now don't think I'm having a go (hell, I've posted quite a few threads here asking for advice) but this thread has really made me realise... what will it be like in 10 years time? Virtual agony aunts?!?
I mean, I grew up without the internet. Whenever I thought I was 'in love' and it all went to pot, I didn't have forum members telling me what to do or how to go without her... how on earth did I survive?!?!
Now don't think I'm having a go (hell, I've posted quite a few threads here asking for advice) but this thread has really made me realise... what will it be like in 10 years time? Virtual agony aunts?!?