Danger! Relationship related thread inside

I would defiantly go and while it's all just holding hands and having a bit of a flirt it's all good, some girls are very much like this, I know one of the girls in my group of friends who does everything you say to me, yes at first I though it was more than it was but she really was just being ultra friendly (and enjoys a hug)

I defiantly wouldn't get involved with anyone who’s in a relationship mind, one I would kill a guy if he help my GF cheat (and he knew she was going out with someone) and two it hardly sets a brilliant example for how the relationship starts.

If things do get to the stage where it could get a bit more than flirting then personally I would talk to the girl, say how much I like her yada yada but that it's unfair on her bloke, she would regret cheating and it would make me feel uncomftable (but it's a really hard decision yada yada) ball in her court then.
 
Seriously though, I am not looking for a relationship with her. I just want to be friends and thats it. Ive no intention of going out with her, even less so where other parties are concerned
 
Aren't you the lucky guy?

Seriously, if you're concerned, make clear to her that you would never remotely be interested in anything but friendship. By all means go out for a meal if you want to be friendly, but make sure the boyfriend knows about it, for instance.

It does sound like she's being a bit more than friendly - but as someone said it depends entirely on the person. Some girls will regularly kiss and hold hands with large numbers of their friends without it meaning a thing.
 
mejinks said:
Seriously though, I am not looking for a relationship with her. I just want to be friends and thats it. Ive no intention of going out with her, even less so where other parties are concerned
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Then go out and have fun and a nice meal in her company. Some people belive VD is an overblown pointless celebration anyway and never celebrate it.

If she gets to touchy beat her off with a stick.
 
mejinks said:
This girl I know has asked me to go out to dinner with her. She has a boyfriend yet has asked me to go out for a meal with her next Tuesday (valentines day)

I asked why she wasn't going out with her BF and she said something like "the romance has gone a bit" and kind of skipped over the question. Now don't get me wrong, but I really like this girl and she would be perfect for me yada yada yada, but she knows I am single and searching.

Isn't it a bit inappropriate or am I reading too much into it?

She was holding my hand tonight in the pub while we were waiting to be served, you know the way that sickly new lovers do.. Then when I dropped her home, she kissed me on the lips. Not a snog, just a proper kiss.

I dont think ive fallen in lust with her but Im a bit :confused:

Shes a lovely girl who could do so much better than me so Im pretty sure im reading too much into it, but she continually compliments me and calls me "wonderful"

Tell me Im reading too much into it?
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tell her to dump him before you go out
 
Go with her, but start seeing someone else too, then everything will be balanced and you won't get any bad karma.
 
What you have to understand about her is that she is not the sort of girl to use boys, she is for want of a better word a grown up. Shes the sort of girl your mum would like you to marry.

Alas I think im reading too much into it. However, it lets me feel better about myself. Since I've been getting attention off this girl, totally out of the blue another one who I used to have a crush on is suddenly very interested in going out with me ie, asked me to go out on every day and a bit persistant.

Am I missing something here?
 
yea, u need to plan your week so you can get to see both of these girls without the other knowing.

one has: mon wed frid
other: tues thurs sat


:D
 
rG-tom said:
my story on this:

Saw a girl once behind her boyfriends back, told her to split with her boyfriend or forget me. She split with her boyfriend, whom she had been with for nearly 2 years and the "romance" had gone. Goin out with her for a month, everything seemed hunky dory and absolutely perfect, out of the blue she dumps me and goes back to him, she missed him and was still in love, and it took being away from him to realise this.

Just my experience on this :)

Tom.

PS maybe she just likes your bimmer? :p
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The exact same thing happened to me last week lol.

Not to worry though... i'll get over it. :D
 
mejinks said:
Its easy to say talk to her about it, but im scared of what she might say, I really don't want a relationship with her if she has a BF and is prepared to dump him for me.
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Why not ? It's not her fault that she seemingly has lost the feelings for her BF, just go along, talk to her, find out exactly what is going on ad then go from there.

If it were me i would do nothing with her until the Bf is gone, but that's just me.
 
From the broad brush strokes that the OP has painted of this Woman, it would appear she is genuinely interested in him. The fact she is making all the advances and all the hints about her thick-as-two-planks boyfriend being a loser, etc seems all standard to me.

I would handle this by telling her that you are busy on Valentines day, and, with this you tacitly imply that you are declining the invitation without doing so. ;) I would then wait and see if she makes further advances. This is because I would want to clarify completely whether she is fishing for a free meal on Valentines day or is genuinely interested. Just imagine, for one moment, that she is fishing for a free meal, you would feel absolutely terrible and feel used. Therefore, delaying any get together past Valentines day will provide the answer to this question, and avoid all un-necessary pain, feelings of being used and feeling terrible, that will accompany you if you don't make sure before hand. You'll feel much more confident in your ability to judge her intent by doing so.

If she persists afterwards, well, it's from Amber to the Green light, isnt it?

Sod the "Boyfriend". Just imagine if you were some neanderthal who couldn't attend to the needs of a Woman, like this bloke can't, and you neglected her and made her feel all the terrible thoughts of despair and helplessness ... can you imagine what is going through her head? Most people have felt those feelings before, male and female, perhaps in another setting, when they were a Child perhaps ... just think about some time when it happened ... now, given all that, would you even bother with giving him a get out clause for his pathetic behaviour towards her? "Oh its not you, its me" ... he should hear the truth, "I dont love you, you neglect me, I'm seeing someone else who gives me what I want".
 
mejinks said:
Seriously though, I am not looking for a relationship with her. I just want to be friends and thats it. Ive no intention of going out with her, even less so where other parties are concerned
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Only because you've told yourself that she deserves better than you, and that she is "not in your league". You've sold yourself short on the assumption that what you have to offer her isnt good enough, when it seems quite likely that she wants you.

Why are you selling yourself short when she obviously sees that you have so much to offer her. It's almost as if you don't want to make her and yourself happy? Did someone tell you when you were a Child that you didn't deserve something or someone?

I think you should take a big giant leap and let yourself be happy and let yourself have something that someone has told you, and what you now tell yourself, you are not allowed to have. Wouldn't it be fantastic to share all those wonderful moments with her, the two of you, sharing the moment, make each other happy? I can envision it, can you? Its awesome!

I REFUSE to tell you what you want to hear, which is that you are reading too much into it.
 
chopchop said:
old turkey whats ** msn ?
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I must apologise but I am not ready to give this information out publicly, if at all. I am flattered, though. :D If you have any queries please direct them to me through the Boards, as it allows me to make my replies at a time I find most convenient.
 
Old Turkey said:
I must apologise but I am not ready to give this information out publicly, if at all. I am flattered, though. :D If you have any queries please direct them to me through the Boards, as it allows me to make my replies at a time I find most convenient.
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i refuse to post a girl related thread and u seem to know your **** so id rather msn it ;)

add me if u dont want others to see your addy, i think its in my trust profile ?
 
Old Turkey said:
Only because you've told yourself that she deserves better than you, and that she is "not in your league". You've sold yourself short on the assumption that what you have to offer her isnt good enough, when it seems quite likely that she wants you.

Why are you selling yourself short when she obviously sees that you have so much to offer her. It's almost as if you don't want to make her and yourself happy? Did someone tell you when you were a Child that you didn't deserve something or someone?

I think you should take a big giant leap and let yourself be happy and let yourself have something that someone has told you, and what you now tell yourself, you are not allowed to have. Wouldn't it be fantastic to share all those wonderful moments with her, the two of you, sharing the moment, make each other happy? I can envision it, can you? Its awesome!

I REFUSE to tell you what you want to hear, which is that you are reading too much into it.
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Thanks. I really vlaue input like this. I never intended to start this thread as a "im too scared to talk to her what should I do" thread, so I think im going to go out with her on Tuesday, ask about her life in a general sort of way and mention her BF casually.

I think something along the lines of "its so nice to get out and have dinner as a treat once in a while" If she says something along the lines of "lets do it more often then Im going for it.

If however the answer is negative or not as rosy, well, theres dinner with this other girl the day after.

Or failing that a night out with the girl I actually do want to go out with.

If all else fails Palmela Handerson still loves me :D :eek:
 
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