Dealing with rude team members

[dowie]

It's the "object to it on the spot" piece I don't think is that straight forward, I wouldn't want to see someone initiating a point-scoring argument in the middle of a group meeting,

I don't think so, I mean you pointed it out yourself:

The point is personally I would politely correct them on their error and move on with the meeting, reflect on the situation afterwards and then have a rational conversation afterwards involving only the relevant people.

That kind of assumes you're sure you're in the right at the time but it doesn't even have to include that, just a quick "let's talk about this after" is sufficient.

Irrespective of who actually made the mistake you can still object to the way they spoke after the meeting, if that is something that has annoyed the OP then letting the person know is reasonable.

"Ah, looks like I did get my schedule wrong, there was no need for the way you spoke to me in that meeting though"

or

"You didn't actually send me the other invite and the way you just spoke about it in the meeting was rather off too, didn't appreciate that at all. Do you want to send me the details now please?"

 

[HangTime]

The point I'm making is that it may have been impossible to have had this conversation in between the meeting and the post on OCUK. He presumably had to dash off immediately to the meeting the PM wanted him in (leaving early from the meeting with the PM that he wasn't wanted in). And then we don't know if both the PM and McBain had mutually free time for a discussion in between these seperate meetings they were both in and him logging on to OcUK around midday.

This is perhaps derailing the conversation a bit, I think we are aligned that he could speak to him after the meeting, it's just I don't think the 'stewing on it' is necessarily avoidable due to potential schedule conflicts in the immediate hours after the event occurred. Nipping it in the bud just might not have been feasible in the context of this thread getting posted at most a couple of hours afterwards.

 

[TonyLewis]

Like any bully stand up to them, I would have ripped him a new ****hole if he had spoken to me like that in front of my team.

By letting it go it's likely to happen again...