Do you lie?

BowdonUK said:
I can't be bothered to lie. I treat people how I want to be treated myself.

The only person you're really lying to is yourself. Why compromise your own integrity for someone else?

The problem with lying is then you have to remember the lie you've told. That takes up too much energy for me to bother with it.
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BowdonUK said:
I can't be bothered to lie. I treat people how I want to be treated myself.

The only person you're really lying to is yourself. Why compromise your own integrity for someone else?

The problem with lying is then you have to remember the lie you've told. That takes up too much energy for me to bother with it.
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Lies can snowball and create hassle maintaining the lie.

I was once at a house party in another city where a mutual friend lives when one of my mates was chatting to this local girl, and for reasons best known to himself he introduced me to her as a semi-professional footballer that had had to retire early (we were late 20s) due to injury. It would kind of made sense if he had introduced HIMSELF as a footballer, maybe, to try and impress her or something(?), but I still don't really understand it. Anyway, I went along with it.

Fast forward a few months and they are dating. He tells me I must forever be known as HangTime the ex-hometown FC footballer who'd been on the books at some bigger clubs. Doesn't want to expose the lie in case it undermines her trust or something. Fair enough.

Fast forward a few years and I'm one of the best men at their wedding. I'd drafted a speech which included some reference to this, "looking at my physique I'm not sure how we pulled off this ruse" etc etc. In the end I ad-libbed most of the speech and left that part out, last minute gut feeling that it wasn't was the right time to expose the groom as a liar since the day they met.

Fast forward a few hours and I was chatting at the bar, explaining this to a friend of hers who convinced me I should tell her afterall. So I did and she was genuinely surprised that it wasn't true but thankfully also saw the funny side of it. It did consume some energy maintaining a lie for six years though :)
 
I've told tons of lies over the course of my life - pretty sure everyone has. It's pretty much mandatory for most people - as a child because a lot of parents have unrealistic expectations from their children and as an adult because of things like having to pretend that you're totally excited and enthusiastic about the job that you're applying for, even though everyone knows that you wouldn't be there if you didn't need the money.
I can only think of one more significant lie that I've told that I regret, and that was a long time ago now. I'm pretty honest about the important stuff these days.
 
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