Does anyone get embarrassed really easily?



Recent problem then?

To the OP: I sometimes get the hot-flashes thing you describe, but not when I'm embarassed. (I am a bit shy, and used to be a lot shier, but I never blush because of it.) Instead I get it when I'm angry. Even when I'm trying to calm down to try and resolve a situation without losing my temper and insulting somebody I can feel my face burning and my hands physically shaking. Guess I have the primal survival instinct that rlm described somewhat overdeveloped:D
What you need to overcome your problem is some way to build your confidence. Best way to do this is to have a job or position where you get to exercise power over people. Have you considered a career choice as a South American dictator or a clerk at your local DVLM? Or, if that's not an option, just form your own football team or FPS clan and boss your teammates around!:p


speeduk said:
I only get embarrassed when buying computer games from a place in canterbury. Theres this nice american girl that works there I bet she thinks look at all these sad losers buying games lol. :)
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There's a chance she's actually a gamer herself you know... Might even be better than you.... Challenge her to some FPS multiplayer and let her embarass you in a whole different way!:p
 
Yeah, I blush really easily and then go even redder when I can feel my cheeks going red. Doesn't happen much, but it's really annoying when it does, especially when people say "oooooh you've gone bright red!". I'm just used to it now.
 
Alchemy said:
Hi,

For quite sometime now I have had a problem with my confidence. When I get embarrassed, believe me, I get embarrassed, my face gets hot and my face goes bright red. It feels very uncomfortable, and I don't remember having this problem in my earlier/mid teens, it's only recently in my later teens. I don't ever have this problem socializing with people I know, it's just when I have a conversation with someone I have just met (mainly girls).

The wrost situation is when I'm in class, and I'm attempting to make a contribution, I just go bright red and everyone looks at me and I feel so uncomfortable and silly.

So, I was wondering, has anyone else got this problem? Or has anyone previously had this problem and managed to overcome it?

Thanks.
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Dont worry about it was like that when i was younger, but i went past that phase and now im so outrageously over confident apparently.
Relax you mind and dont worry about what people might say or think. Before you know it, you've got your groove back. :)
 
Mikesoft said:
I also have the same type of problem.

solution = use msn messenger when talking to girls. :P
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I see what you saying right but is that not avoiding the problem instead? ...Cuz sooner or later you will have to come off msn and meet them in person.
 
Used to get that when I started college and I was contributing in class. I didn't like it that people were looking at me but i've learnt that it's going to happen and don't really care anymore.
 
I very rarely get embarassed. Used to, but I simply don't care anymore. Happened overnight when I was 18 and I moved to Newcastle. Being embarassed all of a sudden seemed a tad on the silly side so I stopped it.
 
I used to have it REALLY bad. I would get embarrassed and go red all the time. It was horrible, I hated being in any kind of social situation as I would literally drip with sweat and heat the room with my face.

It was the worst in uni or other places when I was listing to a lecture and anything relating to sex came up. I would go seriously red and poor sweat down me and my heart rate would triple from embarrassment. Very strange.

These days im a hell of a lot better, a lot to do with meeting my now wife and getting a lot more confidence. I don’t go into hot sweats etc. What’s strange is that I still go red occasionally and often I don’t even know im doing it. Im talking to a couple of mates retelling a story or something to be told ive gone red!

I hate it, but thank God its nothing like how I used to be.
 
Firstly, thanks to everyone who has posted.

rlm said:
Justt out of interest, to the op, do you suffer any other symptoms or just the blushing. I don't think that it and anxiety are connected but they definatly go hand in hand for some people. I do quite a lot of reading up on this kinda stuff so if anyone wants any more information then I'll try and help.
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I do suffer other symptoms, and it does seem that I have Social Anxiety Disorder. I read up on it and I feel it would be the correct diagnosis. I have always thought that I don't really care about what people think about me, but obviously I probably do.

This is going to sound ridiculous, and I'm sorry, but the most terrifying moment of my life when when I first started my course and the teacher said something in the lines of "Let's go round the class and all introuduce ourselves and tell everyone a little bit about ourselves". I was just terrified (ridiculous, I know) and my heart was beating so fast and hard, I must have been shaking too, I was in so much fear. I tryed hard to relax myself, but when it came to my turn to talk, I must have looked like such an idiot, I think I stuttered, and probably looked very nervous. Before it was my turn, I was so worried, I felt like getting up and asking the teacher if I could quickly go to the toilet, in order to spare the humiliation, but I decided that would look slightly strange.

The exact thing happens at work when we have a little training session, my heart just sinks, and the fear and apprehension kicks in. The manager says "Right, Andrew, it's your turn" and I start going bright red, but even before he mentions my name, I start shaking, and go into a state of fear, just the words "training session" gets me going. I always say, I'll go last, and I always hope that something will happen which will mean I won't have to do it, I even try sneaking of when no one is paying any attention to me.

I feel this is really holding me back, I always try my absolute best to avoid any heated discussions or confrontation, and even conversation at all if it's someone I don't know.

Thanks.
 
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You sound quite depressed, and every day is a chore, I guess you wake up to the same feeling every morning.

Have you tried perhaps thinking about the good things about yourself?

Its probably been mentioned but no-one knows how you feel, they only get an 'impression' when they look at you, even at that they probably wont care.

Its also imprtant not to think/worry about it because that just leads to deeper thoughts and ways of avoding situations.

My advice will be, do the things that you avoid, do them in your own way/style, but do them.

It will soon become a routine and you should find your feet a bit better.

At the moment you sound very unsure about yourself, but that is a part fo growing up, finding out who you are. With age you will also find stuff about yourself that you probably think you could never do, but as a human being you become a lot more confident down the line.

Hope this helps. Stick at it. :)
 
Kerplunk said:
You sound quite depressed, and every day is a chore, I guess you wake up to the same feeling every morning.

Have you tried perhaps thinking about the good things about yourself?

Its probably been mentioned but no-one knows how you feel, they only get an 'impression' when they look at you, even at that they probably wont care.

Its also imprtant not to think/worry about it because that just leads to deeper thoughts and ways of avoding situations.

My advice will be, do the things that you avoid, do them in your own way/style, but do them.

It will soon become a routine and you should find your feet a bit better.

At the moment you sound very unsure about yourself, but that is a part fo growing up, finding out who you are. With age you will also find stuff about yourself that you probably think you could never do, but as a human being you become a lot more confident down the line.

Hope this helps. Stick at it. :)
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To be honest, I don't feel particularly depressed. I usually just get on with things, I have a job which requires talking to absoulte strangers face-to-face which can be problematic at times...I just try to stick with who I already know.
 
Alchemy said:
To be honest, I don't feel particularly depressed. I usually just get on with things, I have a job which requires talking to absoulte strangers face-to-face which can be problematic at times...I just try to stick with who I already know.
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Do you mind if I ask how old you are?
 
i am definitely a shy person, and the way to get around it is simple really and that is practice

u get into said situation, ** scared... but u get through it, u learn from it.. and next time u do a bit better

this might take a long time but as soon as you become confident in your abilities you will not longer be embarrassed


that or vodka, when im on the drink i loose all inhibitions and become the most confident person ever :D
 
Sounds like you need to call Karl Gruber... Monty Python can put you in touch with him:

FIRST ANNOUNCER:
Are you embarrassed easily? I am. But it's nothing to worry about; it's all part of growing up and being British. This course is designed to eliminate embarrassment, to enable you to talk freely about rude objects, to look at awkward and embarrassing things and to point at people's privates. The course has been designed by Dr Karl Gruber of the Institute of Going a Bit Red in Helsinki. Here he himself introduces the course.

DR KARL GRUBER:
Hello! My name is Karl Gruber. Thank you for inviting me into your home. My method is the result of six years work here at the institute in which subjects were exposed to simulated embarrassment predicaments over a prolonged fart - PERIOD! - TIME!! [farts] Sorry.
Lesson one: Words. Do any of these words [farts] embarrass you?

ASSISTANT:
"Shoe" ..... "Megaphone" ..... "Grunties".

DR KARL GRUBER:
Now let's go on to something ruder.

ASSISTANT:
"Wankel Rotary Engine".

DR KARL GRUBER:
Now lesson two: noises. Noises are a major embarrassment source. Even words like "****", "winkle" and "vibraphone" cannot rival the embarrassment potential of sounds. Listen to this if you can:

[embarrassing noise]

DR KARL GRUBER:
How do you rate your embarrassment response? (a) High (b) Hello (c) Good evening.
If (c), you are loosening up and will soon be ready for this:

[embarrassing noise]

DR KARL GRUBER:
Well, how did you rate? (a) Embarrassed (b) Hello (c) Good evening.
Now lesson three, in which these rude and dirty sounds are combined with smutty visual suggestions into an embarrassment simulation situation [fart]. You are the waiter at this table:

LADY IN RESTAURANT:
[Charles, I've got something to show you ..... embarrassing noise]

DR KARL GRUBER:
Score (5) for no embarrassment, score (3) for slight embarrassment, and (1) for .....

SECOND ANNOUNCER:
Good evening. A Book at Bedtime.
Alan Hutchinson reads another extract from a series of bedside books.
 
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