Don't know how to feel or what to do

Cleisthenes said:
I'll almost certainly spend it on something. Or do you think I should just put it in a savings account that I wouldn't be able to easily get at?
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Up to you, only reason I say keep the cash is because right now the important thing for you Is to distance yourself from something which you feel is an addiction and causing you problems.

Once it's gone decide what you will.
 
Spent my entire A-levels in the commonroom playing warcraft 3, CoD and battlefeild.

Turned up to a lesson every now and then, played soldat at the back.

Passed all of my A-levels with C and B grades. (Business studies, economics, psycology and biology)

Helping? Probably not.
 
You've got the rest of your life to play games. You're at the time of your life where you are building the foundation blocks of the person you're going to be. So don't **** that up.
 
I played games at uni and i felt like a stuggled a bit because of it too..

What i did was sent my Xbox 360 (my console at the time) back home..

This helped me out a lot... I did crave it for a while but i got focused on my work more and my grades turned around.. And i became more social with my classmates

This happened half way through my second year too... So its not too late..

As for the other feelings, you are not letting you're family down, that is just you not meeting you're own standards. You have to do this for yourself and not for them..
 
bloodiedathame said:
You've got the rest of your life to play games. You're at the time of your life where you are building the foundation blocks of the person you're going to be. So don't **** that up.
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Can't echo this enough. I really ****ed up at school and while my life's not a complete disaster, I'm not in the position I should be in aged 29, and it's all my own fault.
 
I don't understand everyone saying sell your gaming PC and/or delete all of your games, it's just a situation of self discipline - you must teach yourself to do work when you need to rather than doing something else (like gaming). That's what I do and I'm in my second year of a Physics degree at university - I don't need to sell my PC or delete my games, why would I need to? I just knuckle down and get on with my work when I need to do it.

My PC and games are there for some escapism after hours of working on some complicated maths problems or writing up laboratory reports - getting rid of it would remove that aspect of escapism and probably even drive my grades down.

So, OP, you do not need to sell your PC or delete your games - just teach yourself some self discipline. We all have to do it at some point, might as well do it now so that you know when you need to work and when you can take a break.
 
If games are just pointless time killers in your eyes, drop them.

I know for a lot of other people, including me, that games have had a positive impact on our lives, and have shaped our personalities. If it's a hobby you love, or enjoy, don't drop it, but take a break. You will appreciate them more anyway :)
 
PhysicsMan94 said:
I don't understand everyone saying sell your gaming PC and/or delete all of your games, it's just a situation of self discipline - you must teach yourself to do work when you need to rather than doing something else (like gaming). That's what I do and I'm in my second year of a Physics degree at university - I don't need to sell my PC or delete my games, why would I need to? I just knuckle down and get on with my work when I need to do it.

My PC and games are there for some escapism after hours of working on some complicated maths problems or writing up laboratory reports - getting rid of it would remove that aspect of escapism and probably even drive my grades down.

So, OP, you do not need to sell your PC or delete your games - just teach yourself some self discipline. We all have to do it at some point, might as well do it now so that you know when you need to work and when you can take a break.
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Thanks for the response. On a side how did you afford that rig if you're at uni? :p
 
kindai said:
Spent my entire A-levels in the commonroom playing warcraft 3, CoD and battlefeild.

Turned up to a lesson every now and then, played soldat at the back.

Passed all of my A-levels with C and B grades. (Business studies, economics, psycology and biology)

Helping? Probably not.
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Helping. Probably. They could have been A's (or A*'s or A*'s with smiley faces or whatever it is they give out these days :D)
 
=XDC=FluphyBunny said:
Helping. Probably. They could have been A's (or A*'s or A*'s with smiley faces or whatever it is they give out these days :D)
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If I wasnt playing games for those 2 years id probably have topped myself.

They were

SO


BORING


Have any of them helped me in my job? Not the slightest, common sense rules the real world...
 
Cleisthenes said:
When I had an xbox about 5 years, I bought and sold xbox's 3 times because it was ruining my work. I just hope I won't do the same this time :(
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FFS, stop being a dweeb and focus. This is the time of your life you can ***** up the wall and set out on a career of bars and telling the world how you could have been a contender, or the time of your life where you do it right and build something special. Bin the boys toys and get amongst it and if you can't, stop finding reasons to blame and find yourself a comfy seat in that bar!

****** kids moaning about stress and how woe is me they are. Wait until you get family members with cancer, dead children, friends dying and a bank chasing you down for money before they for close on your ass (not me, just using as some examples) then you will realise that "I can't stop playing computer games" is ******* pathetic!

There.
 
Just a random different perspective, but is the gaming a form of escapism from other problems (poor choice of course, lack of direction?). Are you giving up things you'd otherwise love for gaming?, or just things you don't like?.

While it's not directly related, do you exercise? (spending more time outside & getting healthier may give you another activity to contend with gaming which could restore some balance), you should also feel happier/more positive as a result of it.

Housey said:
FFS, stop being a dweeb and focus. This is the time of your life you can ***** up the wall and set out on a career of bars and telling the world how you could have been a contender, or the time of your life where you do it right and build something special. Bin the boys toys and get amongst it and if you can't, stop finding reasons to blame and find yourself a comfy seat in that bar!

****** kids moaning about stress and how woe is me they are. Wait until you get family members with cancer, dead children, friends dying and a bank chasing you down for money before they for close on your ass (not me, just using as some examples) then you will realise that "I can't stop playing computer games" is ******* pathetic!

There.
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I hate to break it to you but this does not constitute advice, saying 'just focus' isn't likely to be the spurring pearl of wisdom he may be seeking.

If it was as simple as that he wouldn't be in this problem to begin with, the wider problem seems a lack of self-control (to which practical solutions are out there, like any skill it can be practiced & developed).
 
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elmarko said:
Just a random different perspective, but is the gaming a form of escapism from other problems (poor choice of course, lack of direction?). Are you giving up things you'd otherwise love for gaming?, or just things you don't like?.

I hate to break it to you but this does not constitute advice, saying 'just focus' isn't likely to be the spurring pearl of wisdom he may be seeking.
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It wasn't a pearl of wisdom, it was a statement of fact. You may seek to dig deep into his mind I don't, but let me stop you, fill your boots.
 
I do think that its a form of escapism to be fair, not that it's a very good one as I get mad sometimes. And Housey i'm sorry that you feel so strongly about my situation, came across as a bit cruel to be honest. I know I need to buck up my idea's but shouting at me isn't going to help
 
As I said earlier, basically just get on with it. It is not difficult, you should know when you need to knuckle down and get on with work and when you can take breaks.

Of course, it helps if you enjoy your studies (as I do) - so I suspect that the problem is you don't enjoy your studies, which is detrimental to your attitude to work. But if I'm wrong and you do enjoy working, then show not just your lecturers, tutors, friends and family but yourself that this is the case by getting on with it.

I sure know what gets me up in the morning to go to my 09:00 "Mathematics for Physicists 2" Lectures or my "Lagrangian and Hamiltonian Mechanics" Lectures, and that's the fact that I enjoy them. What gets you up in the morning? If your answer is video games, then you should rethink your chosen degree.
 
Cleisthenes said:
I do think that its a form of escapism to be fair, not that it's a very good one as I get mad sometimes. And Housey i'm sorry that you feel so strongly about my situation, came across as a bit cruel to be honest. I know I need to buck up my idea's but shouting at me isn't going to help
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Sometimes people need to be shaken out of their quandary as they will keep finding excuses and you strike me as that person. I have suffered from both depression and traits of OCD previously, so I am not the sort of person who feels shouting in the face of depression is of any value (nor was I shouting I hasten to add), but based on purely what I read here, I see someone who apparently has lots going for him being a lazy arse. Sorry if that is somewhat abrupt, but you asked for opinion and that is mine, palatable or not, right or wrong. The fact you felt the nerve twitch is actually indicative to me that I might be not far wrong too, but then I am no psychologist.
 
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