ex-mate demanding money with menaces - Help!

Deleted member 77746 · 12 May 2011 at 14:30

GeX said:
Tell him that you intend to pay him back, but that you won't discuss any terms when threats are being thrown around. If the threats don't stop then tell him he's forcing you to report him to the police, which may mean he never sees the money.. as legally, there's no way to force you to pay it back.

This is the really only true answer to begin with. See where this answer takes you.

No1newts · 12 May 2011 at 14:32

Ahleckz said:
Speak to the police. No matter the history, you shouldn't have to live with threats.

+1

First post is the best post!

Pixel · 12 May 2011 at 14:37

Just send him an email explaining how much money you have coming in, and how much you're saving (and have already saved), then give him an exact date when you'll have his money available. Do this in a polite tone.

If this doesn't work, you could consider taking out a small loan to pay him back.

Mr_T · 12 May 2011 at 14:46

I'm reminded of this...

Buffman · 12 May 2011 at 14:48

You dont have to pay him back if he's dead.... Just sayin'.

In reality though best to assert your finances with him, failing that the police are probably your best option.

Johnny Girth · 12 May 2011 at 21:29

B@Th*nG said:
Have you watched any Judge Judy at all?!

because unless he has something which says "here is a gift of x" then it is considerably more reasonable that the money was a loan. The story is basically "I was down and out and needed money and a friend helped me out with a couple of grand". It would be your word against his and because people, as a rule, don't just give out money for free he'll win; you can say "he swore it was a gift" as much as you like, it won't make any difference.

The guy is clearly a bit mad but the at the end of the day OP will lose if it goes to small claims.

He owes him the money, get credit card, pay him, get on with your life.

B@

No but I am an English solicitor so perhaps better placed than Judge Judy to make a call on this one

It's not about what may be objectively more reasonable, it's about what the evidence shows, on the balance of probabilities. If someone gives you the money, makes no written record of such donation being a loan, states that it's a gift and then some time afterwards goes mental and asks for it back then you've probably got the facts on your side. The only key fact at issue here is the intent of the donor and the evidence points to an intention to donate.

So contrary to your thoughts, I would suggest that his friend would have a very difficult time in proving it was a "loan".

Regardless, people's practical advice is probably more helpful in this situation as it's not likely to come down to the small claims procedure...

TheBigCheese · 24 May 2011 at 19:01

*bump*

Did you sort anything out OP?

Westyfield2 · 24 May 2011 at 19:05

fanger - Last Activity: 12th May 2011 08:09

:eek:

TheBigCheese · 24 May 2011 at 19:10

I didn't check that...

Oh dear...

Strife212 · 24 May 2011 at 20:13

He ended his time with 666 posts.

panthro · 24 May 2011 at 20:23

EDIT - just saw the last few posts.

Dabbles · 24 May 2011 at 21:38

Johnny Girth said:
So contrary to your thoughts, I would suggest that his friend would have a very difficult time in proving it was a "loan".

I suspect if it did come to court his (ex)friend would have to show an original signed credit agreement, just as a bank would?

Old Wino · 24 May 2011 at 22:08