At least two of those crashes you're talking about at Monaco are them hitting the wall with both tires.... but then continuing at speed and smashing into the barriers somewhat straight on... completely different situation. Had either car missed the collision afterwards the side impact wouldn't have been bad.
I was talking about the impact with the tyre wall, all 3 of which went into it sideways
The issue here is that unlike those two who ended up hitting a barrier which caused massive and sudden deceleration by hitting something almost directly head on which stopped the body suddenly(regardless of the tires it's going from say 150mph to 5mph in a matter of a few feet which hurts the body so much), that doesn't appear to be the case from any evidence in Alonso's crash.
Alonso didn't hit the wall at any real angle at all - that's what's caused the problem. Apparently peaking at 30g (not an issue in itself - most 'large' crashes peak at bigger than this), the main issue being a sustained impact of at least 15g for 54ms - that a figure that will rarely feature in anyone's life - racing drivers included.
In all of the above cases the tyres and crash structures have bounced the car - absorbing it on the way in, reaching a peak deceleration (which is normally at a very slow speed, well below 50mph) and throwing it back out again. Alonso slapped against something that wouldn't give in something that wouldn't give - that he was a part of. That's the issue.
The problem was that the crash structure wasn't touched. No energy was absorbed at all - the rear suspension deranged a little (and possibly the front), but didn't collapse, and nothing else gave at all. It was probably a nothing crash to view, and in the pictures it looks it, but there was nothing happening between Alonso and the wall. It you stuck a racing seat onto a granite sledge and slapped it into the wall at the speed Alonso did it probably wouldn't be much different.
It's like the late 90's / early 00's Indycar days where every crash which went in rear-first (which seemed like every race) someone was coming away with a back or head injury of some description because the rear of the car, and gearbox in particular, wasn't giving at all - it was just a lump of metal, and most of the force transferred through the chassis to the body of the driver.
Even Mclaren are saying he hit the wall and continued sliding along it for 15 seconds, that indicates one of two things, power was stuck on either through mechanical failure or through Alonso holding the accelerator down for a while after impact(on purpose or not), or that the contact was minor/glancing and most of the force wasn't in the impact but dissipated through relatively normal deceleration of the car over 15 seconds.
This is the thing, the car didn't go in at a particularly bad angle and it clearly kept the majority of it's momentum through the initial impact which is what allowed the car to continue to slide for so long and so far. It indicates very little actual energy being absorbed in the initial impact... which is why it's so strange.
The car didn't absorb the impact at all - there were no structures designed to do so. That's been my entire point. However glancing the impact was, the driver took it in near entirety.
EDIT:- looked up the Wendlinger crash, same thing as the other two but worse, hit that same point(the tires after the chicane separating the track from the run off. He hit it almost full speed and the car bounced off but only travelled a few meters. That means his body was decelerated from pretty much full speed out of the tunnel and down the hill in the space of a few meters. That is what kills people though that is much older and much much less safe cars.
But Wendlinger's primary blow was against the tyres, so they absorbed some of the impact. He was absorbed, however little, and bounced.
I had a bike crash starting at 60mph where I hit a grass bank and bounced about 5 metres back onto the road, ending up star-fished. Thankfully I didn't suffer anything other than winding and a fractured little finger at the time, but I still had previously unknown bruises surfacing 2 weeks later. And while a grass bank at ~30-40mph is bloody firm, I'm guessing it's damn cosy compared than hitting a concrete wall at ~70-100mph.