Fancy dress, am i being harsh!

Nerusy said:
It does not matter. As is your individual case does not matter in the bigger picture. Keep in mind that in their view you're gullible, so are you going to act liek a child and throw accusation back and forth or you deal with the fact that for a majority of people marriage is a big deal religiously, psychological, legally and lets not forget financially, divorce is pain in the a*** it is a truly horrific experience that makes you think twice before divorcing somebody even if they cheat.
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They would say that I'm the gullible one pmsl, don't mind me I'm off to part the red sea and walk on water :D:rolleyes:. I think marriage is a joke because of the amount of failed marriages I've seen over the years, not just with friends and anacquaintances but with my own family. Not via adultery but my mum, dad, sister have all been married three times each now.
 
^TANK^ said:
Wtf does a wedding band and wedding certificate got to do with anything? Ive been with my girlfriend for over nine years now, if someone is going to cheat they're going to cheat!
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^TANK^ said:
It just annoys me that some people assume because they're married there is less chance of there partners straying away.
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Lol we get that you don't think of marriage as most of people do. We don't care about that. We are trying to explain to your that others do.

See your second quote here, see how you wrong? Good
 
Nerusy said:
Lol we get that you don't think of marriage as most of people do. We don't care about that. We are trying to explain to your that others do.

See your second quote here, see how you wrong? Good
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Couldn't give a monkeys five fingered shuffle to be honest, if people want to be that blind thats their business.
 
^TANK^ said:
Couldn't give a monkeys five fingered shuffle to be honest, if people want to be that blind thats their business.
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Enough with the straw men tactics this is not about what people want to be, this is about you being apperently annoyed for people assuming in marriage people are less likely to sway while in fact it is not an assumption it is a fact.

Hence you're saying you're annoyed people use facts. That's the part I kept trying to explain to you.

You shouldn't be annoying people use facts.
 
pioneer2000 said:
If she really cared about YOUR feelings, she wouldn't dress in such a way in order to get attention from boys.

If she's in a relationship, why does she need to dress slutty on a night out exactly? Sure, it's because everyone else is and it's fun.... obviously :rolleyes:

Rule of life - women LOVE attention. She's dressing like that because that way she'll have all sorts of attention from other guys, irrespective of whether or not she actually does anything. It's pathetic and she should really take into consideration how it would make you feel.
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Aren't you like 12 or something? I think the OP will want advice from some grownups.

Burlesque doesn't equal slutty. Also I like it when my wife dresses up sexy. Why because it gets attention from men but I'm the one boffing her.

It's called trust. Look it up sometime.
 
jamesblade said:
Get real, so many asumptions in that it reads like a piece of propaganda :confused:

Women are geneticaly programmed to "get attention" it doesn't mean she's unfaithfull or being "slutty" by dressing up on a night out.

And i'm amazed that you have the power to get inside her mind and know that she's out to consciously get attention from lads on this night out. You best be carefull or the goverment will kidnap you, lock you up in some secret bunker and do exsperiments on you to learn your super power :rolleyes:

If he has no past reason not to trust her, then let her have a good night out with her friends irespective of wether they are dressed in armour or Burlesque gear.

Its not about her it's about the OPs own insecurities, he needs to learn not to let them rule his life and by connection his Girlfriends.

If he finds out she was unfaithfull then get rid, If she feels he's emotionaly restricting her then she'll eventualy get rid.

Thats life, live with it..
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This
 
Nerusy said:
He's been married for 12 years, he must be doing something right ;)
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He may have been, but then his marriage sounds utterly, depressingly vapid and his attitude to relationships and women is pitiable.

Crikey there are some serious insecurity issues here! OP realise and realise fast if you want to keep a decent woman that the only, only option is to let her have fun and deal with your own issues by yourself. Even sitting her down and saying you have problems with it - can we meet half way, etc, etc is completely control-freak sad. Turning it into a 'she should respect my disapproval' issue is even worse! Why do you keep questioning why she would want to do it if she's happy in the relationship? She wants to join in with friends and have fun - end of. Don't feed your insecurity. The reason is irrelevant - if she can be trusted then it doesn't matter one bit what she wears or who she's with - she'll behave. When you say it's not about distrusting her, but her friends or other guys, you're just trying to justify your own insecurity and not admit to yourself you dont trust her, because short of assault, events are entirely in her control. But if she personally has never given you a reason not to trust her, then you absolutely should trust her - unconditionally, until such time she does.

So man up and let her go.
 
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My GF used to go out with her... negative-IQ-score... friends. Not chavs, but something like morons... quite often, she did various things in various places... don't even ask... It's been 7 years and all is cool.
 
GodMac said:
Put it like this, I know that if my missus goes out that she wouldn't even entertain the fact of another man coming near her. She would talk and be polite but anything else she would put him right in his place. Reason I know this is because we've been married for 12 years, I buy her everything she wants, cars, holiday, bung her a few hundred every now and then just to go shopping to spend on what ever she wants, book surprise weekends away, take her to shows, out for meals, iphone, and what really floats her boat bags! Loius Vuitton, Cloe, Gucci etc....

If she wants to go off she knows she'll loose the lot. And if you think not everyone has the money to do this, think again, I made £457 in 1 month selling crap at the car boot.

That's why I know she won't go off.
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You shouldn't have to buy her she shouldn't want to go off because she loves you surely?? money can't buy love and for me I wont " go off " because I love my boyfriend more than anything but I guess all women are different but to me its about quality time and just being together that really matters not the fact he bought me a gold necklace. Everything is 50/50 in terms of paying things and despite the fact he earns more I don't expect him to give me hand outs I pay for stuff just the same as him.
 
GodMac said:
Just do that my friend but be sure that your relationship is 100% because however much all of you think that your relationship is sound....as time goes on and the honey moon period is over if you or she is not making you feel needed, appreciated or loved then you will not last the course.

With a lot (not all) women, they like the luxuries in life and you only need to hear the bitchiness in the school play ground to hear what one person has over the next person.

With men its more shallow as its mainly based on sex or the remote control.

If all these things were taken away, as with any relationship it would be a strain. Just like if any of you lost your jobs and had no money coming in, can you guarantee your partner would stay with you and nothing would change!
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Sounds to me like you have a very sad and hollow relationship.
 
Gackt said:
I suppose one must ask why she would want to dress like that and go to a place where the main activity will be to entice other men.
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She's going on a night out with some colleagues. She hasn't chosen the location herself and she isn't organising it. She can hardly turn up in a pair of jeans and a hoody if everyone else in her group is dressing up, can she?

Not so much these days (Once or a twice a year) but at Uni I'd often go out to clubs with mates - places which you could argue is a place where the entire point was to attract girls. I didn't go to attract girls and my girlfriend wasn't bothered - its called trust. I went because everyone else did.
 
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