Fancy dress, am i being harsh!

your an idiot. Get a grip, trust her (shes your 1 year and 7 month old girlfriend as you say), so let her do what she wants without your insecurities being a problem.
 
pioneer2000 said:
No, you're missing the crucial point here - it's not "any fancy dress" or dressing smartly... it's dressing in hotpants, or fishnets, or in ridiculously skimpy clothing when it isn't necessary (i.e. down the highstreet in winter). If they are in a relationship, they have no reason to dress like such.

Dressing as a zombie or a ghost at Halloween is totally unrelated to dressing like a tart.

What a dumb comment about buying a new shirt FYI.
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Buying a new shirt to wear to go out with your mates is exactly the same thing. It's a change of dress designed for a night out without your partner. Usually because you want to look good and nothing more. Now in the OP's case this is fancy dress with other people. It just so happens that the fancy dress is burlesque. The manner of dress is irrelevant, the fact that the insecurity rises when you think she's advertising to other men rather than wanting to look good for herself is the telling thing here.

I repeat, I've gone out in fancy dress as a soldier, it didn't make me a marine. Much like going out in burlesque gear doesn't make you a ****, its the persons attitude, their belief in their relationship that defines their actions, not their clothes.

What happens when she buys a skirt a little shorter than you approve of & wears it to the shops, or a top that shows off her cleavage & wears it to work? Are you going to stop her? By putting her down verbally? And if that doesn't work, what then? People are people, they have tastes and preferences, if you try to repress those then you're on to a loser. Or worse, it spirals out of control & you're an oppresser/abuser.

No relationship deserves to be called such without both parties being equal, with trust & respect for each others tastes, habits & preferences. When these no longer match, the relationship should end, not force another to your personal worldview.
 
[FnG]magnolia;20010222 said:
Just read the last two pages and this thread went from depressing to comedy gold. Special shout out goes to GodMac who is broken on so many levels I stopped counting :)
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Thank you, I would like to add that I have purposely added things in my posts to incite arguement/discussion but the majority is based on fact and my experience in life.

And for the record it does appear that I buy my relationship with my wife, but it works both ways and she also has a full time job and spends her money on me. It's the little things that differentiate a good relationship, such as after being together for 15 years (12 married):

1, We still spend time together to talk to each other, about each others jobs, friends etc and not just passive convo but interested two way conversation.
2, We both make the decisions about our children and do not undermine each other
3, I tell her she looks gorgeous when she dresses up to go out.
4, I still text her and call her several times a day at work to tell her I love her.
5, I support her and she supports me when we need it most.
6, And most importantly we still can make each other laugh histerically

I'm not saying I've got the perfect marriage, it takes a lot of work but we have friends who don't do put half the effort in and they are hateful to each other some times which you wonder why they are together.

But one thing we don't have is jealously! That will destroy a relationaship!
 
GodMac said:
Yes. Why wouldn't she, I'm her Love God and I am her world. Doesn't yours?
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We have a very solid relationship that just seems to get stronger with every year that passes. If we texted each other constantly with 'lovey-dovey' stuff it'd annoy both of us though. Each to their own.
 
[TW]Fox;20012932 said:
Amazing how he looks down on them for the job they do yet his girlfriend does the same job and his OP was hardly well written.

Perhaps he should not be so quick to judge them?
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Especially when on his profile his favourite sport is "Dogging" I wonder if his missus knows he's added that. I'm sure she'd trust the hell out of him when he goes for a run at night.:D
 
GodMac said:
I've got two birds on the go and my missus don't know. If I found out she'd been up to it then so what!
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GodMac said:
To rely on Trust and Faith in relationships is where they go wrong! Have "Openess" as when Trust is broken you never get it back and you will be hurt.
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GodMac said:
If she wants to go off she knows she'll loose the lot. And if you think not everyone has the money to do this, think again, I made £457 in 1 month selling crap at the car boot.

That's why I know she won't go off.
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GodMac said:
I'm not saying I've got the perfect marriage, it takes a lot of work but we have friends who don't do put half the effort in and they are hateful to each other some times which you wonder why they are together.

But one thing we don't have is jealously! That will destroy a relationaship!
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seem like quite a sad guy tbh
 
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Forde said:
We have a very solid relationship that just seems to get stronger with every year that passes. If we texted each other constantly with 'lovey-dovey' stuff it'd annoy both of us though. Each to their own.
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Too much affection can be a bad thing.

Tbh I barely text my girlfriend. We just don't feel the need as if we've anything to say we'll say it when we next see each other. I wouldn't text her for a conversation, only to clarify something like what time the film is or when she needs picking up etc.

Nothing worse than meeting someone in the evening and have zero to talk about because you've spent all day texting each other. I guess some people enjoy their own space more than others.

I will text her random things I've found funny that I know she will. Other than occasional n00dz going back and forth that's the extent of our communication on our phones.
 
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