Fancy dress, am i being harsh!

[King Damager]

Everyone is being a bit harsh I feel... Yes you should trust her, but even if you do you'll probably have niggles of doubt. I no it took me and my gf a while to trust each other properly...

Let her do it, you kind of have to, or she'll moan at you and use it in future against you... You'll have your doubts, and feel wary, but if you really do trust her, at the back of your mind you know she won't be unfaithful...

kd

 

[Mat]

A typical relationship thread for GD with a typical knee-jerk, doomsayer reaction from a typical source.

OP, just tell her how you feel and why but don't try to stop her. A tough situation, yes but one that could ultimately strengthen your relationship. If you try to put your foot down you may come off worse.

 

[brightside229]

Just to make it clear, i dont have a problem her going out on her own, what i have a problem with is the clothes they are wearing, and the people she is going with...

 

[Supercow]

A typical relationship thread for GD with a typical knee-jerk, doomsayer reaction from a typical source.

OP, just tell her how you feel and why but don't try to stop her. A tough situation, yes but one that could ultimately strengthen your relationship. If you try to put your foot down you may come off worse.

Darn... thought we could string the OP out for a bit longer - now you went and posted a sensible reply

 

[brightside229]

Just out of interest, does blabla town happen to be Cambridge and said night happen to be Salon Rouge?

If so you've got nothing to worry about anyway. It's an awesome night out.

Nope. they are getting a limo at 4pm from doncaster and heading to skegness, getting picked back up at 2am by the limo again, it isnt a themed night out their or anything just a birthday theme for the group

 

[Mr Jack]

You don't trust your girlfriend then?

Do her a favour, tell her you don't trust her so she can end it and find someone who does.

+1

 

[Prophet]

Everyone is being a bit harsh I feel... Yes you should trust her, but even if you do you'll probably have niggles of doubt. I no it took me and my gf a while to trust each other properly...

Let her do it, you kind of have to, or she'll moan at you and use it in future against you... You'll have your doubts, and feel wary, but if you really do trust her, at the back of your mind you know she won't be unfaithful...

kd

Everyone is being harsh yet I gave very similar advice to you several posts ago?

Did you actually read everyone's post?

 

[Cuchulain]

Girlfriend is going on a night out for some ones birthday where she works, she works in a factory and all the other girls that work their are pretty much chavs, i kid you not!

Anyway they are all going in fancy dress which just so happens to be burlesque dancers, (google it if unsure, basically strippers) And all the rest of them are pretty much going to get attention from guys, and pull, even though most of the girls she is going with are not single... aparently what happends in (blabla town) stays in blabla town...

This alarms me!! And I have told her that I don’t want her to go, am I being un reasonable to be apprehensive about her going out until 2am, which is when the limo picks them up, 100 miles away from where I live dressed as a hooker?

If she get's boned, you dump her and move on, if it was going to happen on a night out and she didn't go, it'd happen another night anyway.

 

[Supercow]

Nope. they are getting a limo at 4pm from doncaster and heading to skegness, getting picked back up at 2am by the limo again, it isnt a themed night out their or anything just a birthday theme for the group

Thanks for the head's up!

 

[krooton]

You don't own her, and don't project your own insecurities on her.

 

[Camalot]

Thankfully she is not like them, aparently she doesnt even like them but is going anyway, she says she really doesnt want to go at all and she is dreading it but is still going to go... Wories me that she gives in so easily to something she aparently doesnt want to do.

She is 22 so she is old enough to know what she is doing.

I worry when my G.F (who is 20 and can be a right p.head) goes out because anything can happen (drink spiked, attacked etc) which isn't really about trust but i can't tell her what to do can i.

You just have to let her spread her wings and try not to worry about anything happening.

 

[brightside229]

If she get's boned, you dump her and move on, if it was going to happen on a night out and she didn't go, it'd happen another night anyway.

Funny because if anything like that happend, i wouldnt know, would i? I dont believe for a second it will, unless she gets absolutely smashed no idea whats she is doing and someone takes advantage, not like the girls she is with will try and keep her safe or anything lol

 

[BringTheRain]

You just have to let her spread her wings and try not to worry about anything happening.

I thought wings, was going to say something else for a minute.

OP - Comes down to trust. Simple as.

 

[fez]

She's 22 and has never been drunk?
Either way, your GF is going to be rammed by some random dude - don't let her go.

Dont like to agree here but if she is 22, never been drunk and has a bunch of chavvy girls egging her on I doubt it will end well.

 

[brightside229]

She is 22 so she is old enough to know what she is doing.

I worry when my G.F (who is 20 and can be a right p.head) goes out because anything can happen (drink spiked, attacked etc) which isn't really about trust but i can't tell her what to do can i.

You just have to let her spread her wings and try not to worry about anything happening.

Good advice, and i know its true, nothing i can do, will let her just do what she wants, im not her keeper! would just rather know that she is safe and ok. Will just let her go, and not say anything else on the matter and hope all turns out ok!

 

[Supercow]

Funny because if anything like that happend, i wouldnt know, would i? I dont believe for a second it will, unless she gets absolutely smashed no idea whats she is doing and someone takes advantage, not like the girls she is with will try and keep her safe or anything lol

She also has 2 weeks (that's the next time you see her right?) to get over any guilty feelings she might have, and wash the stains out her clothes.

 

[Greebo]

Burlesque isn't sleezey. It's actually quite classy (if you do it right...). I love burlesque nights out!!

Pics or it didn't happen (Hovis must be included )

 

[brightside229]

Burlesque isn't sleezey. It's actually quite classy (if you do it right...). I love burlesque nights out!!

If you saw the outfits they are on about wearing you would think diferently, she wouldnt wear things like that in the bedroom, let alone walking about in public, i fear these girls are a very bad influence!! lol. Makes me feel sick thinking about it actually

 

[Cuchulain]

Funny because if anything like that happend, i wouldnt know, would i? I dont believe for a second it will, unless she gets absolutely smashed no idea whats she is doing and someone takes advantage, not like the girls she is with will try and keep her safe or anything lol

Like I said, if she wants to sleep with someone else she will, irrespective of whether you try and stop her. You should be encouraging her to go out and have a good time rather than acting like some overprotective dad.

 

[kaffe]

Pics or it didn't happen (Hovis must be included )

Oh for goodness sake...
I don't have any decent ones, just a very flustered face, let alone with hovis.

edit:

If you saw the outfits they are on about wearing you would think diferently, she wouldnt wear things like that in the bedroom, let alone walking about in public, i fear these girls are a very bad influence!! lol. Makes me feel sick thinking about it actually

Then suggest she gets her outfit from a proper burlesque store rather than looking like she's fallen over in the Ann Summers bargin bin. Her friends may be skanky but she doesn't have to be. For goodness sake boy, strap on a pair!