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Getting Married - Need advice please

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Soogs, Jan 12, 2008.

  1. ste_bla


    Joined: Aug 9, 2004

    Posts: 7,794

    Location: Milton Keynes

    I've been married nearly a year and same age

    Dont do it for the love of god :(

    (only joking!)
  2. <(Multi)>

    Wise Guy

    Joined: Aug 1, 2004

    Posts: 1,306

    Location: South Cheshire

    Married?? Soogs? matey, wow! :)

    If your happy together though, thats absolutely great news. I've got a mate that married his gf after 5 months of being together - He went from having a nice easy life as a young male, to having a wife, her kid and now his kid on the way. Not saying your situation is anything like that, but he's not seeming too happy recently.
  3. Tefal

    Capo Crimine

    Joined: Jun 30, 2007

    Posts: 66,560

    Location: Wales

    my advice is the same I give to all those wishing to be wed.

    except those marrying professional runners,

    I advise them to use a fast car instead.
  4. Psycho Sonny


    Joined: Jun 21, 2006

    Posts: 31,634

    before i can judge the situation i need pics, either of both of you together, or one of each of you, after the evidence has arrived i can tell you whether or not you should do it within 5 seconds
  5. Cybermyk


    Joined: May 31, 2005

    Posts: 6,850

    Location: Peoples Republik of Teesside

    I always say try to make the most of your wedding and marriage, after all it's something you'll probably only do two or three times in your life.
  6. stevenazari1


    Joined: Oct 21, 2007

    Posts: 1,518

    I love how soogs said she's standing next to him and she reads this hahahahaha

    but yeah, although the uk folk have had a history of "my wife left me upon marriage", its only because uk media loves to report that sort of stuff. you never hear "I met a guy and now Im in love" programs lol, if so my parents would be on it :p so tell her to stop worrying and wait in bed. you be there soon. lol.... you just gotta check out the new reviews on the new 45nm processors ROFL!!!!!

    "*Snarfle* I'll be there in a *Snarfle* second tulip, *Snarfle* I gotta check out this *Snarfle* review on the new 45 *Snarfle* nm processors *Snarfle**Snarfle*"
  7. Gog


    Joined: Jan 22, 2006

    Posts: 762

    Location: Sarf Landon

    You can get married in the UK if you have whats known as a "Certificate of Approval". Generally, these will be granted as long as the foreign national has three months or more remaining of a stay over six months. The Certificate can then be presented to the Registrar when you book the marriage.

    After the marriage, if the foreign national wishes to stay in the United Kingdom they will have to apply to vary their leave to that of a spouse. This should be granted as long as you can show that it is a genuine and subsisting marriage, and as long as you can prove that there will be public funds claimed (public funds being benefits, etc). This is outlined at paragraph 284 of HC395 (the Immigration Rules) - http://www.bia.homeoffice.gov.uk/policyandlaw/immigrationlaw/immigrationrules/part8/

    Leave is normally granted for two or three years, after which time an application can be made for indefinite leave to remain (outlined at paragraph 287). British nationality can thereafter be sought after five years continuous residency.


    As long as the course of study is at degree level or higher, there usually won't be too much of an issue in getting a student visa. There's been a fair crackdown on students recently due to bogus colleges, but as long as the institution is on the DFE list of approved learning centres all should be OK.
  8. danza


    Joined: Mar 28, 2005

    Posts: 13,624

    Location: Drunken badger punching

    I can only recommend you listen to some Metallica to reinforce what he said.

    Not really! I got married at 23. All is awesome 2 1/2 years down the line. I don't think it could easily be better, but that's not to say it's all been plain sailing (well it has, mostly!).

    We were together 5 1/2 years before we took the plunge, so we knew what we wanted, and that it was right for us.

    Just remember, marriage is something not to be taken lightly. If she's the one, it'll be awesome.

  9. stevenazari1


    Joined: Oct 21, 2007

    Posts: 1,518

    please bare in mind you are taking advice from a guy with a hacksaw for a signature lol
  10. Amleto


    Joined: Feb 13, 2003

    Posts: 6,144

    It is my understanding that your fiancee is required to send off an application for a 'certificate of approval', after which you are free to give notice etc in the normal way.
  11. dieschwalbe


    Joined: Nov 13, 2003

    Posts: 77

    Location: Anderton

    You should be able to get married in the UK (England), but whatever you decide to do, bloody good luck with it.
  12. djohn


    Joined: Oct 7, 2005

    Posts: 619

    Location: Norwich UK

    Good luck to both of you Soogs. Marriage at an early age is not for everyone but both my wife and I were 19 years old when we married after knowing each other for 3 months. That was back in April 1966, [42 years this April] we had our son 7 years later and our first grandson on the 3rd of Jan this year. We've had a good life with lots of ups & downs but still wouldn't change a thing given the choice all over again. :)
  13. Samiad


    Joined: Oct 23, 2003

    Posts: 359

    Location: California

    Nothing to say except you get a passport in 3 years not 5. It's 5 if you remain in the UK by other means (student visa, work visa etc) but for a spouse it's accelerated to 3 years.
  14. spawner


    Joined: Apr 7, 2007

    Posts: 180

    Location: HARWICH/ESSEX

    I thought that too just by reading the topic title & looks like others think the same, I bet there all married like me haha
  15. coolpunkskater

    Wise Guy

    Joined: Sep 3, 2007

    Posts: 1,283

    Location: Surrey

    thats not young i was wed at 19 kid no 1 @ 19 kid no. 2 @ 21 no. 3 @ 25 (the first 2 not realy planed lol)
  16. pyro


    Joined: Nov 23, 2002

    Posts: 16,167

    Wow, dude, Soogs, you getting married! I hope it works man..:)
  17. PurpleDinosaur


    Joined: Sep 15, 2007

    Posts: 969

    Location: Edinburgh

    I think that's the point people are making. Good for you if it's working out, but the majority of relationships that start like that do not.
  18. SaBBz

    Wise Guy

    Joined: Oct 18, 2002

    Posts: 2,273

    Location: Elsewhere

    Congrats Soogs :)

    That's a Iron Maiden song isn't it?
  19. coolpunkskater

    Wise Guy

    Joined: Sep 3, 2007

    Posts: 1,283

    Location: Surrey

    Yea its a shame

    me and my mrs knew each other for about 7 years and we're "going out" for 5 of them years so its not realy some thing we rushed into without knowing each other

    but yes its something nit to rush into :D
  20. Old Wino


    Joined: Oct 23, 2005

    Posts: 868

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