Getting over a breakup

[alexakasloth]

Your 22 man, you have all the time in the world to put to good use to find another job, and yes break ups suck but give it some time and you'll realise it isn't so bad. Keep your head up mate.

 

[chaparral]

I hate it when people talk about breaking up with their girlfriend of over 3 years because mine is 3 years. We say we will never break-up to each other and I even told her this and she said 'well we will just have to be different from other people'. You can't break-up for real after two years give it a week she'll be back. I would just go the self pity route, it's good for you. Then after it will feel like a huge blanket lifted over your head.

Me and one ex g/f broke up after 4 1/2years...and another g/f was 2 years, and 5 other g/f where we broke ups after about 12months..

 

[wildman]

Anyone got any advice? Im a bit of a wreck at the moment. In 2 weeks ive lost my job of my dreams, with nothing lined up and to top it off my girlfriend of 2 years is breaking up with me. She said 'i know you love me, but it doesnt feel like a relationship should to me anymore. We seem to be more like best friends than lovers'.

So ive pretty much lost everything - all i need now is a 419 to get my money and my life is officially b0rked across the board.

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sleep with her mum, sister and cat. You will feel a lot better afterwards. All else failing go to the interweb find some 'adult material' and excercise your right arm !!

 

[Paul11]

have you got any money saved up,

pack your bags and go do some travelling

see the world, its massive

 

[fini]

Is her mother alive? If so:

Otherwise:

 

[Randomface74]

She broke up with you because you lost your job?

That's real Don't swear. FF. easy to get over - she's a total bitch.

 

[Toekiller]

1. No contact.
2. No contact
3. No contact
4. Alcohol & friends
5. Job hunting
6. No contact!

 

[Metalface Mark]

I started to get back to normal in 4-6 weeks, that seems to be how long it takes.

 

[Participant]

she didnt admit to cheating etc so its not all bad

Fixed for ya.

 

[BrightonBelle]

1. No contact.
2. No contact
3. No contact
4. Alcohol & friends
5. Job hunting
6. No contact!

Quoted, this man is right.

Things can only get better huh?

BB x

 

[deuse]

just got out and about meeting new people
then hit on her best mate

 

[Prophet]

If anyone finds the answer to this, please let me know. It's been almost 3 months and not feeling any better.

3 months! I'm on 22 Months and still miss the ex. Well the nice things about the ex.

You have to go throught the self pity stage then one day you wake up and think 'what the hell am I doing', then things start to get better?

Over the past 22 Months I've had more action than I ever did with the ex and not been limited to one person. I go out more and do more things etc.

Some people you never truely get over. While this is true of my ex I'm a much better person without her so overall it's been worth it.

 

[MoNkeE]

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[Cosmic182]

The ONLY way is time It's been nearly 4 weeks for me since it happened, and do not do what i have done, I tried the friendship route, I tried talking to her, It does not work ! It may seem like it does, but all it does it set you back to square one each time I spent days in bed not eating or sleeping hardly and its horrible, and not worth that so dont do that ! spend time with anyone or doing anything....Sometimes the best way to think about things is ....why let her consume you're every thought when she doesnt feel like you, save them thoughts and love for someone who will give everything you give them and more....Luckily i go on holiday tomorrow which will take my mind off things even more, but just keep yourself busy, search for new jobs - has its bonus of meeting that new someone maybe, thats what i've been doing, and as someone said it usually takes about 4-6 weeks to get over the worst , but chin up guess life's too short to let one girl out of the billions there is to make you feel like this.....Afterall, If she can make you feel like this, Maybe she's not worth it afterall hey?

 

[Busa]

Think yourself lucky you were not married and there were no kids involved...that's when breakups really hurt, my first wife and i were together for twelve years and married for ten....only time will heal and it took a long time! I got through it with the help of my friends but my son is seventeen now and i haven't seen him for six years.......you think you have it tough?

 

[!bluetonic!]

You're not dead I take it?

Then this whole experience has just made your stronger!

The good Lord has given you two options. You can either weep and waste your days, or use this time to find a job and touch-up the ladies. Hell, you might even find a tasty day-nymph at the job centre.

 

[h00fzilla]

I'd recommend excercise, get yourself fit and build up your self esteem

This. Keep busy!

If you're moping around, you'll get stuck in a damn rut before you know it! See your friends; hopefully they're supportive friends

 

[Gaijin]

Better yourself. Whether it be gym, job, education, new woman whatever.

It will make you feel better, give you focus and discipline and will do other great stuff like not giving her the satisfaction of feeling that you need her anymore. Make her realise what a mistake she has made.

 

[Cosimo]

No self pity, just move on, there is a big world out there just don't start drinking.

 

[SMN]

Hey all,

Thanks for the advice Like some people have said, i just need time. Ive got job interviews etc and weirdly the job hunt is keeping me mega busy and ergo diverting my attention anyway. We met during an internship and were together for a year before we went back to university for our final year. We made it work for the whole year, and now im looking to move down to south west midlands to be near her she said that she doesnt want to feel like im moving there for her, incase anything happens etc and that we dont feel like a real couple anymore.

Ive explained that due to the distance/time thing at uni etc it was bound to happen but we can make it work, but i dont think its going to happen! Im seeing her next Friday for "talks" so we'll see what happens. Bit of a tough week, especially given it happened a couple days after my birthday lol..