What references are they asking for? At the larger firms it is strictly mechanical. I have an auto request template for example, and it simply says "dLockers worked here between months X and Y" and that's it. Have they specifically asked for colleagues to vouch for her?
My wife is doing this at the moment - everything is too much and she can't see the wood through the trees, so instead of logical thinking it's emotional responses where basically nothing is right. It's tough to get through and often we try and solve these things and end up being wrong, too. It's very hard to deal with a partner like this I know. Just try to do a bit at a time to build up their confidence again, try and get them to drop the things they cannot control, but again, not easy process.
If she hasn’t had any response for 3-4 days to her last email does she have a contact number for someone she can call? Emails are easily forgotten or missed, especially in an office which has more work than they can manage. It could be seen as a positive if she words it right. ‘I just wanted to check you got my email, I’m very excited about the possibilities at company name.
