Girl Trouble

dhjjessel said:
to give u an exact quote from a text:

"look i like u but i can't have a relationship for a while.....but i don't want you to disappear from my life-is that possible?"

hopefully that convinces u that she is bothered
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That says it all. If she really wanted you, she wouldn't come out with all that ******** about "can't have a relationship for awhile". Your lucky she hasn't asked to be your friend yet.

No swearing.

Otacon
 
McDaniel said:
Ignore the abuse mate, plenty of people post em, and they can help - if they dont wanna read it they shouldn't your title is obvious so they just trolling. Dont worry about it, your lucky you found someone you connected with on that level, doesnt always happen - it is important that your not blinded just by lust though.

Get one of your good mates and go out for a beer or something, just be around people your comfortable with it really is one of the best things. She'll hopefully call you in her own time :)

Good Luck
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i did that last night, which was great
but now its today and everyones still at work!
need a new distraction
counter-strike works but man its dull (and unhealthy)
 
iCraig said:
Only reinforces it dude, she wants you as a friend. Not in a relationship. Simple.

Keep waiting for a relationship with her if you must, but if I was you I would stay in touch, but wouldn't keep my hopes up.
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so what should i do the?
give up, or make every affort to avoid the friend zone? or both?
 
dhjjessel said:
i did that last night, which was great
but now its today and everyones still at work!
need a new distraction
counter-strike works but man its dull (and unhealthy)
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i know the feeling, i was like that for a while - i just kept myself busy with little taks like cleaning up, doing stuff for my folks when i was at home etc..

But what others have said is right, its only been 2 weeks and she sounds like she's not interested at the moment. Doesnt mean it wont be forever.

And if you do end up in the friends zone you WILL get over it and you;ve gained a friend, no major loss.
 
Stay her friend, but move on, you will only prolong the agony by waiting, as she will move from one other guy to the next, always turning to you for compassion when it fails.

Trust me, wasted 2 years of my life following a girl that I thought I loved around when I was 18-20... what a damn waste.
 
iCraig said:
Thats what I was thinking, but he sounds like he's aching for a meaningful relationship rather than just a shag buddy. :)
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Yeah I realise, I am just in a mischievous mood. :D

dhjjessel said:
need a new distraction
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Go for a run, bike ride or somthing, I do it a lot when I need to get my mind of things get a real sweat on, come back knackered and you seem to forget everything. Or I just collapse on my bed with my headphones listening to music. :)
 
dhjjessel said:
so what should i do the?
give up, or make every affort to avoid the friend zone? or both?
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Keep doing what you're doing, hanging out, talking, texting etc etc. But don't try and push anything, you'll either slip into being friends or she'll want to be with you.

Either way you won't know for a while, so I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket, because it does sound like she just wants to be friends.
 
Try to be relaxed about it. If you try and rush things and take it all too seriously then it'll end with her being freaked out and she'll run a mile. :)

Maybe things will work out, maybe not, but there's loads of women out there to meet.

Im sure there's plenty of peer pressure for you to get a girlfriend etc, but remember, life is fun, relax and enjoy!

(Bit of advice from someone whos a bit older and wished he'd taken this advice himself years ago.) :D
 
McDaniel said:
i know the feeling, i was like that for a while - i just kept myself busy with little taks like cleaning up, doing stuff for my folks when i was at home etc..

But what others have said is right, its only been 2 weeks and she sounds like she's not interested at the moment. Doesnt mean it wont be forever.

And if you do end up in the friends zone you WILL get over it and you;ve gained a friend, no major loss.
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she is always sending me messages on myspace etc... i think i need to step up before it becomes too friendly, but at the same time, i did only kiss her 2 days ago... i mean don't you think i should give her more time?
 
krooton said:
Stay her friend, but move on, you will only prolong the agony by waiting, as she will move from one other guy to the next, always turning to you for compassion when it fails.

Trust me, wasted 2 years of my life following a girl that I thought I loved around when I was 18-20... what a damn waste.
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know the feeling

i spent 14-17 thinking about ths girl...

messed up my life for 3years. now i know never to care that much .. sounds harsh but thats what im left with.. cold brutal non existant heart :) nah, ill fall for someone else, im sure of it
 
You say the kiss wasn't natural and passionate like?

Could you elaborate the circumstances surrounding it?
 
G|mp said:
Your profile says 19-20

But you sound like your 12


Get over it ffs
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Normally in this sort of thread I'm full of healthy, supportive advice, but Gimp has got it in one. You've known her for 2 weeks, so if every previous relationship seems shallow, maybe it was. But you aren't even in a relationship with her, you barely know her.

Laugh at yourself, crack on out, go hang with your mates and live your life. Get over it, give her that space she needs, she'll either come running or she won't.

Ant :cool:
 
dhjjessel said:
she is always sending me messages on myspace etc... i think i need to step up before it becomes too friendly, but at the same time, i did only kiss her 2 days ago... i mean don't you think i should give her more time?
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She sounds very confused, let her know you like her and will always be a friend but your not gonna wait around for her to decide (though im sure she dont want you too anyway) and if she wants something more she knows your number, but i wouldnt continue to kiss her or whatever unless you know where you stand, as you could end up getting trampled over.
 
lemonkettaz said:
know the feeling

i spent 14-17 thinking about ths girl...

messed up my life for 3years. now i know never to care that much .. sounds harsh but thats what im left with.. cold brutal non existant heart :) nah, ill fall for someone else, im sure of it
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Oh I did, I met this woman who blew me away when I was 21, first proper love, now have a different and even more amazing lady in my life :D

Both just happened, neither were forced in any way :)
 
krooton said:
You say the kiss wasn't natural and passionate like?

Could you elaborate the circumstances surrounding it?
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i was leaving... took a long time (i suck at that kind of thing) but it was a kiss as though i was leaving that then lingered and became a kiss on the lips... but far from deep and passionate.
 
oh and dude, for god sake do not sit listening to sad songs... thats the worst!!!

/me puts on Oasis - Stop Crying Your Heart Out

*cries*
 
krooton said:
Oh I did, I met this woman who blew me away when I was 21, first proper love, now have a different and even more amazing lady in my life :D

Both just happened, neither were forced in any way :)
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hmm cool

im 19 and nowt has happened for 2year.. relationship wise

so im glad im still in with a chance
 
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