Girlfriend...

EvilDreams said:
Ohhhh the drama.

Makes me appreciate my single status.

*sits at computer in underwear eating sausage roll*
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This. lol

Don't do anything. She'll be back, chicks love drama! She's probably on the phone bitching about you to all her friends right now, but that's good, she's doing what makes her happy, bitching about the drama she caused from overreacting.
Why would you want her back? You know all girls turn into their mothers...
 
Reginald said:
In a situation like this I think you need to remember that you're in this relationship for the girl not her mother. You can complain to your girlfriend about her mum but really, nothing is going to come of it. If the comments were aimed at you and were detrimental to your relationship then perhaps you would have something to complain about. What do you reaaaaaaallly have to complain about other than that she's annoying.. In this case it's the mothers nature to boast and be a fusspot (images of mrs bucket coming up)...you will not park there..oh how dare you not eat this greasy fish and chips! She's not going to change so if you love the girl..just deal with it. I appreciate that you may find her annoying at times but if you're in their house there's not a great deal you can do except respect her. Yes, your girlfriend seems a bit OTT with the crying and running to mummy and daddy (age?) but women can get oversensitive sometimes... perhaps just tell her that her mum isnt that bad, you just fancied some time alone to cuddle her uninterrupted.
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You know this makes sense.
 
No I don't want things to end just because her mother was being an ass. I'm not going out with her mother am I... Besides, she looks and acts absolutely nothing like her mum! :)
 
sarutobi said:
those were examples of untactful phrases
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I have to agree I'm afraid.

Plus she does have a point about staying indoors with such great weather, even though you wanted to watch something on tv. If you had compromised beforehand about going out before/after...but that's me saying what you should have done. ;)
 
How old are you if you dont mind me asking?
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21 mate, and we did compromise on the weather thing, first we went out shopping and crap, and sat out in the garden for ages, then we went and watched the Wales match ... I just have the view that it's nothing to do with her mother what we do.
 
You cant take the "Im dating her, not her mum" stance unfortunately.

In the future, it WILL impact your relationship at some point as it is something you will allways see differently on.

Please dont get me wrong, but at 21 years old, how many 5 year+ relationships have you had?

If you REALLY like this girl then you are going to have to "SUCK IT UP" as in 5 years time with the same attitude, youll be lucky to still be together.
 
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Well, this is the worst time now, I can't ring her up because she will probably be arsy, or even refuse to pick up... Which means I won't get a wink of sleep tonight.

You cant take the "Im dating her, not her mum" stance unfortunately.

In the future, it WILL impact your relationship at some point as it is something you will allways see differently on.
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Hmm, I suppose you're right, if she decides she still wants things to work then I'll have to make more of an effort to just bite my tongue regarding her mother... although I don't know what's happening now seeing as she ran straight off to mummy to tell her what I'd said... :(
 
K1LLSW1TCH said:
No I don't want things to end just because her mother was being an ass. I'm not going out with her mother am I... Besides, she looks and acts absolutely nothing like her mum! :)
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You fail at understanding women. Do the manly thing and hit her (the girl not the mum) over her head with your club and drag her back to your cave. Why should you get kicked out even if it is her house. What ever you do though, and this is important, dont call her, let her call you to do the moaning first. Wait till she effectively asks for the apology but never ever ever offer the apology first especially when you are right. Otherwise you are and will forever be that spec of dirt under the thumb. Oh you will have to apologise, that is a foregone conclusion, whether you are right or wrong with women but timing is everything. Good luck.
 
Youre welcome

To be honest, I really wouldnt think about it too much. Her mums annoying..full stop. Deal with it. In 5+ years as people are talking about.. if you guys are still happy together..then surely her mum wont even be an issue.. you'll probably have your own place! I know mums are a pain.. my boyfriend is living with me too but he's learned to just accept her occasional moods and just deal with it. It wont be for long and it keeps everyone happy.

Really dont worry about it too much.. I know it feels like everything when she wont speak to you but get a good nights sleep and go and see her tomorrow. Girls just want to be appreciated and loved and yes they do have their unexplainable retard moods.. shes upset because you insulted her mother.. so just make her realise how much you care about her and say that you will spend all your time at hers if she wants just to be with her.. just tell the gf that you dont really hate her mum but you really crave time alone with her because you care about her soo deeply and love being with her. Then give her a huge hug and say sorry. should work! :)

and if you cant sleep.. familyguynow.com ;)
 
Worst case scenario:

She told her folks everything and Your dumped :( - I doubt that will be the case though.

2nd Worse Scenario:

She's told her folks everything BUT still wants to continue dating.

This would stink, but to be fair, youve orchestrated this yourself and personally would put it down to experience and forget about it. How many blokes out there do you think "put up" with their in-laws for the sake of their partners? :)

Show the parents what a true man you are and say sorry to their face and offer to take them all out for a meal. Extra brownie points maybe?

YES, it is sucking up, but your doing this for your g/f, winning her folks around will make things a LOT easier else they will be constantly nagging in her ear that your no good for her and to get rid.

To be honest, if a b/f of my daughter came into MY house and slated my Mrs, I dont think my daughter would ever see him again.

Best Scenario: She forgives you and has NOT told her folks.

Your a lucky SOB and need to be on best behaviour for a LONG time.

I think that deep down, you know you had a retard moment but now have to face the music. You will have worse to come so just suck it up. I hope everything works out for you.

Keep us posted.
 
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Youre welcome

To be honest, I really wouldnt think about it too much. Her mums annoying..full stop. Deal with it. In 5+ years as people are talking about.. if you guys are still happy together..then surely her mum wont even be an issue.. you'll probably have your own place! I know mums are a pain.. my boyfriend is living with me too but he's learned to just accept her occasional moods and just deal with it. It wont be for long and it keeps everyone happy.

Really dont worry about it too much.. I know it feels like everything when she wont speak to you but get a good nights sleep and go and see her tomorrow. Girls just want to be appreciated and loved and yes they do have their unexplainable retard moods.. shes upset because you insulted her mother.. so just make her realise how much you care about her and say that you will spend all your time at hers if she wants just to be with her.. just tell the gf that you dont really hate her mum but you really crave time alone with her because you care about her soo deeply and love being with her. Then give her a huge hug and say sorry. should work!

and if you cant sleep.. familyguynow.com
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Thanks for cheering me up anyway :) really nice post :) I'll give her a call tomorrow afternoon and then hopefully meet up with her in the evening to sort everything out :)
 
Gimpymoo, I know she's at least told them what I said about the mother. I hope she still wants to carry on seeing me but I suppose right now I shouldn't worry about it because it's out of my hands now. I guess all I can do is try and apologise to her tomorrow if she'll speak to me. Hopefully it'll go well, although i have this sinking feeling that there'll be a "Dumped" thread on here tomorrow :-/
 
Gimpymoo said:
Worst case scenario:

She told her folks everything and Your dumped :( - I doubt that will be the case though.

2nd Worse Scenario:

She's told her folks everything BUT still wants to continue dating.
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I would say the 2nd scenario is worse. This would stay with you for the whole relationship. At least in scenario 1, a month of tears and heart ache later you are free of all burden.
 
Hang on - you think you're dumped because of those comments you made about her mother, to her? Blimey.
 
Ok.. I know some on here may not agree with me on this, but if you have a bit of cash... do this:

Goto your local florists and arrange for 2 bouquets to be sent to her address first thing tomorrow morning, one for the g/f and another for her mum. Add the obligatory cards saying your sorry etc.

DONT CONTACT HER UNTILL SHE HAS RECEIVED THE FLOWERS, and even then, leave it at least an hour after.

Will cost about £40 perhaps but depends how serious you are about her and how sorry you are?

Likely, if she has decided to dump you, it would have been a joint decision with her mum. Just turning up will likely not make any difference if she has.

The flowers will give them food for thought and will at least buy you a few minutes to lay on the charm :)
 
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K1LLSW1TCH said:
I guess all I can do is try and apologise to her tomorrow if she'll speak to me. Hopefully it'll go well, although i have this sinking feeling that there'll be a "Dumped" thread on here tomorrow :-/
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Wtb "some balls" please. You are in the right here, dont fold on this.
 
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