Girlfriend's Contributions

Efour · 18 Jun 2015 at 18:45

Well im for once glad to be proved utterly naive on the subject

Locky · 18 Jun 2015 at 18:56

You will end up splitting up at some point and she will end up trying to rape every penny from you which she doesn't deserve. Nearly all women are programed to do this..

Haggisman · 18 Jun 2015 at 20:42

Locky said:
You will end up splitting up at some point and she will end up trying to rape every penny from you which she doesn't deserve. Nearly all women are programed to do this..

And if the roles were reversed a guy wouldn't try to do exactly the same?

People are ***** regardless of gender

Shoza · 18 Jun 2015 at 20:50

arknor said:
wasn't their a thing a few years ago where some woman claimed her bill payments contributed to the mortgage and she won? pretty sure it was only someones GF and no kids

There must have been something specific for that to happen. Find the case and I'll check otherwise it's a non issue for a normal unmarried couple living together where one doesn't make material contributions to the mortgage / outgoings.

helpimcrap · 18 Jun 2015 at 20:53

I'm maybe being naïve but what is the problem exactly? She wants to move in, she wants to contribute.... she might want more....

NoNameNoNumber · 18 Jun 2015 at 21:05

Me and my Mrs put a ⅓ of our wages each into a joint account that covers mortgage, tax, bills etc etc... Works well for us

Haggisman · 18 Jun 2015 at 21:06

So... a safe way to deal with this could potentially be, that every month, you pay the full mortgage and put her half of the payment in a savings account.

If it ever comes to the point where she leaves and it turns out she has a claim on the property, simply use those savings to buy her out. If it never happens then you have a nice pot of money to play with

CREATIVE!11 · 18 Jun 2015 at 21:08

arknor said:
wasn't their a thing a few years ago where some woman claimed her bill payments contributed to the mortgage and she won? pretty sure it was only someones GF and no kids

Don't you dare be cynical mister!

*Dons his fedora*

Princesses never do such things!

Locky said:
You will end up splitting up at some point and she will end up trying to rape every penny from you which she doesn't deserve. Nearly all women are programed to do this..

They think paying a few bills means having a claim in someones hard earned house/savings. I don't know how any man this day and age can be stupid enough to commit financial suicide by getting married for example.

Good luck to you sir.

There is a good book for you all to read. http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Manipulated-Man-Esther-Vilar/dp/1905177178

Written by a woman too, she still gets death threats to this day because of this book.

Iraklis F.C. · 19 Jun 2015 at 20:19

Skidder said:
Along time a go my GF moved in with me and said she wanted to contribute. I let her do bills and I did everything else. Now we are married and conveniently I pay everything.

its a trap!

arknor · 19 Jun 2015 at 20:50

Shoza said:
There must have been something specific for that to happen. Find the case and I'll check otherwise it's a non issue for a normal unmarried couple living together where one doesn't make material contributions to the mortgage / outgoings.

I can't be arsed to google but I'm convinced I read such an article a few years ago.

Maybe it wasn't just bills but she paid towards repairs and renovations or something.

but anyway I'd seek legal advice rather than risk half a house

Shoza · 19 Jun 2015 at 21:49

arknor said:
I can't be arsed to google but I'm convinced I read such an article a few years ago.

Maybe it wasn't just bills but she paid towards repairs and renovations or something.

but anyway I'd seek legal advice rather than risk half a house

If they made a contribution towards renovations and repairs then that would explain it and logically they should have some interest in a property where they have contributed towards the value.

itchy · 19 Jun 2015 at 22:09

We have deal, she pays the bills and I pay for everything else.

Food, clothing, holidays, repairs, cars etc. Unfair to go 50/50 as I earn a lot more so they have a good life!

[FnG]magnolia · 19 Jun 2015 at 22:47

I'm not sure where to plant my flag between the people who have good, currently, relationships (me, others) and the other extreme who demand pre-nups/property ownership/solicitors and all of the cost and effort which that entails, based on good, historic events that they went through or witnessed.

I understand that this is not advice, just comment.

CREATIVE!11 · 20 Jun 2015 at 00:20

Iraklis F.C. said:
its a trap!

called a walking wallet.