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Yes, thats the way to do it.St0rmer66 said:I would have TOLD her I'm taking her out to dinner.
girls and ladies what do you really mean when you say "maybe"?
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Then she will love it!* On Valentines day, (edit here) actually BEFORE valentines day so she doesn't make other plans, just say "I'm taking you out to dinner to <x place> at <x time>", simple as that! Can we get to a thread with a real issue now please?tbs said:its meant to be a surprise
.*to elaborate further, you need to realise that it really is the THOUGHT that counts (ah yes, that old cliché). As long as a woman knows you thought about her then what the actual gift/present/suprise doesn't matter so much (as long as you don't take her to McDonalds or something silly
)./edit2: AND, what's the worst that could possibly happen? She says no... you move on. If she said no to me I would just say "oh, I'll have to take somebody else then" (and SMILE at her while you say it), and I would take someone else as well! (preferably asking the next person right in front of her).
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Either playing hard to get or not sure if she has plans or doesn't want to but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by just saying no so making it more of an "i'll get back to you" thing.
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JayMax said:
Oh you're good!
St0rmer66 said:Then she will love it!* On Valentines day, (edit here) actually BEFORE valentines day so she doesn't make other plans, just say "I'm taking you out to dinner to <x place> at <x time>", simple as that! Can we get to a thread with a real issue now please?
*to elaborate further, you need to realise that it really is the THOUGHT that counts (ah yes, that old cliché). As long as a woman knows you thought about her then what the actual gift/present/suprise doesn't matter so much (as long as you don't take her to McDonalds or something silly
/edit2: AND, what's the worst that could possibly happen? She says no... you move on. If she said no to me I would just say "oh, I'll have to take somebody else then" (and SMILE at her while you say it), and I would take someone else as well!
im not taking her out on valetines day, im taking her out on saturday, cause i have uni on tuesday, and shes studies in brighton, and im in southampton. that is why im doing it on the wkend.
ive plan to meet her, and give her some flowers and surprise her and say "we're not staying in brighton, im taking you to london." then when we're there, gonna make a day of it and go round to some places i have in mind. not all just a couple.
Carnary Wharf
Madame Tussauds
London Eye
Tate Modern
Science Museum
then im gonna take her to a resturant, in the evening.
thats what i have planned, but all i need is her to say yes
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tbs said:well, depends what it is
its simple cost/reward dynamic.
she says "not goin out (say)friday are we" I say "yeah, cos (insert name) asked me a few days ago and I said yeah" - cue couple of days of strops from her.
however
she says "not goin out (say)friday are we", I say "I dunno, maybe", then is a few days of peacful ignorance and a "but I've agreed to go now, and I didnt say I wasn't"
Yey for maybe.... maybe
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That was all good until the last line.tbs said:[Snipped out the good part]
thats what i have planned, but all i need is her to say yes
Clearly you have thought about it a lot, it sounds like a great day! If I was a woman and she said no I'd be down there in a flash mate
.But that last line, putting yourself down. Worrying about it. She WILL say yes, you have to believe that
. If she says no, then I will eat my hat (and actually, I would have to go buy one to be able to eat it, so I'm putting myself out on a line here!).It means try harder.
A girlfriend i had a few years asked me out to my face and i was very shocked by this and i didnt know what to say, so i said maybe, or i dont know yet.
So then i went and thought about and continued to say maybe when she asked again.
Then i said yes and went out for a happy 5 months!
So i dont know, only remembered that just now
A girlfriend i had a few years asked me out to my face and i was very shocked by this and i didnt know what to say, so i said maybe, or i dont know yet.
So then i went and thought about and continued to say maybe when she asked again.
Then i said yes and went out for a happy 5 months!
So i dont know, only remembered that just now
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KingOfAquitaine said:
You are waaaay overcomplicating things. Maybe basically means I am considering my options, I will inform you of my decision in due course. Unless I decide not to inform you. Which will be your own fault.
St0rmer66 said:That was all good until the last line.
Clearly you have thought about it a lot, it sounds like a great day! If I was a woman and she said no I'd be down there in a flash mate
But that last line, putting yourself down. Worrying about it. She WILL say yes, you have to believe that
im not putting myself down, i am just worried about the girl i used to work with putting thoughts into her head!!!
i hope you wont have to eat a hat
, but if you do, film it and post, cause that will cheer me up good! since its a surprise, i cant really expect her to expect much tbh heh-heh
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I hope I don't have to eat a hat eithertbs said:im not putting myself down, i am just worried about the girl i used to work with putting thoughts into her head!!!
i hope you wont have to eat a hat
since its a surprise, i cant really expect her to expect much tbh heh-heh
.Finally, the right attitude
. Remember, she should feel LUCKY to be asked, if she turns you down then it's her loss not yours. From what you've told me, I really don't see why she would say no though, I don't think you have anything to worry about./edit: anyway, cheese sandwich then bed for me. Keep us updated!
St0rmer66 said:I hope I don't have to eat a hat either
Finally, the right attitude
/edit: anyway, cheese sandwich then bed for me. Keep us updated!
haha, thanks mate. i will update if it all goes well, if not... well i just shy away for a few weeks
cheese sandwhich before bed? arent you scared you get nightmeres?!
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Pebbles said:
ah, but the beauty of maybe is that it means what each person wants it too. Maybe can give false hope to a person wanting a yes, and relief so a person wanting 'no'.
Tis truely a powerful weapon
Im my expirence mabye usually means just that, maybe. Just a way of not making a comitment because you may have something else to do.
Some people do use it as a way of just being a git, when they haven't got he bottle to say sorry but no. Usually fairly easy to spot, and really annoys me as being turned down is something that happens, not a problem at all, it's just when they try to insult my intelligence with some cack fob off, that i get annoyed and want to beat them to death with a haddock
Some people do use it as a way of just being a git, when they haven't got he bottle to say sorry but no. Usually fairly easy to spot, and really annoys me as being turned down is something that happens, not a problem at all, it's just when they try to insult my intelligence with some cack fob off, that i get annoyed and want to beat them to death with a haddock
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Considering you've got it all planned, your method of asking wasn't very decisive. It was kinda "wanna hang out, perhaps, if you're not doing anything?". Not really a firm "would you like to go out for the day with me?" question. Perhaps she doesn't even realise that you've actually asked her out, and just thought it was a suggestion/something casual.
And in this context, I think her response did actually mean "try harder", like some people have said. Tell her that you have something arranged, and ask her again... without the "thinking we could meet up" or "if you're not up to much"tbs said:all i said was "so i was wondering if you was doing anything on sat, thinking we could meet up, if youre not up to much?"
that was polite and formal i'd say?