girls and ladies what do you really mean when you say "maybe"?

l33t_p3t3 · 9 Feb 2006 at 09:10

Maybe she doesn't want to seem to keen.

tbs · 10 Feb 2006 at 01:37

Lostkat said:
Considering you've got it all planned, your method of asking wasn't very decisive. It was kinda "wanna hang out, perhaps, if you're not doing anything?". Not really a firm "would you like to go out for the day with me?" question. Perhaps she doesn't even realise that you've actually asked her out, and just thought it was a suggestion/something casual.

And in this context, I think her response did actually mean "try harder", like some people have said. Tell her that you have something arranged, and ask her again... without the "thinking we could meet up" or "if you're not up to much"

but how? i dont want to sound too "desperate" in my way. i mean i like her, but im not gonna be a push over to and beg her to go, if you know what i mean

Lostkat · 10 Feb 2006 at 06:57

tbs said:
but how? i dont want to sound too "desperate" in my way. i mean i like her, but im not gonna be a push over to and beg her to go, if you know what i mean

Rather than saying "yeah, if you wanna go out sometime, if you're not busy", which is so casual that you almost sound like you really cba, just say "Do you want to do something on Saturday?" or suchlike. Doesn't take much. You're just omitting the "I was thinking" and "If you're not up to anything else". It's not begging at all, it's just a firm question rather than a watery "if, maybe" question. You're more likely to get a definitive answer to a firm question than a watery one.

tbs · 10 Feb 2006 at 10:31

Lostkat said:
Rather than saying "yeah, if you wanna go out sometime, if you're not busy", which is so casual that you almost sound like you really cba, just say "Do you want to do something on Saturday?" or suchlike. Doesn't take much. You're just omitting the "I was thinking" and "If you're not up to anything else". It's not begging at all, it's just a firm question rather than a watery "if, maybe" question. You're more likely to get a definitive answer to a firm question than a watery one.

what i meant was, since ive already asked her, how am i going to ask her again.