Well this guy swore and made a personal attack against someone on the forum so I dont see the restriction you're on about! So long as you get on with the mods you can get away with a lot. Same as in any other forum/real life!
Go on, have your say - why me?
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Well this guy swore and made a personal attack against someone on the forum so I dont see the restriction you're on about! So long as you get on with the mods you can get away with a lot. Same as in any other forum/real life!
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DMPoole.. I know exactly how you feel mate.
For me, the forums are about exchanging knowledge (both ways), sharing experiences and just to have a bit of a giggle but there are those are intent to bring others down.
It's quite worrying when people resort to emails but you are not the only one who has received such abuse in the past.
You may recall I asked the forums a basic maths question to help with my daughters home work. Must have been about 2 years ago now. Anyway, I got really slated and told that I should be ashamed for not knowing. I got posts saying I'm not exactly a good father figure. I even received a few abusive emails. However, apart from a few people here, no one knows me personally or what I’m like as a person. So I take it on the chin and treat it as ignorance.
For me, the forums are about exchanging knowledge (both ways), sharing experiences and just to have a bit of a giggle but there are those are intent to bring others down.
It's quite worrying when people resort to emails but you are not the only one who has received such abuse in the past.
You may recall I asked the forums a basic maths question to help with my daughters home work. Must have been about 2 years ago now. Anyway, I got really slated and told that I should be ashamed for not knowing. I got posts saying I'm not exactly a good father figure. I even received a few abusive emails. However, apart from a few people here, no one knows me personally or what I’m like as a person. So I take it on the chin and treat it as ignorance.
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Like many on this forum I have been around for years but only contribute when I feel I have something relevant to say.
Ultimately a forum is like your local pub, with the dons being the landlords/staff.
The regulars who are well known will always get more leeway and there is always a lot of insider jokes. Its part and parcel, just like the cliques that you get. The forum also goes in phases and I have seen many in the years I have been here. Its grown and developed.
Ultimately you can come in quietly, sit and enjoy your drink and the atmosphere OR you can come in, put some thrashy heavy metal on and start moshing in the bar. The latter is always more likely to get a reaction if you are new as opposed to the former.
Ultimately a forum is like your local pub, with the dons being the landlords/staff.
The regulars who are well known will always get more leeway and there is always a lot of insider jokes. Its part and parcel, just like the cliques that you get. The forum also goes in phases and I have seen many in the years I have been here. Its grown and developed.
Ultimately you can come in quietly, sit and enjoy your drink and the atmosphere OR you can come in, put some thrashy heavy metal on and start moshing in the bar. The latter is always more likely to get a reaction if you are new as opposed to the former.
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Most of last posts about the actual forum itself, i agree with, even though some contradict others.
It IS a good forum to be a member of, but there is a 'clique' of that i have no doubt.
The rules, whilst rules MUST be in place, are often disregarded by users, and not punished by mods. Sometimes it seems like it depends on the user who makes the comment as to whether he/she gets punished. I've seen some atrocious behaviour by certain users go unpunished, yet i've been suspended 3 times, 2 of which i'd argue to my grave that they were completely unjust.
I respect the hard work the mods do, been one myself, but discretionary modding is often what leads to ill feelings of 'cliqueyness' amongst the members.
It IS a good forum to be a member of, but there is a 'clique' of that i have no doubt.
The rules, whilst rules MUST be in place, are often disregarded by users, and not punished by mods. Sometimes it seems like it depends on the user who makes the comment as to whether he/she gets punished. I've seen some atrocious behaviour by certain users go unpunished, yet i've been suspended 3 times, 2 of which i'd argue to my grave that they were completely unjust.
I respect the hard work the mods do, been one myself, but discretionary modding is often what leads to ill feelings of 'cliqueyness' amongst the members.
Dave, I freely admit you got on my wick at first, and for some reason rubbed me up the wrong way, but as mentioned you've mellowed since then and I look for your posts now.
Did you report the post? Did the OP report the post?
The OP asked for opinions on why he gets certain reactions. If some of the responses overstep the boundaries then we will deal with them, but I'm not going to remove them just because they aren't flowery, sweetness and light.
Did you report the post? Did the OP report the post?
The OP asked for opinions on why he gets certain reactions. If some of the responses overstep the boundaries then we will deal with them, but I'm not going to remove them just because they aren't flowery, sweetness and light.
dmpoole - you come out with as much crap as most other posters tbh, so you are not unique or exceptional in that fact.
you frequent GD hell of a lot so should be used to the dross that most peoples threads turn into.
you frequent GD hell of a lot so should be used to the dross that most peoples threads turn into.
/runs off to hotmail..In the 7 years I've been posting here, I've never had an issue with you, I've even come to admire your level headed nature.
I've never had any hate mails, I feel left out.
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Does your daughter spell like you?!?
Most likely not - I've always had problems with spelling and maths and to be honest, I'm too old to be worrying about it now.
I don't think that is quite true.
I think if you go down the pub with your mates, you can have a debate and argue all evening without it turning into abuse. At the end of the night you can all agree to disagree, have a laugh, grab a curry or a kebab and no hard feelings.
This is not how it works on the forums. When people disagree, they take it personally or don't except the fact that everyone is entitled to an opinion. Because of the lack of social interaction, the social element has been lost.
I think this is why meets are so important.. because it puts reality behind the forums that we are indeed all human.
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Definately the latter of the 2.
I myself are guilty of acting like a complete idiot, taking my personal feelings out on something/body when really I should have just hit the power button on my PC and gone to bed. I have now learnt from that.
Its not the fault of the forum as it is the members who join it that makes it what it is now.
God, stuff like that would make me not want to come back!
I have images of of huddy posing as an old western saloon door in my head now.Slated*
Does your daughter spell like you?!?
Have to agree with that, and before anyone suggests otherwise, this isn't due to 'brown nosing' or anything else of the sort, it's simply because it's true.
That's not to say that there aren't the sort of people who would gladly snipe at you from behind their keyboard and gloat about it here. I've certainly come across those, and they're in every big internet community just like they are in real life. However, this forum tends more than most to stamp on such behaviour should it surface, and that's a good part of why I'm still semi-active here.
Such emails as mentioned in the OP are undoubtedly unacceptable, but the mere fact that they exist shows that someone has got sufficiently annoyed.
As for the cause, well, I can only speculate, and I'd probably be wrong. Sometimes there isn't a cause other than 'because they can'.
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Oh so you've seen the Greatest band ever (IMO) 4 times and I've never seen them and your tellin me I have no right to be upset!
Whilst I don't agree with personal attacks and abuse towards another forum members, especially those sent in a cowardly way to someones personal email, at the end of the day, this is a forum.
Everyone on here is from a different walk of life, and the age ranges of its members varies considerably. Some are highly qualified and some aren't, or are in the early years of secondary education and therefore level of knowledge is not that of another poster.
In addition to this, some people have had greater life experience than others and have therefore got a lot of wisdom and advice to offer others that an equal number of people here have not got.
Just look at the number of employment related posts we have, and the advice that is given in them.
At the end of the day, everyone has an opinion which we will either agree or disagree with, either because we don't like the arguement being put forward of we know that the information being supplied is incorrect, but, because we are asking someone for an opinion we cannot expect the response to be something we want to hear, but because of that, does that give us the right to stand there and slate them and ring off personal attacks and abuse? No it doesn't.
We have to accept that not everyone has the same opinion, and therefore everyone is entitled to post their views on any subject. I just don't expect people to start throwing abuse around, this isnt a school playground.
Everyone on here is from a different walk of life, and the age ranges of its members varies considerably. Some are highly qualified and some aren't, or are in the early years of secondary education and therefore level of knowledge is not that of another poster.
In addition to this, some people have had greater life experience than others and have therefore got a lot of wisdom and advice to offer others that an equal number of people here have not got.
Just look at the number of employment related posts we have, and the advice that is given in them.
At the end of the day, everyone has an opinion which we will either agree or disagree with, either because we don't like the arguement being put forward of we know that the information being supplied is incorrect, but, because we are asking someone for an opinion we cannot expect the response to be something we want to hear, but because of that, does that give us the right to stand there and slate them and ring off personal attacks and abuse? No it doesn't.
We have to accept that not everyone has the same opinion, and therefore everyone is entitled to post their views on any subject. I just don't expect people to start throwing abuse around, this isnt a school playground.
I havn't seen any examples of what you're talking about. But I am insanely jealous due to the above statement :'(as for the Les Paul thing, my friend has a Gibson Les Paul Fireburst, and I hate him
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I've given up letting you get on my nerves, but you're just one of those people who really does. Since you asked, it's mainly the "I've seen X band Y number of times", "I have the limited edition dvd" type posts. I'm sure it's just my inference, but you constantly seem to be showing off or trying to illustrate how worldly you are.
Don't think it's ever bothered me enough to mail you abuse about it, though.
Don't think it's ever bothered me enough to mail you abuse about it, though.
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