guy at work really hates me for no particular reason

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Hi,

Bit of a weird one. This guy at work hates me and I don't have a reason why.

I mean I'm very shy and quite a introvert, bit insecure and he is the exact opposite. Outgoing, chatty, confident and very popular around the office.

It's just the last 2 things he did which has confirmed my suspicions. One was not accepting my facebook friend request. I wasn't really to fussy when he refused it but he's got everyone else in the office on there. It's more the thing he did today which I really didn't like.

Basically this New Girl joined the office, nice girl about 21/22 she was sitting next to me today and I don't fancy her or anything but I was helping her with her IT problems and really just getting a bit of self confidence for myself talking to a nice girl. I noticed he messaged her on the communicator when he thought I wasn't looking, I couldn't see the message clearly but he was asking her how she felt sitting over there next to me and started badmouthing me?

I didn't say anything but it kind of hurts, guess i'm too sensitive. He's off on rotation for 3-6 months which is good I guess but tomorrow is the last day and I dunno if I should bring it up with him or not, I hate conflict but I'm quite annoyed about what he did. Told my colleague about it and he just says just be nice and don't say anything.

What should I do?
 
Start saying something. You don't have to be aggressive about it, but you can ask why he has a problem and why he's saying things about you to people. If he has a meltdown over it, he'll look bad, not you.
 
When he leaves tomorrow, glance towards said 21/22 yr old and whisper in his ear "Don't worry I'll keep her warm for your return" followed by a wink.
 
Go to HR and get him fired :)

some may think that's OTT but I despise people like this.
I do not like people where I work and I am sure people don't like me but you just keep it to yourself and get it on with life.

Did she reply saying that she was really moist and could barely control herself sitting next to you?
 
Ayahuasca said:
When he leaves tomorrow, glance towards said 21/22 yr old and whisper in his ear "Don't worry I'll keep her warm for your return" followed by a wink.
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THIS.

He won't be expecting anything of the sort from you, and he'll panic.

He'll probably then tell her about it, which you can then vehemently deny, and paint HIM as a weird creep.

You're perfectly positioned for what I like to call the "insidious takedown". These big office bully-boys with their big mouths just can't help but set themselves right up for it.
 
Grind about 20 or 30 Senokot's up to a fine powder and make him a nice strong farewell cup of Coffee.

failing that poo in his drawer.

Dave
 
He sounds insecure as ****. He's posturing and using you as the fall-guy.

Probably has a natural dislike for introverts due to his esteem issues. Probably has nothing to do with you as a person.

Honestly, either play him at his own game (strong words will probably go far to resolving this with him), tell HR and get him shafted or keep your mouth shut and carry on being seen as the whipping boy.
 
spoffle said:
What would martial arts do for him? Do you assume learning martial arts = ability?
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Learning martial arts = confidence.

going to the gym has a similar affect, but what would you know?

Still on ignore BTW, just couldn't resist a peek at your post.
 
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