guy at work really hates me for no particular reason

Well, assuming that you are an IT guy and he is not, than the solution is simple.

Use his internet to commit credit card fraud and other such fraud. Post extremist views somewhere etc, about some sort of terrorist attacks, match his writing style and plant evidence to support this in some way. Create a jimmy savile appreciation club in his name.

Dont make it too easy for MI5
 
"Hi *Insert Alpha*. Its come clear to me that you dont like me, I accept that, but if I see you trying to badmouth me to other people again HR will hear about it. ******* *****"

Its time for you to come out of your shell a bit dude. The gym and such things do actually have a profound affect on confidence.
 
Why do you care?

You have to work with him, you don't have to take his member in your mouth mate. Lighten up!

The thing about work is you will work with people who are just ***** sometimes, some jobs have none, some jobs have a lot.
 
Extroverts can find Introverts very annoying / frustrating as they don't give them the same recognition / attention as those that sit in the middle.

Shyness can also come across to some as arrogance which is why its best to try and introduce yourself to everyone in a workplace otherwise the attention seeking lot will feel hurt.

If your bothered about it you could probably get him on side by giving him some positive attention, otherwise just ignore him.

That said he might just be a bit of a prat,
 
You're gonna have to learn to deal with this yourself OP. You're not going to get very far in your career if someone is badmouthing you, it upsets you and you don't do anything about it.

Just talk to the guy, see what is beef is and deal with it.
 
Just tell everyone that you rebuffed his sexual advances and he's taken it badly.
Then as he passes by you, yelp and shout "if you touch my ass just once more i'll report you".
It'll be a laugh if nothing else :D
 
You could invite him to a chilli cook-off competition and when he tries to make you eat pube-filled chilli you could switch it out and then make him eat his parents.
 
OP: "halp there's a nasty man at work who h8s me"
GD: "go to the gym"
wtf?

Are we saying all the hilariously preened walking walnuts are actually not the adonis-like Alphas they purport to be, but instead are total Gamma-males who are desperate to fill the empty void of self-confidence within?

OP: the dude is a douche, and he's got a small knob. Try and express your personality with your work colleagues a bit more and build relationships with normal people. The more you do it the easier it gets, and people with see through whatever stuff he's putting out there about you, and see that he's a moron.

And being introverted isn't the same thing as being shy. The two are commonly used as synonyms of each other, but it's not correct. You can be a shy extrovert, or a confident and outgoing introvert. If you are merely shy, then it's something to work on overcoming - anxiety or whatever - by practicing.
 
I THINK YOU SHOULD GET TO KNOW HIM I AM SURE HE SI A SWEET MAN WITH FEELINGS AND MAYBE YOU COULD GO TO THE CINEMA AND WATCH A FILM AND THEN HAVE A MEAL AND THEN WITH THE SEXY WHOOP WHOOP!
 
gogopops said:
Basically this New Girl joined the office, nice girl about 21/22 she was sitting next to me today and I don't fancy her or anything but I was helping her with her IT problems and really just getting a bit of self confidence for myself talking to a nice girl. I noticed he messaged her on the communicator when he thought I wasn't looking, I couldn't see the message clearly but he was asking her how she felt sitting over there next to me and started badmouthing me?

I didn't say anything but it kind of hurts, guess i'm too sensitive. He's off on rotation for 3-6 months which is good I guess but tomorrow is the last day and I dunno if I should bring it up with him or not, I hate conflict but I'm quite annoyed about what he did. Told my colleague about it and he just says just be nice and don't say anything.

What should I do?
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I don't tend to add work colleagues on Facebook unless I think I'm likely to keep in touch after I leave.

He may be confident, but he doesn't sound very professional. No reason to badmouth a colleague to a new starter. I have had colleagues I haven't liked, but professionally you just get on with your job and talk to them when you have to.

Don't say anything to him, but if he's acting unprofessional, maybe take it up with HR/your manager if it bothers you that much.
 
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He doesn't really sound like a bully to me, he just sounds like a polar opposite of the OP.

Nothing to take to HR about either.

Either talk to him about it, or pull your socks up and get on with your life.

Why on earth would you send a friend request to colleagues at work?
 
Don't see why he's even bothering about the fella when he leaves work tonight for 6 months.
 
Freefaller said:
He doesn't really sound like a bully to me, he just sounds like a polar opposite of the OP.

Nothing to take to HR about either.

Either talk to him about it, or pull your socks up and get on with your life.

Why on earth would you send a friend request to colleagues at work?
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Yeah this is a mistake, if your not his friend don't send a request. It's an easy way to be rejected.
 
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This is the only viable option.
 
You clearly aren't very respected around the office for someone to start openly bad mouthing you, maybe you should grow a pair, start making an effort to be more outgoing and stop describing yourself as insecure and introvert
 
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