Hassle form parents for playing computer games?

Steampunk said:
Just tell them if they'd prefer you were at the pub with your mates drinking and doing who knows what, or down on the sofa watching some reality TV nonsense. Truth is they will never understand, because they just want you to do what they want, and be happy with it.

Get out from under their roof and then you can live by your own rules. They will then complain that you are wasting money on rent and they never see you, but it's either that be driven insane by your parents still treating you like a child instead of a grown-up.

When they tear up and ask you why you are leaving and abandoning them, make sure you tell them it's because your Dad told you that you needed to grow up and take responsibility for your life, so that's what you're doing.
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Did this happen to you? I'm genuinely curious as it's so specific.
 
Steampunk said:
Just tell them if they'd prefer you were at the pub with your mates drinking and doing who knows what, or down on the sofa watching some reality TV nonsense. Truth is they will never understand, because they just want you to do what they want, and be happy with it.

Get out from under their roof and then you can live by your own rules. They will then complain that you are wasting money on rent and they never see you, but it's either that be driven insane by your parents still treating you like a child instead of a grown-up.

When they tear up and ask you why you are leaving and abandoning them, make sure you tell them it's because your Dad told you that you needed to grow up and take responsibility for your life, so that's what you're doing.
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Yea. You hit the nail on the head. They'll only miss me when I'm gone and probably visa versa. But then I'll have my own space to go back to and be able to do my own thing.


There was nothing wrong with what I was doing at all. They just don't get it. Different generation, different culture.
 
ADT said:
My parents are similar. Always gave me grief for gaming, yet they can sit there staring into a tv screen for hours.
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Mine did the same.

When I was 16.

OP: Either just ignore the fool (that's best at a mature age) and get on with what you're doing ("Whatever" is the best thing you can say, and think, honestly) OR move out and get fully independent.

It sounds like you're not having an easy time breaking from that teenage, under the thumb, mind set while you're living with your folks.

You're a grown adult, for ***** sake! Act like it! No histrionics, no arguments, no desperately defending your position and escalating situations... just... "whatever, Dad."

You know what you like to do in your spare time. The judging eyes of others have absolutely nothing to do with it.
 
opethdisciple said:
My gaming system is up in the loft where my dad keeps all his paper work, so came in to find me gaming and then went off on one. "This is not the behavior of a 33 yr old and that I need to get some responsibilities...."
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It's subjective, but I read somewhere last year that the average age of a gamer is 36, which incidentally is my own age!

Step-dad is 76 and he still loves his flight sims. Been a gamer since 8-bit / early 1980s.

Grandparents (86 and 90) aren't gamers, but they are proficient with tablets, will tweet holiday photos etc no probs.

Nothing will change your dad I'm afraid OP. Get out of there asap, even if it means renting for a while.
 
Wait till you get a GF r wife then you get it in the ear far worst....;)


Maybe your old man is just getting you trained for when you do get a woman...:D
 
OpenToSuggestions said:
Either way 33 years old is too old to live at home and you really need to move out.
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Rubbish

There is no right and wrong age, you move out when you are ready and this situation it seems you need to get out... But don't think moving out will give you a better life, it didn't with me. Been living on my own for about 6 years or more now and it's still a bag of **** just with more independence
 
[FnG]magnolia;28205037 said:
Did this happen to you? I'm genuinely curious as it's so specific.
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LOL! More or less. As the child of immigrant parents from two different Mediterranean cultures brought up in the UK, there's always been a massive cultural gap between their expectations and mine. Being into technology and computers at a time when the pace of change has never been faster, it seems I'm part of the first generation that learned to adjust to a fast pace of change - something my parents really never managed to be comfortable with. Working in IT doesn't help as that is really black magic to people of that generation, and it's something they just don't understand. They certainly didn't understand computer games, though drinking in cafes with his mates and betting on horses seemed more acceptable to my Dad.

And like the OP, it didn't matter what you did, it was never good enough. If you were in all the time, they wanted you to go out and do something constructive, and if you were out all the time, they complained that they never saw you and you were obviously up to something bad.

Unfortunately, my parents always seemed to see things through a negative light - the glass is always half empty. It's unsurprising when you understood where they came from and what they went through, but it still meant they always tried to guilt and boss their kid into living life the way they did, as their parents did to them.

It's an unfortunate fact that family are the people close to you, and are the people that can hurt and wound you the most, and in the end just being family isn't a pass or guarantee you will even like (let alone understand) each other. So the sane person realises that you can't live your life trying to please parents that can never be pleased, so you live your own life in the way you want, and that's all you can do.

So although my parents love me in their own way, they don't approve of my choices, understand my life or even know me as a person that well. I guess they just have this image of me as the first son in their head, and that's enough for them. And that's why I moved out as soon as soon as I could at the age of about eighteen, and I kind of like being the (slightly) black sheep of the family. They think I'm selfish, but I'm not prepared to compromise my life to try and please people than can't be pleased, as that way lies madness and unhappiness. They can't help it, but they are pretty toxic given half a chance, so I tend to hold them at arms length because life's to short for that ****. It helped a lot that I found someone I wanted to move in with quite young and on the other side of town, so I was as much running towards a person/life I wanted as much as putting some distance between me and the parents with dramatically different life expectations for me.

I also saw what happened to cousins who had their life dictated by the parents (including arrange marriages that then crashed and burned badly), so I've consciously put myself outside of that kind of overbearing influence from a potentially stifling family from a very young age. I wanted to make my own decisions, no matter if they were wrong, they are mine to make, no one else's. I'm sure my experiences are not that different from a lot of other people's, and in that respect it's just one of those things that we are more alike than different.

As a side note, after watching "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", my wife did say that was our life, and the Dad was only half a step away from mine.
 
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I just turned 29 this week and I'm still with the parents.

I know how you feel although my dad gave up on giving me grief a long time ago. Can you not move the computer to your own personal space where he wont just happen upon you so often?

The sad thing is you will probably never change his views. Nor will he ever understand yours. Just got to put up with it until you move out I guess.
 
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