Help me sort my head out. :(

Yes i was a pratt for signing it over, i thought it would win her back. It didn't. I don't know why i did it now, i think i was just depressed.

I got 6k, but the figure should have been a lot more, but that is all she had. Despite everything she has done i don't have it in me to hate her.

What do i do if in months time i still can't forget her? What then?

I've done the one night stand thing since, it didn't feel right.

I don't think that was her intention. Seeing that guy in my house really messed me up, i should have kicked his teeth in, but i just felt too upset to do it. Shoulda coulda woulda.... blah.

LAst time i cut contact i drunk quite a bit in my flat. I drank too much when i got back last night. I hope i dont do that.
 
Some girls out there are looking for a guy who will just treat them nicely, unfortunately they're few and far between.

You did everything you could to try and make her happier. It really is time to stop trying. I know many girls who would kill for a guy who would do all this, and I mean the simple things like taking her out for meals in an attempt to keep her not just the big things.

If in a month's time you're still thinking about her that just means you're normal it will take a long time as you were together a long time. But that doesn't mean she is the only person who will make you feel like this. You just have to stay positive.
 
Matt-Page said:
Yes i was a pratt for signing it over, i thought it would win her back. It didn't. I don't know why i did it now, i think i was just depressed.

I got 6k, but the figure should have been a lot more, but that is all she had. Despite everything she has done i don't have it in me to hate her.

What do i do if in months time i still can't forget her? What then?

I've done the one night stand thing since, it didn't feel right.

I don't think that was her intention. Seeing that guy in my house really messed me up, i should have kicked his teeth in, but i just felt too upset to do it. Shoulda coulda woulda.... blah.

LAst time i cut contact i drunk quite a bit in my flat. I drank too much when i got back last night. I hope i dont do that.
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Only those who have loved will know, understand and entirely relate to your situation.

When your in love, you will do pretty much anything to stay with the person that completes you. In your case, you gave her the house and made other sacrificies which you probably normally would not have done.

Don't beat yourself up over it. We've all done stupid things in the name of love. Be proud that you tried your hardest to fix things.

What you need to do is seperate from her completely, sever all ties, its the only way you will move forward.

You also need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and focus on other things in your life. Pick up your sports, do things with your mates, but don't rush out trying to replace her with someone new, because thats both unfair to you and any potential new girlfriend.

This will not be easy for you, and I wont lie to you, it has and probably will hurt like hell for sometime.

But, you will become a stronger and better person for it. Just have faith that things will get better.

Anyway, just my 2p.
 
Its hard to say what you should do but i know what i'd do..how about this suggestion.

It seems to me that she has made the decision for you by her attitude and actions over a longish period of time. You almost definitely do need to cut off ties and you do need to be strong about it. You really need the attitude that your better than this and you could do a lot better for yourself down the line. If neccessary explain what your going to do about things in a letter and post it to her :p explaining briefly why and that you'd like to move on with your life once and for all and insist on not being friends.

Then make no further deliberate contact and make sure she has no way of contacting you (change mobiles etc etc). You live near? no probs! just act grumpy and she'll soon get bored, its a time to be strong minded, determined and show her your not a doormat.

It'd probably do you good to really push on with this exercise business imo, why? not because your neccessarily massively overweight but simply to kick this stigma she might have left in your head even if you don't realise it, its something that might eat away at you further down the line. Definitely don't sort it for this minipulative little somet :p but sort it for the next girl in your life as quite obviously there will be one and most likely a lot better than her....

Is this really the sort of girl you'd like to grow old with? and spend a lifetime with? what happens in 20 yrs when your not too fat, this time your too bald for her? Theres always going to be something.

Sorry if any of this seems harsh and i hope it in someway helps, i just feel its a time to show some grit and self-confidence and keep telling yourself your someone to be reckoned with.
 
Thanks again guys. When i last spoke to her today i asked her to contact me on Wednesday with her final decision.

I thik it would be ebst from what people have said here to speak to her tomorrow and tell her i want nothing more to do with her. Tell her never to contact me again. She has to go for a test/scan on Thursday as she had a slight cancer scare, the test to make sure everything is now ok. I don't want to put her down about that because she is already down, but i guess there is no good time?

Can this thread be kept for a while, so when i am down i can re-read this and carry on my journey.
 
Matt-Page said:
Thanks again guys. When i last spoke to her today i asked her to contact me on Wednesday with her final decision.

I thik it would be ebst from what people have said here to speak to her tomorrow and tell her i want nothing more to do with her. Tell her never to contact me again. She has to go for a test/scan on Thursday as she had a slight cancer scare, the test to make sure everything is now ok. I don't want to put her down about that because she is already down, but i guess there is no good time?

Can this thread be kept for a while, so when i am down i can re-read this and carry on my journey.
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I am sure the mods will be happy to leave the thread in place mate.

Just stay focused, and don't let your judgement be swayed. Stick to your guns, the world is a big place and you will love again.
 
Is she same age as you? Personally I think girls can can be very immature with relationships they get into early. They think they know everything about life come a teenager and then realise that when things get to serious or its not how they want they go about it in childish ways to make a point.

Your still young so why waste your time and effort on a girl that has played you and walked away with a house you have spent YOUR time doing? Why hang around and wait for her to make her mind up.
 
Get rid, move on. You're only 22, plenty more life experience to be had yet. Go out and play the field a bit. You've been had by complete bitch to put it in simple terms, don't let it happen again.

Do some stuff for yourself for a change. Make yourself happy! One day you will look back at this and think 'how could I have been so stupid?'. Time is a great healer, so just cut all ties with her and move on.

Paul
 
paradigm said:
Sorry to say it, but you are being played, manipulated, and walked all over.

Cut contact and move on. In years to come you will look back and realise this.
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exactly. Does she own the house now???? after you put all that work into it. So she kicks you out, you come back for stuff and find a guy living there with her, then she asks you to do more work on the house.

Does she have a soul??? jeeezzz! She also doesnt have the guts to be straight with you and is still stringing you along!!!!! You want to get as far away from this woman as possible.

Shes an evil manipulative ******* and unfortunately some women are like this. If any woman tries to play mind games with you just drop them fast!!!
 
i had some serious mental problems/issues after breaking up with a girl i loved after 13 months at 16, it may seem naive and untrue, but it really affected me for 10 months before i could fully move on (no longer upset, and now hated her, i realised how selfish she was and how blind i was, i should have broken up with her along time ago.. for many months my life depended on her, she was the only thing good i had in my life and she ****** with my head, never again must i let a woman have that much control... :(

it may take a long time.... but just keep with it, think about the reasons why you hate her... ^^from your original post theres many ;)

give it a while and you will be find, make sure you keep busy, don't have too many rebounds but tbh they do help in a way... and remember your rebounds may not mean much to you at the time... but after a while you will meet a girl you like and she won't be a rebound.. and with any hope she'll be a much nicer person :D

edit: p.s in case your wondering I'm 18 now, and I'm with a better girl :)
 
Matt-Page said:
Yes i was a pratt for signing it over, i thought it would win her back. It didn't. I don't know why i did it now, i think i was just depressed.

I got 6k, but the figure should have been a lot more, but that is all she had. Despite everything she has done i don't have it in me to hate her.

What do i do if in months time i still can't forget her? What then?

I've done the one night stand thing since, it didn't feel right.

I don't think that was her intention. Seeing that guy in my house really messed me up, i should have kicked his teeth in, but i just felt too upset to do it. Shoulda coulda woulda.... blah.

LAst time i cut contact i drunk quite a bit in my flat. I drank too much when i got back last night. I hope i dont do that.
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If i had to say im cutting contact and for her to leave me alone i'd go straight to the point, reading through your posts she doesnt care how you feel, it goes in one ear and out the other. You need to change and not be pushed around, be nice but firm and stand up to her. Show her you dont need her and ignore her whenever she contacts you, she wants attention and you give her all she needs!

Go out? Get a hobby, your young with many more years ahead of you that could be happy if you make them that way.

Theres plenty more fish in the sea and you deserve someone better, so move on from her. It may take months but these things dont last forever.

As for re-reading this thread, not always good! If you can take it and see the postive side yes but more than likely it will just make you think of her and get you down.
 
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You need to move on and put her in the past mate, if you can't do that living locally then puts some miles between you and move away, delete any contact numbers, change yours and make sure no mutual friends will let her know where you've gone or your new digits etc.

Its not easy at first had a similar thing when I was 19 it dragged on for a few months and I just up sticks and moved back to London spent a year or so having a great time and got her out of my head. I haven't even thought about her for years, reading your thread made me think what a mug I was back then but I quickly got myself a better life.

Funnily enough I've now moved back to Essex and only live a few minutes from where she lives now (my missus picked the house), but I have a great missus and 2 excellent kids. I couldn't careless what shes up to tbh well and truely sorted me out moving away.
 
Gte rid of her mate. It was October when you split so the feelings are most likely going to be the same now. I dont mean to sound too harsh but by pestering her all the time and putting pressure on her isnt going to win her back.

It's probably already been said in this thread but delete her number and forget about her. Just sounds like she constantly wants to just use you for your skills.
 
Get rid of her forever, she's used you and treated you like dirt. You've become her handy man and that's why she wants to keep you. She's playing you, just get RID of her.

Remember, there's millions and millions of girls out there, the longer you mess about with this one the less time you'll have with the real love of your life when you find her.
 
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