Help with absenteism

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moremoney said:
Post 155 is not mine. i know because it just ain't my type of answer.

This is MY daughter the thread is about.
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So you're saying a moderator is trying to make you look bad? You should click the little RTM button on that post then.

Also that sounds exactly like your sort of post...
 
moremoney said:
This is so easy to say about people of all variaties, but we are all different, we all have different fears et,c it is all about understanding them.

You/we do not and never will understand those younger than ourselves, i am sorry to say.

But that does not mean we cannot find a connection of some sort.
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Despite what you've said so far, I can agree with that.

A lot of people say they understand children, or that they've "been there", and I don't doubt that, but everyone is different. You may understand a lot of children, and you may have been in the same situation, but everyone thinks differently, and there is no real way to know how she is feeling without her opening up to you. Yes, there are guidelines. Yes, there are connections, and general trends. But there are no set rules, and this is why you need to try every (reasonable) piece of advice given.

For some people, moving school might have worked, for others, they may simply get over it. Some might have needed a psychiatrist, some might have done nothing about it. But what worked for them, may not work for your daughter. However, that does NOT mean you shouldn't try them. In my opinion, I think you should let her sleep now, if you haven't already, take a week off work, and start following advice in this thread day by day. I know you want to get her back to school as quickly as possible, but this isn't something you can rush. Go through the advice properly and thoroughly, and if it doesn't work, try something else. Just don't dismiss it before giving it a good go.
 
moremoney said:
We have tried.
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It sounds like you have given up trying to talk to your daughter.

Have you sat down with her in a room with no distractions like TV or books, only pausing for food or sleep, for hours, even days if needs be? Until you have done this you have not tried.

If this does not work then seek help from a health professional.
 
moremoney said:
This is so easy to say about people of all variaties, but we are all different, we all have different fears et,c it is all about understanding them.

You/we do not and never will understand those younger than ourselves, i am sorry to say.

But that does not mean we cannot find a connection of some sort.
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I accept I don't know your daughter, and I was 12 a long time ago but most teenagers share similar traits. I've been in a similar situation myself on both sides of the argument. I can envisage the routine you go through every school day and see it from both points of view.

You get up for work and go through and wake your daughter at which point she says she's not going to school, then you tell her she is and you start to get frustrated, then things are said that probably should be etc, etc...

You're op states you've tried everything and made little progress, maybe you should try a different approach?
 
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Stretch said:
I accept I don't know your daughter, and I was 12 a long time ago but most teenagers share similar traits. However I've been in a similar situation myself on both sides of the argument. I can envisage the routine you go through every school day and see it from both points of view.

You get up for work and go through and wake your daughter at which point she says she's not going to school, then you tell her she is and start to get frustrated, then things are said that probably should be etc, etc...

You're op states you've tried everything and made little progress, maybe you should try a different approach?
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That is so easy to say (and i am not trying to be-little your contribution) but i have tried them all, i am just at a loss what to do anymore...............
 
This is a 12 year old child, who gives a **** about school and getting fined, something is obviously a problem for her and sorting it should be your main priority.
 
How do i report a post to a mod?

post 155 was not mine, or it was edited, but not by me.

I know because it just ain't the way i would answer.
 
moremoney said:
meaning?
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Maybe your son is messing with your posts again, like you stated in your needle thread? I can't see it a mod doing something like that. I'd suggest changing your password if you really cannot recall typing that.
 
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