House husband

i would love to be a house husband,i split up from my daughter's mother 8 months ago now and me and the ex have a great relationship,go round for dinner's ect.

my point is,if i was given the choice when we split up to look after my daughter i would have snapped her arm of to do it but our circumstances are different to your's op.

last week i had a holiday while my daughter was off as well,i took her back to my home town (southend on sea) for 4 days and i loved every second of it,she was a perfect little girl and totally enjoyed our time together,i didnt want to take her back if im honest as i felt the time we spent together alone was very very special,i am missing out on loads of things she is doing but i am kept up to date and see her nearly everyday but it's not the same as living with my daughter.

im 44 and have had the snip so perhaps my circumstance is different as im getting on now and cant have any more kids so i want to see my daughter as much as i can.

op,take the house husband job,you will get to see your little one grow up and at this age it's important to see them progress with learning ect.

im envious of your situation as i would love to do it,there is plenty of jobs to do around the house to keep you busy.
 
I've applied for voluntary redundancy 4 times in the last three years in order to become a house husband but the buggers wont let me go. Can't afford to do it without the redundancy payment.

We'll be emigrating to Squamish in Canada in August (postponed from last December) and from then on I'll be a house husband. Wife will be earning plenty as a Primary teacher over there I'll have no need to work :cool:

looking forward to taking he kids snowboarding at Whilster.
 
I don't really have the choice, it's more enforced by circumstance but I fully intend to enjoy it before I do end up back at work.

Really made me consider the possibility of going back 4 days so I will have the extra time for my son despite working as I love the time I get to spend with him now and would hate to miss out.
 
Quink said:
I've been a house husband/stay at home dad for two years now with our little girl. It's brilliant. The missus was off work for the first twelve months, so we had a lot of time together. Now the good lady is back full time and I'm running the house.

It's certainly more interesting as they get older and are able to interact more, but you'll find plenty of things to occupy your time (start making bread - it's great fun!). When they get older, then the fun can really begin!

Best decision we ever made.
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I dont have any kids but i see my nephew quite a bit. He's just got over a year long dinosaur fever that nearly drove his parents mental :p I was into Dinosaurs when i was his age but this was a different level completely! He lived a breathed the stuff!

He's now hit 5 and to me now he's getting really interesting
 
robgmun said:
He's now hit 5 and to me now he's getting really interesting
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I concur - my eldest turned 5 in Feb and I'm really finding loads of stuff to do with him - he's into model cars, we can talk in depth about how things work, bike rides, coming out in the Westfield with me etc.

My middle son is 4 next month and I don't have the same relationship with him (yet) and whilst it does make me feel a little guilty about wanting to spend more time with the elder I fully understand I'm not a "baby/toddler" kind of guy and that our relationship with strengthen as he gets older.

My youngest is 2 in August but she's just hilarious atm as she now really into climbing on everything, experimienting with words/sounds and developing her own personality. I recognise that our relationship will also strengthen as she gets older.
 
I'd love to be a house husband. Spending time with your kids and able to sort out your house, coffee mornings with the other ladies and pursue hobbies more - what's not to like?

Actually there would be one major downside, knowing that my wife isn't spending as much time with the the kids as I'd like would be quite a big deal to me.
 
I think I would hate being a house husband - Day time tele is the worst thing ever (Also a reason why I hate being sick from work :p)
 
The Halk said:
Do you regret that you have so much pride, or do you feel it's nothing to regret?
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I don't know yet, never been in a position inwhich it's been questioned to this degree.

In other ways I'm fine, i.e. me and the GF are very much 50/50 in what we spend when we go out on dates etc, I'll drive one time, she'll drive the next. It's very equal, but possibly a largely unrelated example against the topic in question.

My father is very much the same, it's just the way I was raised. I'm not sure where it stems from (in his case).

[FnG]magnolia;21724544 said:
My wife was earning more than I was. Considerably more.

I don't earn a small wage.

Sometimes there are bread-winners not a bread-winner.
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That's situational and it sounds like you did what is best for your situation at the time.

I'm not for one second saying there is something wrong with being a house-husband, simply that it's not for me, of which I understand is an outdated view.
 
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No1newts said:
I'm just dreading having my son all day. He's still young and at the stage where he doesn't interact to a level where I can get involved (not walking or anything) so I'm at a loss what to do a lot of the time :p
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I'm actually quite jealous of my wife looking after our child all day. Our little girl is 3 months old now and really good fun to be with, trying to talk, learning to crawl, getting more interactive and observant every day.

We are fortunate in that we can live off just my wage but no way could we afford to live my wife's wage.

Some men thinks childcare is a woman's job but I totally disagree, men are quite capable, although I personally think it's best for the mother to be there for bonding etc.

The times I have had her on my own we've played 'boo', gone for walks, put her in her bouncer while I do some things around the house (i.e. play Left 4 Dead 2), played with various toys and watched a bit of TV (she loves Jungle Junction and Dora).

Don't worry about what you'll do in the day, there's plenty to keep you busy, I promise, and it is great fun once you get past the initial few days/weeks!! Being a Dad is the best thing but it takes time to get used to it for sure!
 
Tyron said:
I knew a guy who was a house husband and he spent all day playing games till he had to pick the kids up. He loved it.
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That's different, when the kids are 5+ then they start school and it's a whole other ball game and i would jump at the chance
 
No1newts said:
Anyone who frequents these boards a house husband?

I may be forced into being one (at least for a few month) not by design but because the job market is dead. She starts back at work next Tuesday after the birth of our son and I will end up left at home holding the baby!

Anyone else in this situation? If so why and do you enjoy it?
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Ok been doing it now for over 3 years with my youngest two. It's great but it is not easy. It will be the hardest thing you ever do if you do it properly - to all those who say it won't be well what else do you give 100% to? And if you aren't giving 100% then what they hell are you doing. It will take some substantial adjustment - well I went from 70-100 hr weeks with no annual leave down to suddenly not working at all ... it was a shock.

You can not do it by yourself also - you need a day a week to yourself. Not having that break is not healthy for you or your kids - there is a big difference to being a dad coming in from work and dad who has to teach them to walk, crawl, eat, etc. They will need substantial social input and so will you or you will go stir-crazy. A lot of the groups will leave you feeling an outsider, health visitors will patronise the hell out of you etc I often joke I was better off in the army - I got more sleep, did less crawling in mud and certainly got screamed at less. But it is the most rewarding thing ever if you put the time in and it is a serious of high and lows - eg one week if the weather is nice it's football 3 hrs a day and colouring the patio in chalk drawings the next week the youngest may be ill and you are at the end of your tether etc.

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It's great, coffee mornings and clubs with a room full of yummy mummys :D. don't waste your time indoors, get yourselves out and about. I'd visit museums, galleries, go walking, visiting all sorts of places. Never a dull moment, stick the little one in a backpack type carrier (prefer the ones where the child is on your front, can't remember what they're called :( ) and off you go.
 
I did it for a few years, it was easy, it was also great to have a chance to gain a bond with my daughter, a bond normally synonymous with mums. If you do it right it's quite a chilled period of your life.
 
I may well become a house husband in the next years. I am not really career focused at all, I simply work to get paid (although i do try to find work that maximizes my interest and offers suitable financial reward). I just don't really care about developing a career. My other half is fairly obsessed by her career, and she loves every moment of of her work. She also gets paid substantially more than me and I doubt I could ever catch up, perhaps in 20 years or so if I keep pushing up to senior management level.

I think I am also the one more interested in children and child raising than she is.
However, i don't think we will really have any children, but if we did then I am very sure I will be the one raising them.
 
House husband, like this?

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Didnt any of you have to actually do any housework or did you dump it all on the wife when she gets home at 6:30 in the evening?

I think the fantasy will soon become a mundane reality.
 
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