How are you?

aa6972 · 5 Jan 2015 at 19:57

"Are you ok?" , "How was your day?" etc.

When people asked that, What is your response? Normally mine is "I am great you?" and then conversation go dead. How to turn it into a decent conversation?

Mynight · 5 Jan 2015 at 19:59

I reply with "could be worse" "I'm still standing".

Ask them what they've been up to. Ask them anything if the conversation still goes dead then they're probably just being pleasant.

Does this happen a lot to you?

Kosmiche · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:00

The onus is on you to say the next line, or just let the convo go dead it doesn't matter, chill out ****.

Ayahuasca · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:00

"good thanks, you"

Even if I'm not, simply because I can't be bothered explaining why to somebody who 90% of the time doesn't care anyway.

Freefaller · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:03

I go on about my life story every time, speak about bowel movements, and other intimate details of my life.

wazza300 · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:07

"**** off you nosey ****" is what im thinking in my head,but usually mumble awright

aa6972 · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:07

Ayahuasca said:
"good thanks, you"

Even if I'm not, simply because I can't be bothered explaining why to somebody who 90% of the time doesn't care anyway.

Thats my thought too.

Guess I should elaborate a little bit, I mean to people you don't really know but see everyday, like someone who work in the same building for example.

Sometime I would think may be getting to know them a bit more, then talk myself out of it for some reason.

Kelt · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:08

I sometimes reply to "how are you" with "passing away quietly".

Janesy B · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:09

Small talk is my kryptonite.

Nitefly · 5 Jan 2015 at 20:12

I tell an amazing anecdote specifically tailored to the recipient's interests.

robfosters · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:00

I always say "not bad mate"

John40 · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:04

I always reply "I don't give to beggars go away"

arknor · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:26

People are saying it to be polite and don't want an honest answer

snips86x · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:30

I'm not too bad thanks! Currently sat at Reading Services drinking a Mocha trying to burn time before my sister lands at Heathrow!

How are you?

Efour · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:31

Throat punch then eat their liver

G-MAN2004 · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:33

"How was your day?"

"Y-y-you t-t-too"

Josh · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:37

"good ta" thats it.

Conversation ends from my stand point. I haven't asked how they are because I don't care.

If they want to tell me, fine, but I will never care enough to ask.

Yaayuh! · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:37

"**** you."

sports_brah · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:41

G-MAN2004 said:
"How was your day?"

"Y-y-you t-t-too"

^^

OP, you're overthinking it, most people are literally trying to pass a pleasantry.

Its fairly easy to start the conversation, just throw it back at them.

Person: How are you?

You? Fine thanks, days going grand. Yourself?

If they just go fine or something that you cannot latch onto, it was just a pleasantry. (not masturbating or shivering with fright helps keep the conversation going).

If they go "yeah, great, nice weather helps, or "not bad, long day though" or something similar, then you've got an opening.

Truthfully, its about listening to people. I used to be terrible at such things, until one day I realised that I simply wasn't listening to people, I was just too busy saying about MY day or whatever.

Listen to people and respond.

(I still don't care what people say but I'm better at faking it.

)

QlimaxUK · 5 Jan 2015 at 21:43

JOSH86 said:
Conversation ends from my stand point. I haven't asked how they are because I don't care.

Sociopath...

Not really, I never ask either, but I do wonder what would happen if I had some kind of massive breakdown in front of them after they ask, would they be prepared for this or would it bother them if they now have to 'deal with me'

How are you?

Thug