How are you?

QlimaxUK said:
Sociopath...





Not really, I never ask either, but I do wonder what would happen if I had some kind of massive breakdown in front of them after they ask, would they be prepared for this or would it bother them if they now have to 'deal with me'
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Haha!!!

Would love to see that! :D
 
Yeah I often say not bad thanks, but I work for a Danish company, and Danes don't really do small talk. If they do ask you how you are, it generally means they want your life story for that day. I am incredibly chatty at work (primarily to avoid doing anything like work) and so I will tlak to anyone for ages about how they're doing. If you don't want to know how I am, though, don't ask me :p

If I were you, OP, if they reply when you return the question, maybe ask them if they had a good evening or weekend or something. The key to many conversations is to appear very interested in what the other person is saying, and ask them questions. Don't probe where they don't want to go, though (butthole or sex life).
 
"What's new?" is the one that bugs me.

Especially as it's asked pretty much every day by the same person. **** off.
 
I tend to respond "why are you?" then walk off as they contemplate the meaning of their own existence.
 
Depends who's asking. Most of the times I say "good thanks, you?"

But if it's this one particular guy at work then I just say "good thanks" and don't bother asking him back because he will then proceed to tell me his life story.
 
aa6972 said:
"Are you ok?" , "How was your day?" etc.

When people asked that, What is your response? Normally mine is "I am great you?" and then conversation go dead. How to turn it into a decent conversation?
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I tell them that satanic worship is going ok and my issues with self harm and animal sacrifice are fairly decent as are my plans for self immolation.

They soon **** off.
 
"Surviving, how's yourself?" is my normal response and then ask what they want.

I normally get moaned at by whoever I'm speaking to because I never "asked how they were" or they'll say randomly 'Yeah, I'm fine, thanks for asking...'. I don't care! It's petty small talk that nobody cares about, just tell me what I need to know! :p
 
People I don't like get... "Fine. Thanks" and then Ill go quiet. These people will automatically reply "Yeh. Im great, thanks." Even though they have not been asked how they are back. ******* *******. These people are on automatic and don't really give a crap how you are. I just want to get down to business and get them off the phone.

Of course friends who I talk to; the conversation never starts with 'Hi how are you'. Its more like. "Alright you ****, how the devil are you holding out. Still got that **** of a supervisor doing jack **** all day?
 
I think when worded like that, it can appear somewhat formal when in reality sometimes people are simply saying "hello". Personally, I don't always like that approach when used, for example, in the supermarket by checkout staff. A simple hello with a friendly smile is all that is needed, rather than asking me what I'm up to at the weekend. Maybe it's the Americanisation of Britain.
 
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Kamerad said:
The autism is strong in this thread.
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I'm autistic and so what? just because someone is autistic doesn't mean they are unaware of social norms or don't know how to deal with questions

for example at your barbers when the guy asks how you are he's simply trying to start up a conversation and doesn't really want to know.

some random cashier is just being polite like they are trained to be.
a close friend on the other hand is likely genuinely interested
 
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