How do you go to sleep with your partner?

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Nothing dirty but on Sunday there were 6 couples, 3 of us old and 3 of us young (parents and kids basically).

One of my daughters was on about her husbands sleeping habits and said he spent most nights in the other bedroom.
The other 4 couples then said they mostly sleep separately.
The other thing was that all 5 couples also went bed at a different time to their partners with 4 of them being the bloke going later one of them being the woman going later.

Me and my wife have always gone to bed at the same time ** for the last 45 years of marriage and always fall asleep in each others arms (aaaahhhh)

** Obviously I gig with my bands now and then so I might get in around 1am but as soon as I get in bed we cuddle.

I'm now wondering if we're actually weird.

So OCUK, do you go to bed at the same time and do you sleep in the same bed?
 
Ten years together....
Never seperate, maybe a few nights because of business trips, arguments, falling asleep on the sofa :P
Not intentionally "yet"

Quality of sleep - well im sure we are both suffering tbh. I might bring up the subject see how bad she reacts lol .
 
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It's becoming way more common to sleep separate, be that just split timings or split rooms. From my reading, although separate rooms is good for sleep, it's not good for pretty much anything else. The benefit of increased sleep quality is obviously large though, so it's a case of pick your poison. Going to bed at different times routinely (outside of some very different work/exercise/study schedules) seems like it is likely to be a net negative, however.
 
We don't have a spare bed really, but as soon as one of them moves out, I'm sleeping in a separate bed.
 
Usually snuggled up with her head on my chest, although with me having a large bed it also means we can roll over and sleep 'alone' for whatever reason.
 
Together weekdays always. Odd Saturday when she nips off to bed around 2300 and I want to game in peace on console for an hour or two. Finding it harder and harder to stay up late though, man oh man Covid perma WFH was a great time, had soo much more energy for gaming, staying up up 2am on Friday/Saturday like I was in my 20’s all over again.
 
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I tend to go to bed later than my wife, but only because I'd be in bed fidgeting around and would annoy her. We're probably talking an hour tops.

Only time we don't share a bed is either if I'm away with work, or if one of us is really ill that one of us sleeps in the spare room just to give the other a bit of a better nights sleep.

As much as I love a cuddle, I don't think I'd be able to fall asleep with her in my arms. I'm always restless in bed, I must toss and turn a good hundred times a night getting comfortable until I fall asleep. Couldn't do that cuddling.
 
I'm in singleton mode at the moment, but I like my space in bed. I'd probably have done well in yee' olden times where couples often had separate beds.

It's not from a lack of wanting to be close either, but I find it really difficult to find a temperature I'm comfortable with and I frequently suffer bouts of insomnia, which I'd not want to make some poor woman deal with.
 
I sleep in my 7 year old daughters bed while she sleeps in our bed with my wife and 2 year old son. Tells you even there is to know, packing order and stuff. At least I get good night's sleep though lol
 
Bit over 10 years together, unless one of us is out or away for work (only happens few times a year) we always go to bed together or very soon after each other. Only slept in separate room a few times when one of us was really ill.

We have little one on the way so this may change soon :)
 
Go to bed at the same time (within 10-15 mins of each other), same bed.

I sleep in the spare room if either of us is ill. I find I sleep way better even when ill. I've been wanting to bring up me sleeping in the spare room on random nights just to get no interruptions in sleep but don't want it to be awkward because it's basically her snoring that's been interrupting my sleep every night for near 5 years! :(
 
95% of the time we go to bed at the same time, unless it's a weekend and I fancy gaming until a bit later. Even that only happens every couple of months or so nowadays.

There was the odd night when our daughter was young, where she'd get in our bed and I'd go in the other room but that was only on 2 or 3 occasions a year.
 
Go to bed together (might get lucky)
Don't cuddle till we fall asleep, I get too hot.
If the missus has ever been away, it feels odd sleeping alone to start with.
 
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Normally crammed up to the side of the bed with scraps of the duvet, as she’s normally nice and wrapped up in the middle of the bed.
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Yup sounds familiar.

Oh the public shaming about my snoring, even though she snores most bloody nights as well.
 
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