How do you go to sleep with your partner?

For me and my wife it has all recently changed with her new job.
The routine is the kids in our bed with my wife to fall asleep then we transfer them to their beds and she goes to sleep but we cuddle when I get in bed. The odd night where she is still awake we cuddle. Sometimes I get in bed after moving the kids.
Used to be she would get home after 11pm from work and get into bed then we would cuddle, I didn't mind being woken up by her. Soppy git me.
 
bainbridge said:
We go to bed together, and the best thing we did to aid sleep was an idea I got from here..

Separate duvets.

It's a game changer. No more clinging to a corner of duvet, or arguments about draughts caused by tenting.

Try it, you won't regret it!
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Yes I've also heard this. Yet to deploy. Thanks for the metaphorical memory plate spin.
 
bayo000 said:
Bit over 10 years together, unless one of us is out or away for work (only happens few times a year) we always go to bed together or very soon after each other. Only slept in separate room a few times when one of us was really ill.

We have little one on the way so this may change soon :)
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Haha oh yes! As a new parent when we were going through the colic stage (I think this was probably around a month old) it was absolute hell, where we'd get woken up every hour or so. Obviously you can't do that every night as it'll wreck you, so we ended up taking shifts of a few hours and the other would go sleep in the spare room for a bit.
 
bainbridge said:
We go to bed together, and the best thing we did to aid sleep was an idea I got from here..

Separate duvets.

It's a game changer. No more clinging to a corner of duvet, or arguments about draughts caused by tenting.

Try it, you won't regret it!
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Problem is I don't find a single duvet big enough, and having a double and a single, or even two doubles on a bed would feel like you're getting swamped.
 
We go to bed at the same time, depending on the temperature and how awake I am, she’ll fall asleep on me whilst I watch my car videos on YT. Then she rolls over and then the cat comes up from the end of the bed for a cuddle.
 
savagesam117 said:
We go to bed at the same time, depending on the temperature and how awake I am, she’ll fall asleep on me whilst I watch my car videos on YT. Then she rolls over and then the cat comes up from the end of the bed for a cuddle.
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We recently banned our cat from our bedroom. While I miss the cuddles, we get much better sleep
 
Wife goes to bed first and I follow up… inevitably then waking her to discuss some inane nonsense / have attention… or by falling over etc.

Cats are banished. One of them is OK but the other one is even more of an attention whore than me.
 
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In the same, usually at the same time unless I’m gaming on the PC upstairs.

As a panzer division could drive through the bedroom without her waking, this isn’t a problem. Speaking of which, her snoring can, on occasion, make enough noise to drown out said division’s passing.
 
Not very well at the moment unfortunately.

Other half has rubbish shifts, so it's only maybe 2-3 nights in 10 that we go to bed at the same time.

Coupled with the fact our 4 year old is going through a very clingy phase means even the nights we do go to bed together I usually end up getting kicked out around 2.30am when he wakes up from a bad dream and gets in our bed!

My cat comes to the spare room with me and keeps me company though :p
 
45 years together, no arguments, no drama, and sleep like a log in the same bed.









Old lefty has done me proud!
 
My missus gets up 2-3 hours before me so goes to bed quite a while before I do

Our bed is very large so you would have to stretch to have contact :p

She also works away on average 3 nights a week
 
Separate rooms, ever since the kids came along.
She gets up stoopid-early, I stay up gaming until 3/4am and/or am out working on site. She hates dogs being in the same room, especially as the Lab snores louder than her, so I have them in with me.

Some assert that it's bad for the marriage unless you take great pains to establish and maintain intimacy in all other aspects, but it seems many people forget this and divorce stats seem somewhat inclined toward supporting that.
 
We go to bed separately. She goes up about 9:30 and and I go up about 11:45. We have a super king and separate single duvets as I’m always too warm and she’s always cold. The separate single duvets really helped with sleep quality.
 
Been with my partner 14 years and we’ve never slept apart unless work has had one of us away.

We mostly go to bed within 30 mins of each other (usually one is still finishing what they are doing) and tend to fall asleep together.
 
20 years this year, same bed but I side sleep on the very edge of the bed.

Slept apart a few times on trips away or when one of us is ill but generally always to bed to around the same time 9-11.
 
At the moment we sleep in separate rooms with a child each. It's the best we've slept for two and a half years lol. The kids sleep through the night (mostly) this way too. With twins nearly three, I'll take the sleep however I can get it lol.

It's not effected our 'fun time' either :D .
 
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