How does your life change when you move out?

sigma said:
It sounds like hardly anyone did any chores whilst they lived at home. It's no wonder you found it so strange when you moved out...

There's no set rule, everyone has a different set of circumstances.
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Or many had it too easy at home. Always had a cooked dinner on the table for them instead of doing it themselves.
 
The main thing that changed for me was my relationship with my parents - when I lived at home, they were just "there"; we got on fine and didn't argue, but I had no desire to actually spend time with them.

Now I've moved out, I've realised that I actually really enjoy their company, and we go out of our way to meet up, even though I'm living a few hours from them.
 
Moving out into the real world for the OP :p

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Tephnos said:
Funnily enough, that is the prevailing attitude in the East. They don't understand why we're so eager to leave when you can just stay with family and save money doing it.

The average age of staying with your parents is also rising pretty quickly due to how crap the economy is in recent years.
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Its not so much the economy, it's the government blocking companies from building houses.
 
Psycho Sonny said:
gas

buying appliances (tv's, fridge freezers, washing machine, dishwasher, vacuum cleaner, pressure washer, coffee machine, etc)

buying furniture (wardrobes, couches, coffee tables, etc, etc).
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Thats the biggest thing I found all the household clutter that everyone takes for granted. If you're renting you may find appliances included if you're lucky.

I went around second hand appliance shops looking for fridge freezers and even got a cooker from work someone asked if they wanted one I hired a man with a van and hauled it home. Did a fair bit of hawking around boot sales too I remember got a pile of stuff still have some of it.

Once you get on top of this stuff its fine but starting out can be a bit of a challenge. Its one of lifes experiences everyone goes through it sooner or later.
 
sigma said:
It sounds like hardly anyone did any chores whilst they lived at home. It's no wonder you found it so strange when you moved out...

There's no set rule, everyone has a different set of circumstances.
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malachi said:
Or many had it too easy at home. Always had a cooked dinner on the table for them instead of doing it themselves.
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I fear that's often the case - I've had a few interns / work experience kids and even young adults (early 20s) who whilst nice people, did have a little sense of entitlement and/or being spoilt at home.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not expecting parents to kick their kids out, but I just couldn't imagine being at my parent's home and not either contribute to the chores, or contribute financially or really, both. They also should at least get an idea of what is involved in running a household.
 
Not everyone who lives with their parent's in their 30's is the same... ;)

I moved out of my parents house when I was 24/25 (2005/6), spent a year living with some friends in the same city, then moved 160 miles away (Peterborough to Bristol) with a mate, partially as he'd met a bird there and partially because jobs in the area at the time were drying up big time.

Spent a few years in Bristol living on my own or sharing with one other person (the mate moved back after 6 weeks :rolleyes:) and then in 2013 at the age of 32 I moved to Kent during end of the recession, again due to work - my parents had there moved from Peterborough a few years prior to that, as the job situation hadn't gotten any better, and my sister/BIL and niece were down here, and so without a job here I moved in with them.

I started a new job in April 2014 (still here and happy :D) but this was in a new career so I had to start on the ladder all over again, and was in the process of looking for my own place as of the end of 2015 as I was settled and had put a bit of money away. Unfortunately, the rented place my parents were in gave them notice around Christmas so they had to find a new place to live.

The housing situation here in Kent then was pretty grim, £700-800 per month for anything decent, and anything decent at a OK price was literally going off the market in a few days.... :rolleyes:

So, it was decided that we'd get a decent, slightly bigger place between the 3 of us, and I'm currently still living here, at the grand old age of 35 :p

Just been having a look at houses round here and it's not gotten any better, if fact it's worse than it was! £800 pm for a manky 2 bed terrace in a dodgy part of Medway.... :eek::(

If I was to move out now, on my current wage, and get my own place (not a house share) I would literally have pennies left every month. In my current situation I have a few hundred quid left over, which isn't a lot either but gets me by and lets me put some money away most months.

I don't run an expensive car/bike, I barely drink, smoke etc and my outgoings after rent/bills (covering insurance/petrol/mobile phone) are less than £200 a month.

Some of us do live with their parents in their 30's, not through choice, but because the only other option is living what would be barely a life at all... surviving on a few pounds a month after food/rent/council tax/normal bills isn't living.

Now, I won't be here forever - but in the meantime until my career gets off the starting blocks (fingers crossed for a 25% pay rise when I get to the next step on the ladder) I'll have enough to get a decent place in a location where I won't have to worry about the drug dealers down the road, and be able to put petrol in my bike to get to work the next day...

Times are tough for single people trying to get their own place, especially in the south east. Unless you're happy in a dodgy 1 bedroom flat or sharing with 2/3 other people you're basically ****ed if you're on a 'normal' wage - i.e. under £30k. There's people in my workplace on much more money than me (£30k+) at similar ages who are house sharing, 10 years ago you'd have a damn nice place for that much and still have money left over to waste at the weekend.
 
I live in Kent and yeah the prices for house buying have crept up, but not sure if it is because we are bordering Surrey, but yeah it's all starting to spread out of London, which doesn't surprise me, besides who wants to live in London? :p

Good luck with your new career! And enjoy being with your folks, it's sometimes easy to under appreciate them when you live away from them.
 
Freefaller said:
I live in Kent and yeah the prices for house buying have crept up, but not sure if it is because we are bordering Surrey, but yeah it's all starting to spread out of London, which doesn't surprise me, besides who wants to live in London? :p

Good luck with your new career! And enjoy being with your folks, it's sometimes easy to under appreciate them when you live away from them.
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Yeah prices getting stupid round here, i think a lot of it is because most of Kent is now commutable into London in under an hour, people are getting tired of paying London prices and are moving to Kent and commuting in.

Cheers! Living on your own or with mates is a great experience, and if someone has never done that they're missing out on a lot of fun (and stress!), but yeah it is nice to see the old folks every day, and to see my niece and nephew 2-3 times a week rather than once every 6 -12 months.

Of course if I met a stunning Swiss bird tomorrow who wanted me to live with her out there I would be gone in a blink :D
 
Skiddley said:
35, and living at home? :confused:
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yep, i moved out and mortgaged before I was 21.. How times change.

In all fairness, with house pricing so high, younger people just don't have that option..which is a double hit on the parents also. My daughter's 23 and would love to move out but she simply can't.

At thread starter.. You'll only be lonely if you allow that to happen but we all adapt to change eventually and you'll soon get used to your Independence.. Good luck
 
Try moving out at 19, and flying to a different hemisphere. :p

I survived fine, and had a lot of fun along the way.
 
Depends on the situation, just moving out for the sake of moving out may not be the best solution for everybody.

Seems you're not a adult until you share in the experience if losing the majority of your wages every month to pay for a crappy flat, misery loves company.

Oh and a tip, when you do move out don't look too happy about it even if you are, your parents can take that the wrong way.
 
your parents probably want you to move out but don't want to upset you

move out and start living your own life

give your parents some space so they can ravish each other on the stairs
 
I probably havent been the first to say it in here but 35 is by no means young. 16-21 is young, 35 is not.
So glad I moved out at 18 when I went to uni and stayed moved out. Yes, it crippled me financially but you learn to cope with real world problems, sort your finances and still see your parents. It made my relationship with family a whole lot better too. Seeing them for special occasions, holidays etc. is nice now.

Yours will also need their own space but are just being too nice and not telling you to move out.
 
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