How many real friends you got?

I would say 1 at best. I'm an introvert though, so i amuse myself most of the time. I do have that 1 friend who i talk to and occasionally go to see.
 
10:

Same group of 8 which I see every week, usually every Tue, Thur and Saturday, guys from secondary school... 4 of them I can consider close friends I think.
And also:
1 guy I still keep in touch with from primary school, we played some AOE2 last Thursday over LAN :D. Don't see him in person that often: about once per month, sometimes once per 3 months, but talk to him on MSN regularly.
And 1 guy from secondary school, see him about once per 2 weeks now.


My problem is female friends, of those I have none :(.
 
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Proper answer from me now.

I probably have 2 proper close friends, one of them is an ex of mine! I don't see her that often but I can always rely on her to be there for me.

I then have 3 or 4 groups of friends who I see on a fairly regular basis and are pretty much divided into work friends, friends from old place of work, primary school friends and college friends. I don't see anyone from secondary school now (apart from one guy I work with)
 
I don't define my mates as the folks I speak to every day, in fact my closest friends are the people with whom I'm still mates even though we see each other rarely.

Best mate 1 - see him three times a year, since he's in Newcastle and I'm in Surrey
Best mate 2 - see her every three months or so, even though we both live within the M25
Best mate 3 - Seen her once in the last two years because she lives in Oz.

I doubt I see any one of my mates more than once a month.
 
I'd say 5 good friends, all of whom I see at least a few times a week but around 20/25 "friends" (people who I go out with occasionally to the pub with/meet up when everyones back from uni). since leaving sixth form 3 years ago the number of friends i see on a regular basis has dropped quite drastically!
 
[DOD]Asprilla;13877440 said:
Best mate 1 - see him three times a year, since he's in Newcastle and I'm in Surrey
Best mate 2 - see her every three months or so, even though we both live within the M25
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How can you class these people as best friends?!
 
I'd say my only 'true' friend is my boyfriend, which is quite lovely and quite sad at the same time, hehe!

My other 'friends' aren't really very good friends at all, they tend to view friendship as something that can be switched on and off when it suits them. I'd rather have no friends than bad friends :)
 
[TW]Fox;13877711 said:
How can somebody be your best friend if you barely ever see them?
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I barely see anyone.

Without going into my own personal life too much, you'll probably find that as you get older you tend not to spend as much time socialising with your mates, especially during the week. At the weekend, you may have things to do, like DIY or looking after kids if you have them.

Given that my nearest mates are probably 50 minutes away (something not uncommon for inside the M25) when I see them it's something that is arranged and in the diary, and is usually an overnighter. If I want half my weekends to myself then that leaves me with 26 weekends a year to see people, including family, and maybe a couple of week days a month to meet a friend for drinks after work.

Even if I only met each friend once, It would still probably only be 40 people a year, and that would probably be split between my wife and I.

Obviously there are events where you see lots of people together, but hopefully you can see why seeing someone three times a year is quite a bit.

One of my wife's best mates lives in Guatemala, so you can guess how infrequently we see them!

Now I've answered your question how about mine; why would you judge how close you were to someone on how frequently you see them? My closest mates are those whose company I enjoy the most and with whom I am at my most open. I see my work colleagues more often than anyone else and I frequently go for a drink with them on a Friday, but these people aren't my clsoe mates.
 
I don't go in for the whole Social Networking "OMGZ I have 3 zillion friends!" stuff so all my "friends" are real life ones :p

It sucks a bit that, as said, people's priorities change as you get older, and it can be a bit difficult getting a big group of people out these days.

I'd say I have about 4 really close friends who I can always rely on, but a wider social circle of good mates consisting of about 20 people.

I have a few different groups of friends and I like to keep them completely separate actually... I have a load of girl mates and for example, I wouldn't want them anywhere near the lads as chaos would probably ensue and I'd end up with split loyalties :)
 
snowdog said:
My problem is female friends, of those I have none :(.
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same :( . I have about 4 close friends, and about 7 more who I know fairly well. I think that number is fine. If you have too many friends then you can never talk to any of them enough to really get to know them, so they wouldn't really be your friends.
 
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