How to stop being so immature/jealous

OP you are completely normal as far as I am concerned. You just need to address this one aspect of your personality.

Google "Attachment Styles" for more information. In my experience, "Trust" is something that is more of a mutual understanding, than something that is earned, especially in a conventional Western-style relationship. If you cannot regain Trust, then it may be worth considering backing off from the relationship as a whole to reconsider, for your benefit more than anything else.
 
It could just be that your subconscious is alerting you to the undesirable fact that your girlfriend is a ****. I had one like that once, I didn't trust her very much, and I was right not to! I have never had a trust problem since chucking her ass.

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Also, a girlfriend sniffing around ex partners like yours seems to be is most likely to be enjoying a bit of sausage from them. Flip the scenario - if you were sniffing around your ex lovers do you honestly think she would be happy about it?
 
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oulton said:
It could just be that your subconscious is alerting you to the undesirable fact that your girlfriend is a ****. I had one like that once, I didn't trust her very much, and I was right not to! I have never had a trust problem since chucking her ass.

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Also, a girlfriend sniffing around ex partners like yours seems to be is most likely to be enjoying a bit of sausage from them. Flip the scenario - if you were sniffing around your ex lovers do you honestly think she would be happy about it?
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or it could be nothing, particularly in this case where the OP has already admitted he has problems with jealousy :rolleyes:
 
sports_brah said:
This is wonderful advice, like two pieces of wood carefully dove tailing together!
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That is so hot.

It's already been said, but basically stop being jealous and insecure and your gf will like you more. Or, continue being jealous and insecure and she will bang some other dude because she feels claustrophobic in her relationship with you.

*sigh*, I remember that fresh period in my relationship where my gf and I enormously liked eachother. Such passionate times. I remember the first time we told eachother we enormously liked eachother. I was so nervous, but it was worth it when she said it back.
 
i think it always stems from insecurity lack of self confidence. which unfortunately is not something you can just flip a switch. as said above. if she cheats on you then shes a tard and shes not worth your time. something though which you wont probably believe if youre insecure as its obviously something you've done
 
[FnG]magnolia;23515129 said:
I have no idea, I"m only replying to what you said in your OP. When you say you're jealous of your girlfriend, I imagine you mean you worry that she will do something (or someone, ha!) that you don't approve of? Or is this an academic thread where you're concerned that she's brighter than you and will shine more fully at Uni than you might ever do because, and this is an universal truth, if it's the latter no one cares. Even if it's the first one, it's barely tolerable.

You 'get over yourself' (this is not a term adults use in any meaningful way and is a clue that you were correct in your own self-diagnosis) by growing up and learning and trusting and being trustworthy. In my opinion.

How old are you and how old is she or he? If you're both 16 years old I'm going to be really annoyed about wasting the time it took to type this.

e : also, welcome (or re-welcome) to the forums!
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How I have missed you.

Basically this OP.
 
I can't realy offer any advice without pic of the g/f i need to see what all the fuss is about.

You have to grow up the hard way like everyone else. When your gf leaves you for being annoying and immature, you will soon grow up.
 
I used to get extremely jealous over one of my ex's when I was with her a few years ago (I was in my late teens). After breaking up with her I decided to 'play the field', avoid relationships and enjoy life. I didn't get into another relationship until I fixed my insecurities and I am now happily with someone for just over a year now, no insecurities or jealousy issues at all; not even a niggle :).

I strongly suggest you work on your own feelings as you will eventually drive her away with your own issues. I'm a firm believer in that for any relationship to work successfully, each partner must be content and at peace with themselves. The fact you think shes possibly cheating without hard evidence suggests you maybe think she is too good for you? Address these issues with yourself and hopefully your relationship will flourish!
 
Some great advice in this thread thank you.

I took some advice, and bit my lip. Kept my issues to myself and told myself that it was in my head. Things pop up in my mind about her, but I'm sticking them to myself.

I'll take it as it comes. Either my suspicions are right (unfounded) or they are not. Worrying about it and making a fuss isn't going to help.

Quite liberating really. :)


Thanks
 
sports_brah said:
Some great advice in this thread thank you.

I took some advice, and bit my lip. Kept my issues to myself and told myself that it was in my head. Things pop up in my mind about her, but I'm sticking them to myself.

I'll take it as it comes. Either my suspicions are right (unfounded) or they are not. Worrying about it and making a fuss isn't going to help.

Quite liberating really. :)


Thanks
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Good to hear.

I found the same realisation liberating myself.

Just accept you can't stop it if it does & go with the flow, the chances of it occurring have just gone down significantly due to you realise that - so it's a win win.

Also, life is far too short to worry that much about everything - bigger & more genuine concerns around the world today.
 
Were you confident before meeting her? It sounds like although you should trust in her more, you're looking for something to reassure you. You should just talk to her properly about it, find examples of times when you would have liked to be reassured.

The others are right too though, if there is nothing to actually be jealous etc about then see someone about it. At the end of the day we're all different and react in different ways.
 
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