I feel like I'm... done with gaming?

Worthy said:
I totally get this. I feel the same way sometimes. I haven't married, or had children yet. My playboy days are behind me and sometimes I get confused as to what I want out of life.
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We'll I've got the wife, mortgage and 2 kids so my time is even more stretch. I finish work and I'm dad til they are in bed, then husband and what little time I get after she goes to bed is mine. Even when on late shifts I've got the 3-year-old before taking him to nursery.

For me, it's more that I want a better life for my kids than I had, sleeping on a lounge floor wearing ripped second-hand clothes, they already have a better life, but now I want them to have a great one. For instance, I've seen 2 amazing houses, but both are 5 times more than we can afford, so I am working towards that. I also don't want them to be addicted to games either, so trying to be more active which isn't easy with PSA and BPD.

Life is such a balancing act.
 
in a similar boat, im 29 (virtually 30), wife and a daughter. I work 60-70 hours a week so my issue is time. I have had my own pc since I was 5 and have always always always gamed on pc and had pc hardware as my passion.

But now I tend to play PUBG for a couple of hours on my day off in the morning with some guys on here and have been meaning to actually restart and finish witcher 3.... but I just done have the time to sink into and invest into a game like that.

I have even, shock horror, bought a PS4 pro for some casual gaming I can just pick up and drop (fifa, h1z1, battlefields etc)

This getting old and working malarkey sucks :rolleyes:
 
I'm going through this with my PC. I lost all interest - sold my GPU when the prices were high with the intention of getting another, but I just haven't. Not do I think I will.

But, I love playing on my Xbox. I feel way more chilled out playing. However, today I had a similar thing - mid way through a game I usually cannot put down, and I just didn't want to play it anymore.

Kinda disheartening in a way for me, as gaming has always been such a good way for me to relieve stress. I can get lost in a game. I don't know what to do with myself when I'm not playing one :p
 
It’s a season thing, this time of year id rather be outside doing something. Keep the gaming for the dreadful winter months, we have enough of them! lol
 
Acme said:
Nah i just sit at my computer doing sod all because i cant be bothered to open a game.
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Yup, this! Well, actually, I have done a fair bit more watching of films, reading of books and trying out new recipes in the kitchen, all of which are good, but yeah, an awful lot of this :(

SPG said:
Pff I am 47... The OP is weak.

Man up and power through it (buy a comfy chair though)
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I am weak. This is true. Not sure forcing myself to play games is going to help with that, though :)


Seen a few people mention the big M.L.C., and, well, I couldn't rule that out if I'm honest. I have been doing all the typical things like desponently evaluating my career trajectory, thinking about my likely time left on this Earth, wondering what the point of it all is, etc. I've barely picked up my guitar all year either, and that's something else I was really enjoying previously.

Also, a few comments on how derivative gaming can feel these days, and I've definitely felt that too. I've fought the same enemies using the same weapons/spells in the same environments so many times, not much feels fresh.

I appreciate the encouragement to try PUBG, but in general I really have never liked MP gaming. I got into CS for a bit, and W:ET back in the day, but those are the only MP games I've every enjoyed. What makes PUBG different to other MP games?

The one thing I miss, I think, is how an absorbing game could take me out of the world and my worries so effectively. I remember a time not long ago when I was plagued by a few issues in the real world that felt overwhemling, were affecting my sleep, making me constantly anxious, and so on, and playing Dying Light was pretty much the only thing that helped me put all that out of my mind.

It's perfectly possible this weird brain switch will suddenly and unpredictably flip back one day. This is my longest time without touching a game since I started playing though (well, not counting the time I went travelling) - about three months now witout even loading a game up.
 
Yeah, games are far too bloody long these days and take up too much time. Open world games are the worst culprits, full of a load of derivative tat to distract you from the main point/story of the game, which is usually and has always been “go here, kill him, collect that”. Every time I start a game I’m usually buzzing, but when I get 15 hours in and it says “15% complete” I lose the will to continue.

To be honest, it’s the same with tv box sets. Doesn’t matter what you’re watching these days. They all feel the same. The same tired old tropes get wheeled out. Whether you’re watching peaky blinders or vikings, it all has the same feel of 24 back in the day. We have basically been spoiled.
 
Sorry to hear that mate. I'm 39 but I had a gap of 15 years from when I was about 17 where I stopped gaming completely - was more in to partying hard then settled down and had a family. So I guess I'm a bit of a reborn gamer but, in line with my personality, I take everything to extremes and have amassed a collection of 600 games on my PC over the past 3 years - I hope that switch doesn't suddenly flick for me anytime soon or I'll have wasted a lot of money! Before I started gaming again, I was really in to watching movies but I find games a much more immersive experience which is what keeps me interested. Yes, I enjoy the occasional go at a brainless shooter or some older school platform games but it's the big single player games that I love, particularly the horror genre. What else could you do to experience the likes of Alien Isolation or SOMA? Or the story behind Bioshock Infinite and the DLCs? I guess there is a lack of games of that level of quality - I've been fortunate too that I've been able to go back and play a lot of the classics I missed, recently playing F.E.A.R and Vampire: The Masquerade - Bloodlines for the first time. I'm sure there is a game out there that could flick the switch back, I guess you just have to make your peace with the situation and not try to force it. Hope you get your mojo back or at the very least not reflect on your time spent gaming as a waste - life is all about the pursuit of happiness and gaming provided that for you for all those years...
 
I am 45, and have been like that for 10 years... and it frustrates me, I want to play, maintain a gaming pc, and still love the PC hardware side of things, but really have nothing I want to do with it now. I keep trying to find a hook, but never really have. I would love to game, but I think the social development side of games has left me behind a little too, the idea of wearing a mic and headphones turns me off, and it seems a lot of games now need serious time invested to remain competitive.... plus I was always ***p anyways! I want to pick something up, play for 30 mins and put it down again without knowing next time I come back to it I will be left behind.
 
I just find it really difficult to find a game that hold my interest so that I can even finish it, I almost always give up after few hours of gameplay, I find most modern games really boring and I don't know why. Gone are the days where I was able to enjoy so many different games.
 
I’ve gone through this. I never got back the burning desire, but I do enjoy games again.

I generally spend a few hours a week. I rarely complete games any more, and there are plenty I play for a short while then ditch.

I just bought all the F.E.A.R games for £3 odd and for the first time in ages I’m actually excit d about playing a game, can’t wait to get back.

I suggest taking a long break, and when you get back spending time only the real gems.
 
I'm a old gamer (just turned 50) and sold my rather capable pc last year as all I was doing was browsing and not playing games (200+ steam games) and purchased a Xbox one,found I was playing a little but not that much,then I got a PS4 and can't put it down,a few weeks ago it was on for 12 hours,the last time I played that long in one session was 20 years ago,I've got a good selection of games now and do enjoy the PS4 a lot.
 
strumpusplunket said:
I'd envisioned myself playing Original Sin 20 or Far Cry 30 in my 70s!
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This one sentence sums it up for me, the same with films with numerous sequels or TV series that go on for too long - they get stale and you start feeling ambivalent about them. They are so many sequels of sequels or games doing the same thing; like Fortnite there's H1Z1, PUBG etc. I suppose that, similar to movies, that if you're investing hundreds of millions in to a game then you're not going to take too many risks in making a new IP. However it does leave things stale when you look through your games library or for new games. The last game that had me properly excited and reminded me of being a kid and gaming was Horizon Zero Dawn and that was released a year or so ago now.

I know you said it isn't a get you back in to gaming thread but I also think some of it is the amount of time it is possible to spend gaming. Do anything for too long too often and you can burn out. I don't know how much time you typically spent gaming but in similar situations I find indulging my other hobbies and interests more brings back the novelty, the fun factor, to gaming.
 
Honestly is the social aspect that has helped my gaming enjoyment, while single player games are great for passing away a good few hrs, dropping onto a Team-speak/Discord channel opens up a entire new level of gaming shizzles.

OCUK pubg channel is busy and friendly (ish) :)
 
I doubt I'll ever grew out of gaming, I'm just more selective of what I play.

Technically games today are much more advanced visually but they follow the same old tried and tried formats, they won't take risks anymore so everything feels very similar, in a way gaming is a victim of it's own success and creativity has suffered.
 
strumpusplunket said:
Since I built my first gaming PC back in 2004, I've been pretty keen gamer. Also during my childhood and adolescence a fair bit earlier on the Spectrum and Amiga.

I always looked forward to my Xmas gaming binges, took time off around my birthday to do some gaming, and generally always had a game on the go even if I didn't manage to eke out much time to play.

Earlier this year, though, something odd happened. I was at the point just before the last boss of Dark Souls III when, all of a sudden... I just couldn't be bothered going any further.

I installed Life is Strange: Beyond the Storm, but only got 15 minutes in before I completely lost the desire to play (and I was a huge fan of the first one).

It was like a switch just flipped in my brain that totally removed my interest in games. I've looked through my game libraries and wishlists, but I feel... nothing. Not the slightest desire to play anything. Complete lack of interest for most of this year (I've played Fortnite with my kids, but that's more to share an activity with them than me really enjoying it).

I am really quite surprised by this, but not dismayed, I don't think. This isn't intended to be another help me get back into gaming thread. In fact I think I've probably used my time better since this happened. I'm basically curious if anyone else has experienced this. I'm 42, so maybe I'm just past gaming? I really didn't think this would happen - I'd envisioned myself playing Original Sin 20 or Far Cry 30 in my 70s!
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I am same age as you, so the issue is what are you playing try something new.

For more than a decade I stopped playing shooters and all those mass produced annual franchises, and went to different games all together.
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RPGs heavy with storyline like Fallout 3 & NV (never got to 4 somehow), Elder Scrolls and Elder Scrolls Online,
Grand strategy Crusader Kings 2 and Europa Universalis, were you are the one who makes the story (especially true on CK2) and game over is when you decide not when you conquer the world as they are not "Total War" games.
Tactical games with storylines like XCOM.
Of course I have some daily "fix" with friends playing World of Tanks (7 years now) and World of Warships.
 
There's a reason why won't i replace my creaky old Nvidia 970 (unless it packs in) you know, and its not a financial one.

I could easily afford to buy a 1080Ti today or a 1180Ti tomorrow, but I won't because games just don't interest me any more and it would just feel like throwing money down the drain.

..and those games that I can play for more than 20mins, which is only 1 or 2, without apathy & boredom quickly setting in, run flawlessly on my 970.
 
I think as you get older you realise that although it's fun at times, that's all it is. There's no residual benefit to gaming either, you can't say that about travel, or just walking round the Peak District. Gaming is shallow and you realise that later in life, deep down you know you're wasting your life if you're spending endless hours on it. When you're a teenager time is almost endless, in your 40s you're thinking I might only have 10-20 healthy years left is playing games really what I want to do with a hell of a lot of my free time?

Same with TV. No matter how good the show is, it's still just watching TV.

When my dad went into hospital with cancer which he later died from, I asked whether he wanted hospital TV setting up, he looked at me (I think he knew he was dying, I knew also) and said 'I've watched enough TV' that's not exactly what he meant though, the look in his eyes said 'I've wasted so much time watching TV' (he was a relentless channel flicker), he did play Golf regularly and enjoyed gardening, but he was obviously really regretting not doing other things.
 
I can kind of see where the OP is coming from. I go through stages where I just don't have any motivation to play games at all. I go months without bothering to play.
Then, suddenly, I'll get back into it for a few months, play non-stop, think about upgrades, etc. Then I'll just lose motivation again. I keep thinking about upgrading my PC, as it could do with a new motherboard/RAM/CPU to get the best out of it, and perhaps upgrade to a ultra wide monitor, but it's a lot of money if I don't use it often.
 
strumpusplunket said:
Since I built my first gaming PC back in 2004, I've been pretty keen gamer. Also during my childhood and adolescence a fair bit earlier on the Spectrum and Amiga.

I always looked forward to my Xmas gaming binges, took time off around my birthday to do some gaming, and generally always had a game on the go even if I didn't manage to eke out much time to play.

Earlier this year, though, something odd happened. I was at the point just before the last boss of Dark Souls III when, all of a sudden... I just couldn't be bothered going any further.

I installed Life is Strange: Beyond the Storm, but only got 15 minutes in before I completely lost the desire to play (and I was a huge fan of the first one).

It was like a switch just flipped in my brain that totally removed my interest in games. I've looked through my game libraries and wishlists, but I feel... nothing. Not the slightest desire to play anything. Complete lack of interest for most of this year (I've played Fortnite with my kids, but that's more to share an activity with them than me really enjoying it).

I am really quite surprised by this, but not dismayed, I don't think. This isn't intended to be another help me get back into gaming thread. In fact I think I've probably used my time better since this happened. I'm basically curious if anyone else has experienced this. I'm 42, so maybe I'm just past gaming? I really didn't think this would happen - I'd envisioned myself playing Original Sin 20 or Far Cry 30 in my 70s!
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then please leave and close the door behind you quietly
 
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