If your kid was being bullied at school

Inform the head master of his and his staffs duty of care to my child while in their custody, **** signing waivers to say I wont sue the school if my my child falls over in the playground, get off your fat overpaid arse and protect my child from the violent behavior of certain other children.

Or thats what would happen if we lived in a world where they took their jobs seriously.


My boy had some trouble with a couple of boys when he first stated secondary school, I was lucky that they were picked up by their folks, one was picked up by his mum, who I was able to have a sensible discussion with, the other by his fat layabout old man, who when sensible discussion failed I had to lay it on the line to him, it stopped now, or i'd batter him and his boy.

I didnt hear anything after that.

My step son had some problems at his school, his old man went and told the teachers he would take it out on them, stupid man.
 
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I was bullied when I first started senior school. Tried to shrug it off or ignore it but that never worked. One day was pushed too far, the kid was raking through my bag, and I just snapped. Floored the bully with one punch and bust his mates nose too. After that I was never bullied again as I showed that I would stand up for myself.

I would never advocate violence to my kids, when I have some, but 100% my lesson would be that if someone starts you finish it. After that the hassle would stop.
 
No1newts said:
I was bullied when I first started senior school. Tried to shrug it off or ignore it but that never worked. One day was pushed too far, the kid was raking through my bag, and I just snapped. Floored the bully with one punch and bust his mates nose too. After that I was never bullied again as I showed that I would stand up for myself.

I would never advocate violence to my kids, when I have some, but 100% my lesson would be that if someone starts you finish it. After that the hassle would stop.
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The problem is most kids that are bullied can't fight for $@#$, which is why they are bullied in the 1st place.

If he's kinda cool he probably won't get bullied.. If he can fight and likes a fight, he'll alomst certainly not get bullied.
 
No1newts said:
I would never advocate violence to my kids, when I have some, but 100% my lesson would be that if someone starts you finish it. After that the hassle would stop.
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I dont want my son fighting, or being picked on, sure he may get some stick when he is older for his old man stepping in, but its easier for him to live with that than having to fight, or being afraid to go to school.
 
Talk to the teacher - if that doesn't work talk to the headteacher - if that doesn't work tell the kid to hit the ring leader. Not correct I know but it will work 99% of the time.
 
thedoc46 said:
The problem is most kids that are bullied can't fight for $@#$, which is why they are bullied in the 1st place.

If he's kinda cool he probably won't get bullied.. If he can fight and likes a fight, he'll alomst certainly not get bullied.
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I wouldn't say that's necessarily true. Anyone pushed to far can do serious damage unless there is a serious advantage gap, you don't have to be 'good in a fight' to cause serious harm.

It's more a case of those that are bullied are often be more unwilling to fight, rather than being unable to. No1Newts experience above is a good example.
 
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As with others. talk to the house-master, then the head of keystage / faculty if that doesn't help.

Escalate until it gets resolved, headmaster, governors, LEA, Police etc.
 
Demoniser said:
I wouldn't say that's necessarily true. Anyone pushed to far can do serious damage, you don't have to be 'good in a fight' to cause harm.

It's more a case of those that are bullied are often be more unwilling to fight, rather than being unable to.
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are you sure?

I'm 7.5 stone, even pushed passed the limit, I wouldn't do anything dirty like gauging eyes out or anything, so how do you suppose I deal with guys who are 10+stone? Also, when I was about 4-5 stone a few years ago, I used to go crazy from abuse a lot. Nowadays I'm a cool customer and it's very difficult to push me past the limit. So, what could I do?

EDIT: It's not always a case of being unwilling to fight. Maybe it's just a case of not wanting to hurt somebody else, no matter how much they hurt you, even if you're pushed past the edge
 
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My oldest son is 6 and he gets bullied a lot at school, even out of school by the same kids, so I told him if he gets hit he hits them back. My parents always say "Don't tell him to hit them back" but then it carries on, so hitting them back he is standing up for himself. I don't like know he is being bullied tho as you can't do much as a parent, if you tell the school, they get it twice as bad because they involved their parents...It's a no win situation unless you get your child to stand up for himself.

My youngest is 3 and I have no concerns about him being bullied, more concerned about him being the bully, but he will look after his brother when he is older so I'm not too concerned.
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yup did this to my kid whos also 6 years old, from 4 we told him if someone hits you tell them to stop, if they hit you again hit them back.

seems to have worked he doesnt get bullied at school but hes told us about times hes had to hit people :D

his teacher at his review last year commented on how if someones upset he always tries to comfort them so i know hes a good kid.

when i was at school some 20 years ago i got a bit of stick from bullies and one time i punched this guy and broke his glasses for one of the teachers to tell me they had been waiting along time for someone to do that..


teachers arent stupid they know what goes on but a lot of the time there isnt a lot they can really do about it if the kids parents dont care which is usually the case with bullies
 
If it's primary school, go talk to the head.

If it's secondary school, stay out of it, the kid should be smart enough to sort it out himself. In fact he shouldn't have even told you he's being bullied in the first place.
 
Demoniser said:
I wouldn't say that's necessarily true. Anyone pushed to far can do serious damage unless there is a serious advantage gap, you don't have to be 'good in a fight' to cause serious harm.

It's more a case of those that are bullied are often be more unwilling to fight, rather than being unable to. No1Newts experience above is a good example.
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I don't recall in many many school fights i was in, anyone, myself included receiving serious damage. I think you over estimate the potential of a childs ability to hurt someone. Bullying is more psyhcological, acting tough and picking on the individual. and the bullied kid backing away.The punches rarely hurt.

Once the kid realizes that, and stands up for himself the bullying will end.. Which is why boxing is ideal in my opinion..
 
There's a reason why bullying recurs to the same boy/girl, and that's because all of the criteria are fulfilled for both the bully and the bullied when they are together.
Get rid of one of the criterias, and the bullying will stop, maybe sometimes it takes time..

Just find out what they are. Applying Mustard does this in one go :)
 
asim18 said:
If it's primary school, go talk to the head.

If it's secondary school, stay out of it, the kid should be smart enough to sort it out himself. In fact he shouldn't have even told you he's being bullied in the first place.
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Don't be such a freaking dumbass. You've obviously got no idea what you're talking about.

Anyway.

Having been bullied and having had the school do nothing about it, I would do as others have said - hassle the school over and over and over. If the teachers and ultimately headmaster did nothing, I would get on to the governors and the LEA.
 
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