If your kid was being bullied at school

[Demoniser]

I don't recall in many many school fights i was in, anyone, myself included receiving serious damage. I think you over estimate the potential of a childs ability to hurt someone. Bullying is more psyhcological, acting tough and picking on the individual. and the bullied kid backing away.The punches rarely hurt.

Once the kid realizes that, and stands up for himself the bullying will end.. Which is why boxing is ideal in my opinion..

When i say serious harm, i don't mean broken bones/hospitalised level of injury.

A child probably, if were talking quite young (primary/early secondary), but when you get into later teenage years the ability to deal a decent blow can certainly increase. Not saying its an absolute truth but often when people 'snap' (as is sometimes the case when you endure something) it can be quite frenzied and spontaneous which can turn out painful for the receiving party. I think its safe to say that people in general can sometimes be unaware of the damage they can cause. It all depends on who's dishing it out or receiving it ofc.

I do agree that some form of sport like boxing or a martial art that teaches a firm resolve when harmed or attacked is a great idea. The right mindset is key in the end.

Interesting thread so far.

 

[Tummy]

Hire him a big black body guard with a big **** off gun.

Tell him to royally **** up anyone that looks at the kid wrong.

 

[Efour]

kill every kid in the school as a warning, chop up the corpses and dance in their entrails. kill my own kid for being a grass. dance in his entrails

 

[asim18]

Don't be such a freaking dumbass. You've obviously got no idea what you're talking about.

Anyway.

Having been bullied and having had the school do nothing about it, I would do as others have said - hassle the school over and over and over. If the teachers and ultimately headmaster did nothing, I would get on to the governors and the LEA.

I know exactly what I'm talking about.

I was bullied for 2 years at the start of secondary school, years 7 & 8. The worst incident was someone setting fire to my hair in the classroom. I never for a second even thought about telling my mum and revealing myself as a failure and making her sort out my social problems.

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.

 

[sigma]

LOL

 

[TheCenturion]

I know exactly what I'm talking about.

I was bullied for 2 years at the start of secondary school, year's 7 & 8. The worst incident was someone setting fire to my hair in the classroom. I never for a second even thought about telling my mum and revealing myself as a failure and making her sort out my social problems.

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.

To me, that sounds like you became the bitch of the bullies
I'm almost like that, not quite though, not quite.

 

[cm1179]

Anyway.

Having been bullied and having had the school do nothing about it, I would do as others have said - hassle the school over and over and over. If the teachers and ultimately headmaster did nothing, I would get on to the governors and the LEA.

please don't think i'm prying and i wont take offence if you don't answer, how did the bullying effect you? i ask because one (if not my best long term) friend was bullied and it was me who told his parents about it because the teachers knew what was going on but either thought it was harmless or simply didn't want the aggro of getting involved. being in seperate sets at school i didn't see the majority of what would happen but he told me all about it, it was going on from 90 until we left in 96 and i couldn't really do anything. it was carried out by one lad in middle school and then another lad in high school.it wasn't a constant thing, this lad in high school didn't go out of his way to get my friend on his way home or anything (the bully lived in a different town for a start) but it was psychological and physical picking on and bullying. he's changed now and (ironically) the lad who bullied him is inside. my friend is ok now but it essentially ruined his school life, smashed his confidence but in some ways made him stronger.
what i did realise through all of this though, is that if someone is being bullied in the workplace there is legislation that will not stand for it, they have someone to go to and it can go to a tribunal, if some one is bullied in school, there is often no one they can go to and sadly i believe that school children will continue to commit suicide because they are being bullied.

 

[cm1179]

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.

err ok you were still being bullied, bullied into breaking the law infact. i'm sure your 'bully friends' would have owned up to the illegal stuff being theirs should you have ever gotten caught, cos they're your friends, right?

infact, you seriously need to have a word with yourself and step up. ''see your bully on the street and shake his hand''

 

[Sukh]

Send him to Karate lessons to give him self confidence?

 

[Sinny]

Depending on how bad it was I wouldn't know until I was in that situation, which is the answer I give to most things :S.

 

[asim18]

err ok you were still being bullied, bullied into breaking the law infact. i'm sure your 'bully friends' would have owned up to the illegal stuff being theirs should you have ever gotten caught, cos they're your friends, right?

I was prepared to take that risk a couple times in return for three years+ of complete bliss. Look at me now, I have nothing to fear, no enemies, and I've learnt a lot from the experience.

 

[CaptainRAVE]

I know exactly what I'm talking about.

I was bullied for 2 years at the start of secondary school, years 7 & 8. The worst incident was someone setting fire to my hair in the classroom. I never for a second even thought about telling my mum and revealing myself as a failure and making her sort out my social problems.

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.

I was always a braniac and never really the same as the "bullies". But I always got on with them really well. They all seemed to get on well with my dad too and I think that respect filtered down to me. Worked out well because no one else would dare bully me.

 

[cm1179]

I was prepared to take that risk a couple times in return for three years+ of complete bliss.

i understand what you're saying and i apologise for being so blunt. i guess you did what you had to do, just aslong as you know it isn't/wasn't right and they're not friends worth having

 

[Jokester]

I think it's one of lifes important lessons to learn how to stand up for yourself.

 

[asim18]

i understand what you're saying and i apologise for being so blunt. i guess you did what you had to do, just aslong as you know it isn't/wasn't right and they're not friends worth having

Yes, I agree, they're friends not worth having, and I already said, they're not my best friends, only acquaintances. But it's much better than having them as enemies because you snitched on them.

 

[kylew]

I know exactly what I'm talking about.

I was bullied for 2 years at the start of secondary school, years 7 & 8. The worst incident was someone setting fire to my hair in the classroom. I never for a second even thought about telling my mum and revealing myself as a failure and making her sort out my social problems.

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.

Raped physically? No.

Raped metaphorically? Most definitely.

 

[platinum87]

Bully the bully.

 

[Cosimo]

Hire him a big black body guard with a big **** off gun.

Tell him to royally **** up anyone that looks at the kid wrong.

You’ve been watching too many films.

 

[JonJ678]

My approximate plan is to get the kid to spend ages running, climbing, swimming and preferably rowing. Combine this with feeding him steak.

No idea if its a girl though.

 

[Pav89]

A worthwhile mention of a pretty powerful song covering bullying and fighting in school...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RZPec6J33K8&ob=av2e

Worst thing to do is nothing. Something would have to be done - go to the school and explain the situation with your kid etc...

Worst that can happen is that nothing changes and you'll have to find them a new school...