If your kid was being bullied at school

My Dad taught you either learn to run or fight. You’re either quick on your feet or you learn to stand your ground. I was lucky my dad boxed from a young age and got me into boxing and Karate but he taught me that respect is earned and you don’t go making trouble just learn to protect yourself. Which if I’m honest I’m really glad he did that for me as it’s got me out of trouble more than once but not everyone has to deal with stuff like that but as long as you’re not stupid or bring trouble your own way then reacting that way in my book is fine.


Bullies are normally always weak and bully for some stupid reason. In most cases they always depend on their mates to help or back them up when trouble happens. Don’t get sucked in to doing anything stupid is the best advice but don’t be a push over.
 
JonJ678 said:
My approximate plan is to get the kid to spend ages running, climbing, swimming and preferably rowing. Combine this with feeding him steak.

No idea if its a girl though.
Click to expand...

So he can run away from potential bullies, and keep going for some long distance?
 
asim18 said:
I know exactly what I'm talking about.

I was bullied for 2 years at the start of secondary school, years 7 & 8. The worst incident was someone setting fire to my hair in the classroom. I never for a second even thought about telling my mum and revealing myself as a failure and making her sort out my social problems.

By the time year 9 started, I figured out exactly what I had to do to stop the bullying. I started hanging with the cool kids, having fun and doing favours for the bullys here or there. No, I don't mean letting them rape me, I mean holding onto drugs or stolen goods for them. The rest of my time at school was the best time of my life. Not a single worry of being being beaten up, set on fire, or even being stabbed.

I'm not saying I'm best friends with bullies, It's just a nice feeling when you see your bully on the street on good terms and shake his hand and catch-up, and not fear them because you snitched and your mum got them kicked out of school.
Click to expand...

Wow, just.... wow. :confused:
 
Lol asim!
So instead of them beating you up they now have complete control over you. Instead of standing up to them you gave in and became the groups bitch. Well done, respect!
 
Morba said:
Lol asim!
So instead of them beating you up they now have complete control over you. Instead of standing up to them you gave in and became the groups bitch. Well done, respect!
Click to expand...

In my opinion thats called being street smart. I noticed ASIM's location is East London.. Things are a little rougher round those neck of the woods than what you are probably use to. Its more a game of survival.
 
Morba said:
Lol asim!
So instead of them beating you up they now have complete control over you. Instead of standing up to them you gave in and became the groups bitch. Well done, respect!
Click to expand...
Wow, way to blow it out of proportion. "Complete control"? LOL.

I only did like 4 favours for them, stuff like making fake IDs, and holding onto stuff for a few hours. In exchange for peace and protection in and out of school, it's a no brainer especially in a place like east london.
 
Last edited:
asim18 said:
Wow, way to blow it out of proportion. I only did like 4 favours for them, stuff like making fake IDs, and holding onto stuff for a few hours. In exchange for peace and protection in and out of school, it's a no brainer.
Click to expand...

However, from their end this is what happened:

They get the pleasure of bullying you, then as a reward you do a couple of favours for them, which involve breaking the law.

From your end:

You get bullied, you then have to break the law, and help the bullies.

Obviously, it's a lot more complex than that, but that is it, in a nutshell.
 
Jokester said:
I think it's one of lifes important lessons to learn how to stand up for yourself.
Click to expand...

It's also an important lesson for people to learn that bullying isn't acceptable. Swings and roundabouts...

cm1179 said:
please don't think i'm prying and i wont take offence if you don't answer, how did the bullying effect you? i ask because one (if not my best long term) friend was bullied and it was me who told his parents about it because the teachers knew what was going on but either thought it was harmless or simply didn't want the aggro of getting involved. being in seperate sets at school i didn't see the majority of what would happen but he told me all about it, it was going on from 90 until we left in 96 and i couldn't really do anything. it was carried out by one lad in middle school and then another lad in high school.it wasn't a constant thing, this lad in high school didn't go out of his way to get my friend on his way home or anything (the bully lived in a different town for a start) but it was psychological and physical picking on and bullying. he's changed now and (ironically) the lad who bullied him is inside. my friend is ok now but it essentially ruined his school life, smashed his confidence but in some ways made him stronger.
Click to expand...

The bullying really beat me down for a while, basically for the period of secondary school between 93 and 98. I was really miserable, didn't want to go to school, and my schoolwork was suffering. In late 98 I started 6th form at the school and I was still having a hard time, so in early 99 I decided to leave that 6th form and join another. It meant 6 months sat around doing nothing, which my mum wasn't too pleased with, but it ultimately meant that I went to a different place where I was much happier and my work improved to the extent that I got 5 As at A level, which I felt pretty much vindicated my decision.

I'd say that it has made me stronger, but equally I would definitely say there is an argument for kicking up a fuss about things. People shouldn't have to be strong in that way just because other people insist on being dicks. I know there will always be dicks, but the point is that it's those people who are at fault, not the victim of the bullying. To say that people need to harden up or whatever verges on justifying the bullying, which isn't right or fair.

cm1179 said:
what i did realise through all of this though, is that if someone is being bullied in the workplace there is legislation that will not stand for it, they have someone to go to and it can go to a tribunal, if some one is bullied in school, there is often no one they can go to and sadly i believe that school children will continue to commit suicide because they are being bullied.
Click to expand...

I've had a bit of experience on the whole workplace bullying thing, though in a roundabout impersonal sort of way. It's a tough one to call, because while there is legislation and so on, any smart workplace bully will be able to cover their tracks or make things look acceptable. There's also the risk that if you do take it to a tribunal or whatever then you are seen as a troublemaker and you may "never work in this town again" whether or not the tribunal goes your way.
 
Rubbish, 3 years of peace for little things a couple of times. They would have taken advantage of you.
I now get why you are the way you are online now!
 
asim18 said:
Wow, way to blow it out of proportion. "Complete control"? LOL.

I only did like 4 favours for them, stuff like making fake IDs, and holding onto stuff for a few hours. In exchange for peace and protection in and out of school, it's a no brainer especially in a place like east london.
Click to expand...

So what you're saying is that you rolled over.
 
Morba said:
Rubbish, 3 years of peace for little things a couple of times. They would have taken advantage of you.
I now get why you are the way you are online now!
Click to expand...
I don't know what sort of fairytale bullies you have round your local school, but the ones round here are willing to shed the blood of snitches.

I'd rather have peace than have constant worry of being attacked by a bully I grassed out way back. And yes, I've witnessed many snitches getting beaten myself, it's not nice. And no, my parent's weren't wealthy enough to move to another area just because their kid had enemies.

I guess if you go to a school where a gang of blood hungry gang members blast into a classroom donning meat cleavers and machetes and proceed to make mince meat out of a boy, snitching wont solve ****. The last thing you want is an enemy.
 
Last edited:
It's got nothin to do with fairy tales. You let them take advantage of you and im sure it's more than what you are saying.
Whatever though, if that's how you deal with people in life that's up to you!
 
asim18 said:
I don't know what sort of fairytale bullies you have round your local school, but the ones round here are willing to shed the blood of snitches.

I'd rather have peace than have constant worry of being attacked by a bully I grassed out way back. And yes, I've witnessed many snitches getting beaten myself, it's not nice. And no, my parent's weren't wealthy enough to move to another area just because their kid had enemies.
Click to expand...

To be honest it is very wrong to judge how people react to being bullied. I guess it must be very stressfull.

maybe my earlier remark was a bit flippant. I have the benefit of coming from a tough working class environment.

If I came in from the street crying because some kids hit me then my Father would knock seven bell's of **** out of me and next in line would be my Mother Bless her.:p

Not ideal but it sure learnt me a lesson about who to fear and who not to fear and for Bullies fear is food.
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom