If your kid was being bullied at school

There is a reason Nix ;)

I've found in my case, the reason is because the rest of them are just complete dicks.

Last time. There wasn't. I've spent years trying to find one. I've come up with some plausable explanations, but as to why it had such continuation - I do not know for sure and never will.

I've had my whole time at school and about 8 years since to mull this over. You lot have had five minutes. So again, I'd appreciate it if you all stopped trying to play the ****ing expert. You're ignorant of the facts and it's as simple as that.

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And yes, they were all completely immature dicks and I wouldn't play their games. In all the apologies I've had since, the other party has always mentioned how they were immature. It was almost like they were trying to be my friend and to 'play' with me daily, but it always got out of hand. A bit of roughing around would turn into everyone else running over to have a kick or jump on me too. Started off innocent enough, always got out of hand.
 
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I'm just thinking. Everyone is saying that it might be something to do with you. Clearly you don't think this is true.

In my opinion, and from my experience, school children are scum on the whole. They try to act hard and they're all sheep, not wishing to step out of line. I hate the group mentality, it completely changes people.
 
I'm just thinking. Everyone is saying that it might be something to do with you. Clearly you don't think this is true.

It's not just me, which is the point you're all missing.

My friends from school have told me it wasn't me.

Those that 'picked' on me, told me it wasn't me.

I know it wasn't me.

The only people who seem to think it was me were people on the internet who quite frankly, weren't there and don't know what they're talking about.
 
This is the problem. You're assuming there has to be a reason. The reason it's caused me so much grief is precisely because there wasn't. If there was any reason why it started it was because I was different due to being the 'new kid' and having a different accent. The continuation over years however was because it became fashionable. There is absolutely nothing in my personality or my social skills which singled me out for or caused the continuation of the bullying.

Take yourself, put yourself back in school and then just have your whole year group intermittently turn on you when it suits. You've not done anything to bring it on, you were just unfortunately the one who drew the short straw. That's the cut and shut of it, as that's how it was for me. It's not even anything to do with being able to fight back or not, because it becomes pretty irrelevent when it's a whole year group constantly doing it.

Now, I'll only ask this once. It was very painful for me to write the above and I only did so as to possibly help someone, somehow. I do not want people trying to turn this back on me. You are all fundamentally ignorant of the facts; you don't know me as a person then or now and you certainly weren't there to witness the events. I'd appreciate it if you all just back the **** off because it's still a sore spot and I'm only going to react badly. There's only so much I can take of trying to explain something for others who are completely idiotic of the reality to say "No you're wrong." and having to repeat myself. I've now reached that quota. This thread isn't about me, so stop.

Hey I really apolgise for sounding ruder than i probably meant, but that was the reason pal, if you had an accent, that's all it takes. You were different. Yes kids are spiteful at times, there's no reason for it..Fortunately 99% grow out of it when we mature. Girls worse than boys in matter of fact.. Sorry you went through all that.. I didn't mean to call you an oddball, that was probably a little too disrespectful.. Yes there are odd balls and maybe you were one and maybe not, it but you are correct I am wrong to assume. kids are complicated and bullying is a part of growing up.
 
And yes, they were all completely immature dicks and I wouldn't play their games. In all the apologies I've had since, the other party has always mentioned how they were immature. It was almost like they were trying to be my friend and to 'play' with me daily, but it always got out of hand. A bit of roughing around would turn into everyone else running over to have a kick or jump on me too. Started off innocent enough, always got out of hand.

Same with me. It's really frustrating, when you tell them where the line is, and they still cross it.

Then I lash out, then they're like "What is your problem? You're such a psycho! Can't you take a joke?"
 
Hey I really apolgise for sounding ruder than i probably meant, but that was the reason pal, if you had an accent, that's all it takes. You were different. Yes kids are spiteful at times, there's no reason for it..Fortunately 99% grow out of it when we mature. Girls worse than boys in matter of fact.. Sorry you went through all that.. I didn't mean to call you an oddball, that was probably a little too disrespectful.. Yes there are odd balls and maybe you were one and maybe not, it but you are correct I am wrong to assume. kids are complicated and bullying is a part of growing up.

I was different for all of five minutes, yes. New kids come and go all the time. The starting of it is normal, I get the psychology behind that. However, it's the fact it never stopped that confuses me. It just carried on and on and on. As I said, people got so used to it, it was just 'fashionable'. At this point, it had nothing to do with whatever it was that originally caused it. I was the victim of some weird postive-feedback in group-dynamic.

Same with me. It's really frustrating, when you tell them where the line is, and they still cross it.

Then I lash out, then they're like "What is your problem? You're such a psycho! Can't you take a joke?"

Exactly.

The other kids just didn't ever realise where the boundaries were. Or that they did, but they still chose to cross them.
 
It's not just me, which is the point you're all missing.

My friends from school have told me it wasn't me.

Those that 'picked' on me, told me it wasn't me.

I know it wasn't me.

The only people who seem to think it was me were people on the internet who quite frankly, weren't there and don't know what they're talking about.

If you didn't selectively quote him there, you wouldn't have needed to make that post. Seems to me that you want to think it was a certain way and that's it.
 
I'd have to say fighting back is the one most sure way of stopping bullying in its tracks.
i was bullied all through junior school up until the last yeah ,i always tried to just let it wash of my back but i snapped and head butted him and managed to break his nose teachers dragged him of bawling his eyes out and i got detention but as most of the kids from that school went to same secondary school after i was never bothered again.
 
If you didn't selectively quote him there, you wouldn't have needed to make that post. Seems to me that you want to think it was a certain way and that's it.

I've said this already: I've had a long, long, long time to think about every aspect of this and when it comes down to it, this really is the truthful conclusion.

As I said earlier, no more. This thread is not about me and I've grown tired of having to fight a corner that should not even be under attack. Back off.
 
I've said this already: I've had a long, long, long time to think about every aspect of this and when it comes down to it, this really is the truthful conclusion.

As I said earlier, no more. This thread is not about me and I've grown tired of having to fight a corner that should not even be under attack. Back off.

But you're choosing to fight and telling you're self you're fighting in the corner.

You keep saying it wasn't about who you were or anything you did, and disagree with people who say the same thing. It's been said loads of times now, some kids are just horrible, they don't need a reason.

Why would you even consider beleiving their reasons for bullying you anyway? They bullied you and you hated them, yet have chosen to beleive that that it wasn't something about you that they picked up on?

I'm not saying they did pick up on something about you, but then again they could have invented a reason and claimed there was none.

You are not under attack, but you're coming accross like that's what you're convincing yourself of.
 
I'd have to say fighting back is the one most sure way of stopping bullying in its tracks.
i was bullied all through junior school up until the last yeah ,i always tried to just let it wash of my back but i snapped and head butted him and managed to break his nose teachers dragged him of bawling his eyes out and i got detention but as most of the kids from that school went to same secondary school after i was never bothered again.

This is how it is. I did the same thing, except just not as brutal. I was extremely passive in school, didn't let any one really get to me or anything. This one group of kids did have a go a lot, but I knew exactly what they were up to, it never really bothered me until the last day of school where they tried to gang up on me all at once, I just went for their "ring leader", one punch to the face and he was on the floor crying.

I had loads of kids coming up to me that day saying they were made up to finally see some one do something about him.

This kid had been bullying people for a long time, stealing stuff off them and threatening them.
 
But you're choosing to fight and telling you're self you're fighting in the corner.

You keep saying it wasn't about who you were or anything you did, and disagree with people who say the same thing. It's been said loads of times now, some kids are just horrible, they don't need a reason.

Why would you even consider beleiving their reasons for bullying you anyway? They bullied you and you hated them, yet have chosen to beleive that that it wasn't something about you that they picked up on?

I'm not saying they did pick up on something about you, but then again they could have invented a reason and claimed there was none.

You are not under attack, but you're coming accross like that's what you're convincing yourself of.

No, I posted some vulnerable information to try and potentially help someone and I'm now having people point the finger and me and try and make out that I was the one to blame. This is not acceptable and is why I'm 'fighting my corner'.

You need to understand that this is very sore territory for me. If someone's going to turn around and suggest that I brought years of abuse on myself - even if meant objectively or sympathetically - I know they're wrong and cannot let that lie. I don't for a second think any of you are out to get me, but I do think your conclusions about my situation are incorrect and it's why I've addressed them.

The part in bold sums it up for me.
 
I'm fully aware of what it is.

A child, able to get one in under 3 minutes?

I'm sorry but did you grow up in some American ghetto? :confused:
My word how ignorant are you. Haven't you been watching the news? :eek:

And I can tell you, there's a lot more stuff going on which doesn't get shown on the news.
 
I'm fully aware of the iceberg that is crime.

I still however, struggle to get my head round a what "13" year old being able to get a automatic pistol in "under 3 minutes", that's three whole minutes.

Gun crime in this country is still low compared to elsewhere :)

Really Asim? Does your bum get upset at the amount of **** that comes out of your mouth? :p
 
Huh? Just because you couldn't get hold of a gun at 13 and because gun crime is low compared to elsewhere, doesn't mean a 13 year old cant get hold of a gun. That logic is ridiculous.
 
In under 3 minutes :confused:

From saying you're going to get a gun - weapon in hand in under 3 minutes as a 13 year old child.

You grow up in drug torn Columbian part of London?

3 minutes - lol
 
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